|No friends a friend till [he shall] prove a friend.|
Beaumont and FletcherThe Faithful Friends. Act III. Sc. 3. L. 50.
| It is better to avenge a friend than to mourn for him.|
|Friend, of my infinite dreams|
Little enough endures;
Little howeer it seems,
It is yours, all yours.
Arthur BensonThe Gift.
| I have loved my friends as I do virtue, my soul, my God.|
Sir Thomas BrowneReligio Medici. Pt. II. Sec. V.
| Now with my friend I desire not to share or participate, but to engross his sorrows, that, by making them mine own, I may more easily discuss them; for in mine own reason, and within myself, I can command that which I cannot entreat without myself, and within the circle of another.|
Sir Thomas BrowneReligio Medici. Pt. II. Sec. V.
| Let my hand,|
This hand, lie in your ownmy own true friend;
Aprile! Hand-in-hand with you, Aprile!
Robert BrowningParacelsus. Sc. 5.
| There is no man so friendless but what he can find a friend sincere enough to tell him disagreeable truths.|
Bulwer-LyttonWhat Will He Do With It? Bk. II. Ch. XIV.
|We twa hae run about the braes,|
And pud the gowans fine.
BurnsAuld Lang Syne.
|His ancient, trusty, drouthy crony,|
Tam loed him like a vera brither
They had been fou for weeks thegither!
BurnsTam o Shanter.
|Ah! were I severd from thy side,|
Where were thy friend and who my guide?
Years have not seen, Time shall not see
The hour that tears my soul from thee.
ByronBride of Abydos. Canto I. St. 11.
|Twas sung, how they were lovely in their lives,|
And in their deaths had not divided been.
CampbellGertrude of Wyoming. Pt. III. St. 33.
|Give me the avowed, the erect, the manly foe;|
Bold I can meetperhaps may turn his blow;
But of all plagues, good Heaven, thy wrath can send,
Save, save, oh! save me from the candid friend.
George CanningNew Morality.
|Greatly his foes he dreads, but more his friends,|
He hurts me most who lavishly commends.
ChurchillThe Apology. L. 19.
|Friends I have made, whom Envy must commend,|
But not one foe whom I would wish a friend.
ChurchillConference. L. 297.
|Amicus est tanquam alter idem.|
A friend is, as it were, a second self.
CiceroDe Amicitia. XXI. 80. (Adapted.)
| You must therefore love me, myself, and not my circumstances, if we are to be real friends.|
CiceroDe Finibus. Yonges trans.
| Our very best friends have a tincture of jealousy even in their friendship; and when they hear us praised by others, will ascribe it to sinister and interested motives if they can.|
C. C. ColtonLacon. P. 80.
|Soyons amis, Cinna, cest moi qui ten convie.|
Let us be friends, Cinna, it is I who invite you to be so.
CorneilleCinna. V. 3.
|I would not enter on my list of friends|
(Though graced with polishd manners and fine sense,
Yet wanting sensibility) the man
Who needlessly sets foot upon a worm.
CowperThe Task. Bk. VI. L. 560.
| She that asks|
Her dear five hundred friends, contemns them all,
And hates their coming.
CowperThe Task. Bk. II. L. 642.
|The man that hails you Tom or Jack,|
And proves by thumps upon your back
How he esteems your merit,
Is such a friend, that one had need
Be very much his friend indeed
To pardon or to bear it.
CowperOn Friendship. 169.
|Le sort fait les parents, le choix fait les amis.|
Chance makes our parents, but choice makes our friends.
|Les amisces parents que lon se fait soi-même.|
Friends, those relations that one makes for ones self.
| Walr, my boy, replied the captain; in the Proverbs of Solomon you will find the following words: May we never want a friend in need, nor a bottle to give him! When found, make a note of.|
DickensDombey and Son. Vol. I. Ch. XV.
|Be kind to my remains; and O defend,|
Against your judgment, your departed friend.
DrydenEpistle to Congreve. L. 72.
|The poor make no new friends;|
But oh, they love the better still
The few our Father sends.
