| He that hath a wife and children hath given hostages to fortune; for they are impediments to great enterprises, either of virtue or mischief.|
BaconEssays. Of Marriage and Single Life.
|No jealousy their dawn of love oercast,|
Nor blasted were their wedded days with strife;
Each season looked delightful as it past,
To the fond husband and the faithful wife.
James BeattieThe Minstrel. Bk. I. St. 14.
| To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness, and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.|
Book of Common Prayer. Solemnization of Matrimony.
|To love, cherish, and to obey.|
Book of Common Prayer. Solemnization of Matrimony.
| With this ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow.|
Book of Common Prayer. Solemnization of Matrimony.
| He that said it was not good for man to be alone, placed the celibate amongst the inferior states of perfection.|
BoyleWorks. Vol. VI. P. 292. Letter from Mr. Evelyn.
|Id rather die Maid, and lead apes in Hell|
Than wed an inmate of Silenus Cell.
Richard BrathwaitEnglish Gentelman and Gentelwoman (1640), in a supplemental tract, The Turtles Triumph. Phrase lead apes in hell found in his Drunken Barnabys Journal. Bessy Bell. MassingerCity Madam. Act II. Sc. 2. ShirleySchool of Compliments. (1637).
|Cursed be the man, the poorest wretch in life,|
The crouching vassal, to the tyrant wife,
Who has no will but by her high permission;
Who has not sixpence but in her possession;
Who must to her his dear friends secret tell;
Who dreads a curtain lecture worse than hell.
Were such the wife had fallen to my part,
Id break her spirit or Id break her heart.
BurnsThe Henpecked Husband.
| Marriage and hanging go by destiny; matches are made in heaven.|
BurtonAnatomy of Melancholy. Pt. III. Sec. II. Mem. 5. Subs. 5.
|Cause grace and virtue are within|
Prohibited degrees of kin;
And therfore no true Saint allows,
They shall be sufferd to espouse.
ButlerHudibras. Pt. III. Canto I. L. 1,293.
|For talk six times with the same single lady,|
And you may get the wedding dresses ready.
ByronDon Juan. Canto XII. St. 59.
|There was no great disparity of years,|
Though much in temper; but they never clashd,
They moved like stars united in their spheres,
Or like the Rhône by Lemans waters washd,
Where mingled and yet separate appears
The river from the lake, all bluely dashd
Through the serene and placid glassy deep,
Which fain would lull its river-child to sleep.
ByronDon Juan. Canto XIV. St. 87.
|Una muger no tiene.|
Valor para el consejo, y la conviene Casarse.
A woman needs a stronger head than her own for counselshe should marry.
CalderonEl Purgatorio de Sans Patricio. III. 4.
|To sit, happy married lovers; Phillis trifling with a plovers|
Egg, while Corydon uncovers with a grace the Sally Lunn,
Or dissects the lucky pheasantthat, I think, were passing pleasant
As I sit alone at present, dreaming darkly of a dun.
CalverleyIn the Gloaming. (Parody on Mrs. Browning.)
|Weve been together now for forty years,|
An it dont seem a day too much;
There aint a lady livin in the land
As Id swop for my dear old Dutch.
Albert ChevalierMy Old Dutch.
| Man and wife,|
Coupled together for the sake of strife.
ChurchillRosciad. L. 1,005.
| Oh! how many torments lie in the small circle of a wedding ring.|
| Prima societas in ipso conjugio est: proxima in liberis; deinde una domus, communia omnia.|
The first bond of society is marriage; the next, our children; then the whole family and all things in common.
CiceroDe Officiis. I. 17.
|Thus grief still treads upon the heels of pleasure,|
Marryd in haste, we may repent at leisure.
CongreveThe Old Bachelor. Act V. Sc. 1.
|Misses! the tale that I relate|
This lesson seems to carry
Choose not alone a proper mate,
But proper time to marry.
CowperPairing Time Anticipated. (Moral.)
|Wedlock, indeed, hath oft compared been|
To public feasts, where meet a public rout,
Where they that are without would fain go in,
And they that are within would fain go out.
Sir John DaviesContention Betwixt a Wife, etc.
|At length cried she, Ill marry:|
What should I tarry for?
I may lead apes in hell forever.
