7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Book Review)

4230 Words Apr 10th, 2012 17 Pages
Habit 1: Be Proactive

According to Stephen Covey, the unique trait that we, people, are separated from animals is the ability to think about our very thought process or what we call, “self-awareness”. In the social mirror, it was stated that seeing our own selves is like facing the crazy mirror room in the carnival. Our reactions are based on the opinions, perceptions, and the paradigm of others about us. But self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we “see” ourselves – our self-paradigm, the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness. It affects not only our attitudes and behavior, but also how we see other people. There are three social maps or three theories of determinism widely accepted, independently or
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They are always in focused and they didn’t let their environment to empower them. They believe in Eleanor Roosevelt’s words, “No one can hurt you without your consent” or Gandhi’s principle which states, “They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.” Our response to what happened to us affects us more than what actually happened. We can choose to use difficult situations to build our character and develop the ability to better handle such situations in the future. Being proactive means assessing the situation and developing a positive response for it. We should expand our Circle of Influences not reduce it and focus on expanding our Circle of Concerns because proactive people do focus their efforts in the Circle of Influences.

Insights:

I have come to realized that self-awareness is very essential for us, human beings. It is a gift from our Creator that we should cherish and a possession that we should be proud of. It is the unique trait that separates us from animals. Because of this, we always have the freedom to choose, the power to choose the right response in a particular stimulus. Let’s take Frankl’s story as an inspiration. We must learn how to make difference. We must stand with our own beliefs. And our reactions and behaviors should not be affected by the environment around us. We must stop from being a reactive people, who keeps on blaming other people for their behavior.
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