Lady DufferinLament of the Irish Emigrant.
| Forsake not an old friend, for the new is not comparable unto him. A new friend is as new wine: when it is old thou shalt drink it with pleasure.|
Ecclesiasticus. IX. 10.
| The fallying out of faithful frends is the reunyng of love.|
Richard EdwardsThe Paradise of Dainty Devices. No. 42. St. 1.
| Animals are such agreeable friendsthey ask no questions, they pass no criticisms.|
George EliotMr. Gilfils Love-Story. Ch. VII.
|Best friend, my well-spring in the wilderness!|
George EliotThe Spanish Gypsy. Bk. III.
|Friend more divine than all divinities.|
George EliotThe Spanish Gypsy. Bk. IV.
| To act the part of a true friend requires more conscientious feeling than to fill with credit and complacency any other station or capacity in social life.|
Mrs. EllisPictures of Private Life. Second Series. The Pains of Pleasing. Ch. IV.
|A day for toil, an hour for sport,|
But for a friend is life too short.
EmersonConsiderations by the Way.
| Our friends early appear to us as representatives of certain ideas, which they never pass or exceed. They stand on the brink of the ocean of thought and power, but they never take a single step that would bring them there.|
EmersonEssays. Of Experience.
|The only way to have a friend is to be one.|
EmersonEssays. Of Friendship.
|Tis thus that on the choice of friends|
Our good or evil name depends.
GayOld Woman and Her Cats. Pt. I.
|An open foe may prove a curse,|
But a pretended friend is worse.
GayShepherds Dog and the Wolf. L. 33.
|Wer nicht die Welt in seinen Freunden sieht|
Verdient nicht, dass die Welt von ihm erfahre.
He who does not see the whole world in his friends, does not deserve that the world should hear of him.
GoetheTorquato Tasso. I. 3. 68.
|He cast off his friends, as a huntsman his pack;|
For he knew, when he pleasd, he could whistle them back.
GoldsmithRetaliation. L. 107.
|Dear lost companions of my tuneful art,|
Dear as the light that visits these sad eyes,
Dear as the ruddy drops that warm my heart.
GrayThe Bard. St. 3.
|A favourite has no friend.|
GrayOn a Favourite Cat Drowned. St. 6.
| We never know the true value of friends. While they live, we are too sensitive of their faults; when we have lost them, we only see their virtues.|
J. C. and A. W. HareGuesses at Truth.
|Devout, yet cheerful; pious, not austere;|
To others lenient, to himself sincere.
J. M. HarveyOn a Friend.
| Before you make a friend eat a bushel of salt with him.|
|For my boyhoods friend hath fallen, the pillar of my trust,|
The true, the wise, the beautiful, is sleeping in the dust.
HillardOn Death of Motley.
|Two friends, two bodies with one soul inspird.|
HomerIliad. Bk. XVI. L. 267. Popes trans.
|Dulcis inexpertis cultura potentis amici;|
To have a great man for an intimate friend seems pleasant to those who have never tried it; those who have, fear it.
HoraceEpistles. I. 18. 86.
|True friends appear less movd than counterfeit.|
HoraceOf the Art of Poetry. L. 486. Wentworth Dillons trans.
| The new is older than the old;|
And newest friend is oldest friend in this:
That, waiting him, we longest grieved to miss
One thing we sought.
Helen Hunt JacksonMy New Friend.
| True happiness|
Consists not in the multitude of friends,
But in the worth and choice. Nor would I have
Virtue a popular regard pursue:
Let them be good that love me, though but few.
Ben JonsonCynthias Revels. Act III. Sc. 2.
|Tis sweet, as year by year we lose|
Friends out of sight, in faith to muse
How grows in Paradise our store.
KebleBurial of the Dead. St. 11.
| One faithful Friend is enough for a mans self, tis much to meet with such an one, yet we cant have too many for the sake of others.|
La BruyèreThe Characters or Manners of the Present Age. Ch. V.
|Friend of my bosom, thou more than a brother,|
Why wert not thou born in my fathers dwelling?
LambThe Old Familiar Faces.
| I desire so to conduct the affairs of this administration that if at the end, when I come to lay down the reins of power, I have lost every other friend on earth, I shall at least have one friend left, and that friend shall be down inside of me.|
LincolnReply to Missouri Committee of Seventy. (1864).
|O friend! O best of friends! Thy absence more|
Than the impending night darkens the landscape oer!
LongfellowChristus. Pt. II. The Golden Legend. I.
|Yes, we must ever be friends; and of all who offer you friendship|
Let me be ever the first, the truest, the nearest and dearest!
LongfellowCourtship of Miles Standish. Pt. VI. Priscilla. L. 72.
|Alas! to-day I would give everything|
To see a friends face, or hear a voice
That had the slightest tone of comfort in it.
LongfellowJudas Maccabæus. Act IV. Sc. 3. L. 32.
| My designs and labors|
And aspirations are my only friends.