DibdinTack and Tack.
|The wictim o connubiality.|
DickensPickwick Papers. Ch. XX.
|Every woman should marryand no man.|
Benj. DisraeliLothair. Ch. XXX.
| Is not marriage an open question, when it is alleged, from the beginning of the world, that such as are in the institution wish to get out, and such as are out wish to get in.|
EmersonRepresentative Men. Montaigne.
| Magis erit animorum quam corporum conjugium.|
The wedlock of minds will be greater than that of bodies.
ErasmusProcus et Puella.
|The joys of marriage are the heaven on earth,|
Lifes paradise, great princess, the souls quiet,
Sinews of concord, earthly immortality,
Eternity of pleasures.
John FordThe Broken Heart. Act II. Sc. 2. L. 102.
| A bachelor|
May thrive by observation on a little,
A single lifes no burthen: but to draw
In yokes is chargeable, and will require
A double maintenance.
John FordThe Fancies Chaste and Noble. Act I. Sc. 3. L. 82.
| Where theres marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.|
Benj. FranklinPoor Richard. (1734).
|My son is my son till he have got him a wife,|
But my daughters my daughter all the days of her life.
Proverb from Fullers Gnomologia. (1732).
| They that marry ancient people, merely in expectation to bury them, hang themselves, in hope that one will come and cut the halter.|
FullerHoly and Profane States. Bk. III. Of Marriage.
| You are of the society of the wits and railers;
the surest sign is, you are an enemy to marriage, the common butt of every railer.|
GarrickThe Country Girl. Act II. 1. Play taken from Wycherlys Country Wife.
|The husbands sullen, dogged, shy,|
The wife grows flippant in reply;
He loves command and due restriction,
And she as well likes contradiction.
She never slavishly submits;
Shell have her way, or have her fits.
He his way tugs, she tother draws;
The man grows jealous and with cause.
GayCupid, Hymen, and Plutus.
|It is not good that the man should be alone.|
Genesis. II. 18.
|Bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.|
Genesis. II. 23.
| Denn ein wackerer Mann verdient ein begätertes Mädchen.|
For a brave man deserves a well-endowed girl.
GoetheHermann und Dorothea. III. 19.
|So, with decorum all things carryd;|
Miss frownd, and blushd, and then wasmarried.
GoldsmithThe Double Transformation. St. 3.
|Le divorce est le sacrement de ladultere.|
Divorce is the sacrament of adultery.
G. F. Guichard.
| An unhappy gentleman, resolving to wed nothing short of perfection, keeps his heart and hand till both get so old and withered that no tolerable woman will accept them.|
HawthorneMosses from an Old Manse.
| I should like to see any kind of a man, distinguishable from a gorilla, that some good and even pretty woman could not shape a husband out of.|
HolmesThe Professor at the Breakfast Table.
|Yet while my Hector still survives, I see|
My father, mother, brethren, all in thee.
HomerIliad. Bk. VI. L. 544. Popes trans.
|Andromache! my souls far better part.|
HomerIliad. Bk. VI. L. 624. Popes trans.
|Felices ter et amplius|
Quos irrupta tenet copula, nec malis
Suprema citius solvet amor die.
Happy and thrice happy are they who enjoy an uninterrupted union, and whose love, unbroken by any complaints, shall not dissolve until the last day.
HoraceCarmina. I. 13. 17.
| Marriages would in general be as happy, if not more so, if they were all made by the Lord Chancellor.|
Samuel JohnsonBoswells Life. (1776).
| I have met with women whom I really think would like to be married to a Poem, and to be given away by a Novel.|
KeatsLetters to Fanny Brawne. Letter II.
|Ay, marriage is the life-long miracle,|
The self-begetting wonder, daily fresh.
Charles KingsleySaints Tragedy. Act II. Sc. 9.
|You should indeed have longer tarried|
By the roadside before you married.
Walter Savage LandorTo One Ill-mated.
|As unto the bow the cord is,|
So unto the man is woman;
Though she bonds him she obeys him,
Though she draws him, yet she follows,
Useless each without the other!
LongfellowHiawatha. Pt. X. L. 1.
|Sure the shovel and tongs|
To each other belongs.
Samuel LoverWidow Machree.
| Take heede, Camilla, that seeking al the Woode for a streight sticke, you chuse not at the last a crooked staffe.|
|Marriage is destinie, made in heaven.|
Lylys Mother Bombie. Same in ClarkeParæmologia. P. 230. (Ed. 1639).
|Cling closer, closer, life to life,|
Cling closer, heart to heart;
The time will come, my own wed Wife,
When you and I must part!