LongfellowMasque of Pandora. Tower of Prometheus on Mount Caucasus. Pt. III. L. 74.
| Ah, how good it feels!|
The hand of an old friend.
LongfellowNew England Tragedies.
John Endicott. Act IV. Sc. 1.
|Quien te conseja encobria de tus amigos.|
Engañar te quiere assaz, y sin testigos.
He who advises you to be reserved to your friends wishes to betray you without witnesses.
Manuel Conde Lucanor.
| Let the falling out of friends be a renewing of affection.|
|Women, like princes, find few real friends.|
Lord LyttletonAdvice to a Lady. St. 2.
|Friends are like melons. Shall I tell you why?|
To find one good, you must a hundred try.
Claude MermetEpigram on Friends.
|As we sail through life towards death,|
Bound unto the same portheaven,
Friend, what years could us divide?
D. M. MulockThirty Years. A Christmas Blessing.
|We have been friends together|
In sunshine and in shade.
Caroline E. S. NortonWe Have Been Friends.
|Cætera fortunæ, non mea, turba fuit.|
The rest of the crowd were friends of my fortune, not of me.
OvidTristium. I. 5. 34.
|Prosperity makes friends and adversity tries them.|
Idea found in PlautusStich. IV. 1. 16. OvidEp. ex Ponto. II. 3. 23. OvidTrist. I. 9. 5. EnniusCic. Amicit. Ch. XVII. MetastastioOlimpiade. III. 3. HerderDenksprüche. CalderonSecret in Words. Act III. Sc. 3. MenanderEx Incest. Comoed. P. 272. AristotleEthics VIII. 4. EuripidesHecuba. L. 1226.
|For all are friends in heaven, all faithful friends;|
And many friendships in the days of time
Begun, are lasting here, and growing still.
PollokCourse of Time. Bk. V. L. 336.
|Friends given by God in mercy and in love;|
My counsellors, my comforters, and guides;
My joy in grief, my second bliss in joy;
Companions of my young desires; in doubt
My oracles; my wings in high pursuit.
Oh! I remember, and will neer forget
Our meeting spots, our chosen sacred hours;
Our burning words, that utterd all the soul,
Our faces beaming with unearthly love;
Sorrow with sorrow sighing, hope with hope
Exulting, heart embracing heart entire.
PollokCourse of Time. Bk. V. L. 315.
|Absent or dead, still let a friend be dear,|
(A sigh the absent claims, the dead a tear.)
PopeEpistle to Robert, Earl of Oxford.
|Trust not yourself; but your defects to know,|
Make use of evry friendand evry foe.
PopeEssay on Criticism. L. 214.
|Ah, friend! to dazzle let the vain design;|
To raise the thought and touch the heart be thine.
PopeMoral Essays. Ep. II. L. 248.
| A man that hath friends must show himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.|
Proverbs. XVIII. 24.
|Faithful are the wounds of a friend.|
Proverbs. XXVII. 6.
| Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.|
Proverbs. XXVII. 17.
|Mine own familiar friend.|
Psalms. XLI. 9.
|There is no treasure the which may be compared unto a faithful friend;|
Gold soone decayeth, and worldly wealth consumeth, and wasteth in the winde;
But love once planted in a perfect and pure minde indureth weale and woe;
The frownes of fortune, come they never so unkinde, cannot the same overthrowe.
Roxburghe Ballads. The Brides Good-Morrow. Ed. by John Payne Collier.
|Dear is my friendyet from my foe, as from my friend, comes good:|
My friend shows what I can do, and my foe what I should.
SchillerVotive Tablets. Friend and Foe.
| Keep thy friend|
Under thy own lifes key.
Alls Well That Ends Well. Act I. Sc. 1. L. 75.
| We still have slept together,|
Rose at an instant, learnd, playd, eat together;
And wheresoeer we went, like Junos swans,
Still we went coupled and inseparable.
As You Like It. Act I. Sc. 3. L. 75.
|Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,|
Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel;
But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
Of each new-hatchd, unfledgd comrade.
Hamlet. Act I. Sc. 3. L. 59.
|For who not needs shall never lack a friend,|
And who in want a hollow friend doth try,
Directly seasons him his enemy.
Hamlet. Act III. Sc. 2. L. 217.
|Where you are liberal of your loves and counsels|
Be sure you be not loose; for those you make friends
And give your hearts to, when they once perceive
The least rub in your fortunes, fall away
Like water from ye, never found again
But where they mean to sink ye.