Let nothing break our band but Death,
For in the world above
Tis the breaker Death that soldereth
Our ring of Wedded Love.
Gerald MasseyOn a Wedding Day. St. 11.
| And, to all married men, be this a caution,|
Which they should duly tender as their life,
Neither to doat too much, nor doubt a wife.
MassingerPicture. Act V. Sc. 3.
|The sum of all that makes a just man happy|
Consists in the well choosing of his wife:
And there, well to discharge it, does require
Equality of years, of birth, of fortune;
For beauty being poor, and not cried up
By birth or wealth, can truly mix with neither.
And wealth, when theres such difference in years,
And fair descent, must make the yoke uneasy.
MassingerNew Way to Pay Old Debts. Act IV. Sc. 1.
| What therefore God hath joined together let not man put asunder.|
Matthew. XIX. 6.
|Hail, wedded love, mysterious law; true source|
Of human offspring.
MiltonParadise Lost. Bk. IV. L. 750.
| To the nuptial bower|
I led her, blushing like the morn; all Heaven,
And happy constellations on that hour
Shed their selectest influence; the earth
Gave sign of gratulation, and each hill;
Joyous the birds; fresh gales and gentle airs
Whisperd it to the woods, and from their wings
Flung rose, flung odours from the spicy shrub.
MiltonParadise Lost. Bk. VIII. L. 510.
|Therefore Gods universal law|
Gave to the man despotic power
Over his female in due awe,
Not from that right to part an hour,
Smile she or lour.
MiltonSamson Agonistes. L. 1,053.
|Par un prompt désespoir souvent on se marie.|
Quon sen repent après tout le temps de sa vie.
Men often marry in hasty recklessness and repent afterward all their lives.
MolièreLes Femmes Savantes. V. 5.
|Women when they marry buy a cat in the bag.|
MontaigneEssays. Bk. III. Ch. V.
| Il en advient ce qui se veoid aux cages; les oyseaux qui en sont dehors, desesperent dy entrer; et dun pareil soing en sortir, ceulx qui sont au dedans.|
It happens as one sees in cages: the birds which are outside despair of ever getting in, and those within are equally desirous of getting out.
MontaigneEssays. Bk. III. Ch. V.
|Theres a bliss beyond all that the minstrel has told,|
When two, that are linkd in one heavenly tie,
With heart never changing, and brow never cold,
Love on thro all ills, and love on till they die.
MooreLalla Rookh. Light of the Harem. St. 42.
|Drink, my jolly lads, drink with discerning,|
Wedlocks a lane where there is no turning;
Never was owl more blind than a lover,
Drink and be merry, lads, half seas over.
D. M. MulockMagnus and Morna. Sc. 3.
|Hac quoque de causa, si te proverbia tangunt,|
Mense malos Maio nubere vulgus ait.
For this reason, if you believe proverbs, let me tell you the common one: It is unlucky to marry in May.
OvidFasti. V. 489.
|Si qua voles apte nubere, nube pari.|
If thou wouldst marry wisely, marry thine equal.
OvidHeroides. IX. 32.
|Some dish more sharply spiced than this|
Milk-soup men call domestic bliss.
|The garlands fade, the vows are worn away;|
So dies her love, and so my hopes decay.
PopeAutumn. L. 70.
|Grave authors say, and witty poets sing,|
That honest wedlock is a glorious thing.
PopeJanuary and May. L. 21.
|There swims no goose so gray, but soon or late|
She finds some honest gander for her mate.
PopeWife of Bath. Her Prologue. From Chaucer. L. 98.
|Before I trust my Fate to thee,|
Or place my hand in thine,
Before I let thy Future give
Color and form to mine,
Before I peril all for thee,
Question thy soul to-night for me.
Adelaide Ann ProcterA Womans Question.
|A prudent wife is from the Lord.|
Proverbs. XIX. 14.
|Advice to persons about to marryDont.|
Punchs Almanack. (1845). Attributed to Henry Mayhew.
| Le mariage est comme une forteresse assiégée; ceux qui sont dehors veulent y entrer et ceux qui sont dedans en sortir.|
Marriage is like a beleaguered fortress; those who are without want to get in, and those within want to get out.
QuitardÉtudes sur les Proverbes Français. P. 102.
|Widowed wife and wedded maid.|
ScottThe Betrothed. Ch. XV.
|Marriage is a desperate thing.|
John SeldenTable Talk. Marriage.
| If you shall marry,|
You give away this hand, and that is mine;
You give away heavens vows, and those are mine;
You give away myself, which is known mine.
Alls Well That Ends Well. Act V. Sc. 3. L. 169.
| Men are April when they woo, December when they wed; maids are May when they are maids, but the sky changes when they are wives.|
As You Like It. Act IV. Sc. 1. L. 147.
|I will fasten on this sleeve of thine:|
Thou art an elm, my husband, I, a vine.
Comedy of Errors. Act II. Sc. 2. L. 175.
|Mens vows are womens traitors! All good seeming,|
By thy revolt, O husband, shall be thought
Put on for villany; not born where t grows,
But worn a bait for ladies.
Cymbeline. Act III. Sc. 4. L. 55.
|Ere yet the salt of most unrighteous tears|
Had left the flushing in her galled eyes,
Hamlet. Act I. Sc. 2. L. 154.
|The instances that second marriage move|
Are base respects of thrift, but none of love.
Hamlet. Act III. Sc. 2. L. 192.
|God, the best maker of all marriages,|
Combine your hearts in one.
Henry V. Act I. Sc. 2. L. 387.
|He is the half part of a blessed man,|
Left to be finished by such as she;
And she a fair divided excellence,
Whose fulness of perfection lies in him.
King John. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 437.
|A world-without-end bargain.|
Loves Labours Lost. Act V. Sc. 2. L. 799.
|Hanging and wiving goes by destiny.|
Merchant of Venice. Act II. Sc. 9. L. 83. Same in Schole House for Women. (1541).
|As are those dulcet sounds in break of day|
That creep into the dreaming bridegrooms ear
And summon him to marriage.
Merchant of Venice. Act III. Sc. 2. L. 51.
|Happiest of all, is, that her gentle spirit|
Commits itself to yours to be directed,
As from her lord, her governor, her king.
Merchant of Venice. Act III. Sc. 2. L. 162.
| I will marry her, sir, at your request; but if there be no great love in the beginning, yet heaven may decrease it upon better acquaintance * * * I hope, upon familiarity will grow more contempt: I will marry her; that I am freely dissolved, and dissolutely.|
Merry Wives of Windsor. Act I. Sc. 1. L. 253.
|But earthlier happy is the rose distilld,|
Than that which withring on the virgin thorn
Grows, lives and dies in single blessedness.
Midsummer Nights Dream. Act I. Sc. 1. L. 76.
| I would not marry her, though she were endowed with all that Adam had left him before he transgressed: she would have made Hercules have turned spit, yea, and have cleft his club to make the fire too. * * * I would to God some scholar would conjure her; for certainly, while she is here, a man may live as quiet in hell as in a sanctuary.|
Much Ado About Nothing. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 258.
| No, the world must be peopled. When I said, I would die a bachelor, I did not think I should live till I were married.|
Much Ado About Nothing. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 353.
| Let husbands know,|
Their wives have sense like them: they see, and smell,
And have their palates both for sweet and sour,
As husbands have.
Othello. Act IV. Sc. 3. L. 94.
|She is not well married that lives married long:|
But shes best married that dies married young.
Romeo and Juliet. Act IV. Sc. 5. L. 77.
|She is your treasure, she must have a husband;|
I must dance barefoot on her wedding day
And for your love to her lead apes in hell.
Taming of the Shrew. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 32.
|If she deny to wed, Ill crave the day|
When I shall ask the banns and when be married.
Taming of the Shrew. Act II. Sc. 1. L. 180.
| Who wooed in haste, and means to wed at leisure.|
Taming of the Shrew. Act III. Sc. 2. L. 11.
| She shall watch all night:|
And if she chance to nod Ill rail and brawl
And with the clamour keep her still awake.
This is the way to kill a wife with kindness.
Taming of the Shrew. Act IV. Sc. 1. L. 218.
|Thy husband * * * commits his body|
To painful labour, both by sea and land,
* * * * * *
And craves no other tribute at thy hands,
But love, fair looks, and true obedience;
Too little payment for so great a debt.