Henry VIII. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 126.
|As dear to me as are the ruddy drops|
That visit my sad heart.
Julius Cæsar. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 290.
|A friend should bear his friends infirmities,|
But Brutus makes mine greater than they are.
Julius Cæsar. Act IV. Sc. 3. L. 86.
| To wail friends lost|
Is not by much so wholesomeprofitable,
As to rejoice at friends but newly found.
Loves Labours Lost. Act V. Sc. 2. L. 759.
|I would be friends with you and have your love.|
Merchant of Venice. Act I. Sc. 3. L. 139.
|Two lovely berries moulded on one stem:|
So, with two seeming bodies, but one heart.
Midsummer Nights Dream. Act III. Sc. 2. L. 211.
|Words are easy, like the wind;|
Faithful friends are hard to find.
Attributed to ShakespearePassionate Pilgrim. In Notes and Queries, June, 1918. P. 174, it is suggested that the lines are by Barnfield, being a piracy from Jaggards publication (1599), a volume containing little of Shakespeare, the majority being pieces by Marlowe, Raleigh, Barnfield, and others.
|I am not of that feather to shake off|
My friend when he must need me.
Timon of Athens. Act I. Sc. 1. L. 100.
| For by these|
Shall I try friends: you shall perceive how you
Mistake my fortunes; I am wealthy in my friends.
Timon of Athens. Act II. Sc. 2. L. 191.
|To hear him speak, and sweetly smile|
You were in Paradise the while.
Sir Philip SidneyFriends Passion for his Astrophel. Attributed also to Spenser and Roydon.
| For to cast away a virtuous friend, I call as bad as to cast away ones own life, which one loves best.|
Sophoclesdipus Tyrannis. Oxford trans. Revised by Buckley.
| For whoever knows how to return a kindness he has received must be a friend above all price.|
SophoclesPhiloctetes. Oxford trans. Revised by Buckley.
|Tis something to be willing to commend;|
But my best praise is, that I am your friend.
SoutherneTo Mr. Congreve on the Old Bachelor. Last lines.
|Its an owercome sooth fo age an youth,|
And it brooks wi nae denial,
That the dearest friends are the auldest friends,
And the young are just on trial.
StevensonUnderwoods. Its an Owercome Sooth.
|Amici vitium ni feras, prodis tuum.|
Unless you bear with the faults of a friend you betray your own.
|Amicum lædere ne joco quidem licet.|
A friend must not be injured, even in jest.
|Secrete amicos admone, lauda palam.|
Reprove your friends in secret, praise them openly.
| A good man is the best friend, and therefore soonest to be chosen, longer to be retained; and indeed, never to be parted with, unless he cease to be that for which he was chosen.|
Jeremy TaylorA Discourse of the Nature, Measures, and Offices of Friendship.
| Choose for your friend him that is wise and good, and secret and just, ingenious and honest, and in those things which have a latitude, use your own liberty.|
Jeremy TaylorDiscourse of the Nature, Measures, and Offices of Friendship.
| When I choose my friend, I will not stay till I have received a kindness; but I will choose such a one that can do me many if I need them; but I mean such kindnesses which make me wiser, and which make me better.|
Jeremy TaylorDiscourse of the Nature, Measures, and Offices of Friendship.
|Then came your new friend: you began to change|
I saw it and grieved.
TennysonPrincess. IV. L. 279.
|Ego meorum solus sum meus.|
Of my friends I am the only one I have left.
TerencePhormio. IV. 1. 21.
Faithful Achates (companion of Æneas).
VergilÆneid. VI. 158.
| God save me from my friends, I can protect myself from my enemies.|
Attributed to Marshal de Villars on taking leave of Louis XIV.
| A slender acquaintance with the world must convince every man, that actions, not words, are the true criterion of the attachment of friends; and that the most liberal professions of good-will are very far from being the surest marks of it.|
George WashingtonSocial Maxims. Friendship. Actions, not Words.
|I have friends in Spirit Land,|
Not shadows in a shadowy band,
Not others but themselves are they,
And still I think of them the same
As when the Masters summons came.
| Poets, like friends to whom you are in debt, you hate.|
WycherleyThe Plain Dealer. Prologue.
|And friend received with thumps upon the back.|
YoungLove of Fame. Satire I.
|A friend is worth all hazards we can run.|
YoungNight Thoughts. Night II. L. 571.
|A foe to God was neer true friend to man,|
Some sinister intent taints all he does.
YoungNight Thoughts. Night VIII. L. 704.