Taming of the Shrew. Act V. Sc. 2. L. 152.
| Let still the woman take|
An elder than herself: so wears she to him,
So sways she level in her husbands heart:
For, boy, however we do praise ourselves,
Our fancies are more giddy and unfirm,
More longing, wavering, sooner lost and worn
Than womens are.
Twelfth Night. Act II. Sc. 4. L. 29.
|Then let thy love be younger than thyself,|
Or thy affection cannot hold the bent:
For women are as roses, whose fair flower
Being once displayd, doth fall that very hour.
Twelfth Night. Act II. Sc. 4. L. 37.
|Now go with me and with this holy man|
Into the chantry by: there, before him,
And underneath that consecrated roof,
Plight me the full assurance of your faith.
Twelfth Night. Act IV. Sc. 3. L. 23.
| To disbelieve in marriage is easy: to love a married woman is easy; but to betray a comrade, to be disloyal to a host, to break the covenant of bread and salt, is impossible.|
Bernard ShawGetting Married.
| What God hath joined together no man shall ever put asunder: God will take care of that.|
Bernard ShawGetting Married.
| The whole world is strewn with snares, traps, gins and pitfalls for the capture of men by women.|
Bernard ShawEpistle Dedicatory to Man and Superman.
| Lastly no woman should marry a teetotaller, or a man who does not smoke. It is not for nothing that this ignoble tobagie as Michelet calls it, spreads all over the world.|
StevensonVirginibus Puerisque. Pt. I.
|Under this window in stormy weather|
I marry this man and woman together;
Let none but Him who rules the thunder
Put this man and woman asunder.
SwiftMarriage Service from His Chamber Window.
| The reason why so few marriages are happy is because young ladies spend their time in making nets, not in making cages.|
SwiftThoughts on Various Subjects.
| Celibate, like the fly in the heart of an apple, dwells in a perpetual sweetness, but sits alone, and is confined and dies in singularity.|
Jeremy TaylorSermon. XVII. The Marriage Ring. Pt. I.
|Marriages are made in Heaven.|
TennysonAylmers Field. L. 188.
|As the husband is the wife is; thou art mated with a clown,|
And the grossness of his nature will have weight to drag thee down.
TennysonLocksley Hall. St. 24.
| Remember, it is as easy to marry a rich woman as a poor woman.|
ThackerayPendennis. Bk. I. Ch. XXVIII.
| This I set down as a positive truth. A woman with fair opportunities and without a positive hump, may marry whom she likes.|
ThackerayVanity Fair. Ch. IV.
| What woman, however old, has not the bridal-favours and raiment stowed away, and packed in lavender, in the inmost cupboards of her heart?|
ThackerayVirginians. Bk. I. Ch. XXVIII.
|But happy they, the happiest of their kind!|
Whom gentler stars unite, and in one fate
Their Hearts, their Fortunes, and their Beings blend.
ThomsonSeasons. Spring. L. 1,111.
|Thrice happy is that humble pair,|
Beneath the level of all care!
Over whose heads those arrows fly
Of sad distrust and jealousy.
Edmund WallerOf the Marriage of the Dwarfs. L. 7.
| The happy married man dies in good stile at home, surrounded by his weeping wife and children. The old bachelor dont die at allhe sort of rots away, like a pollywogs tail.|
Artemus WardDraft in Baldinsville.
| Tis just like a summer bird cage in a garden: the birds that are without despair to get in, and the birds that are within despair, and are in a consumption, for fear they shall never get out.|
John WebsterWhite Devil. Act I. Sc. 2.
|Why do not words, and kiss, and solemn pledge,|
And nature that is kind in womans breast,
And reason that in man is wise and good,
And fear of Him who is a righteous Judge,
Why do not these prevail for human life,
To keep two hearts together, that began
Their spring-time with one love.
WordsworthExcursion. Bk. VI.
| Tis my maxim, hes a fool that marries; but hes a greater that does not marry a fool.|
WycherlyCountry Wife. Act I. Sc. 1. L. 502.
| You are of the society of the wits and railleurs
the surest sign is, since you are an enemy to marriage,for that, I hear, you hate as much as business or bad wine.|
|Body and soul, like peevish man and wife,|
United jar, and yet are loth to part.
YoungNight Thoughts. Night II. L. 175.