Essay on A Change in the Way You Deal with Other People

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The short story"Aha Moment" by Julia Alvarez demonstrates that the point is not to pay back kindness but to pass it on. The story expresses the idea that simple acts of kindness can make a great impact on people both mentally and physically. It can turn frightening and tense situations into assurance and aplomb. In paragraph 8, it is stated," no one screamed,no one panicked. I could hear small pockets of soothing conversation everywhere." By holding the hands and by chatting about everyday life, the passengers emboldened each other and created an optimistic atmosphere. The author points out,"someone was comforting me and kept asking me,'Are you okay?" According to Julia if someone does something good and beneficial for you, you should pass

Observation is probably the biggest part of communication as you are using your own knowledge when getting to know someone and allowing them to feel comfortable around you and vice versa. When observing someone you observe their attitude, ability, body language and many other things and take all these into consideration when deciding on what is the best way to communicate with them. The most important thing when observing is taking it upon yourself not to judge them in any way.

* Give the person lots of encouragement and try not to dwell on things that do not go well.

Kindness comes in different forms, that can alter someone's day instantly. In “Enrique's Journey”, he witnesses kindness from several people in his time of ultimate weakness. Kindness in my life may not be that extreme, but it is appreciated. Even though giant acts of kindness aren't as prevalent as

Poor communication is often responsible for the hostile work setting, therefore it is preeminent of the employee to start with a respectful confrontation about the present work environment in a face to face meeting. In cases where respectful confrontation does not resolve the situation Robert Sutton suggest limiting contact with the jerk as much as possible.

listening that I have not thought of before. One important thing that Ms. Headlee had said was to not pretend that you’re listening when you actually aren’t. This is called pseudolistening and our book calls it “pretend listening” (Rothwell 150) Pseudolistening is when you are looking at someone while they are talking and responding with ”Mmm-hmm” or even saying “really” (Rothwell 150) It appears as though you are intently listening when in reality you are not. If you are doing this you are not only a bad listener but also disrespectful towards the person who is talking.

I don’t think many people truly take the time to appreciate the kindness they are given. For others, I believe they should understand how meaningful their compassion is.

person grow. Remember that words can hurt so please be nice to people. And most of all

By being shown kindness, I believe they will become jovial and want to share their excitement with even more people. This, in turn, will lead them to show kindness to someone else, creating a ripple effect. For example, complimenting someone on their clothes may cause them to feel loved and compliment someone else. This could leave a lasting impact on their minds and change the way that they view others and themselves. In addition, this could also lead them to finding and accepting Jesus Christ into their lives. While we may never know how much our kindness really meant, if a simple act such as this leads to someone finding the lord and accepting him into their heart then I believe it is worth it. After all, doesn’t God show us kindness every

their crisis. In these conversations it can be helpful to give them methods and skills that they

* One thing is always sure when you 're a nice person; people will tend to reciprocate in your time of need because as individuals, we 're bound to face challenges, disappointments and looses at some point in our lives. When you 've been nice to others during their struggles, it 's more likely they will return the favor during your hard times. That is just human nature, most of us feel really motivated to help those that have helped us, i am a very sure bet in this regard. It’s an aspect of me that i strive to do more often because i feel that individual has slightly changed my world with his acts of kindness. This is significantly valuable and it makes us feel important which is something we all want as individuals.

Treating others with kindness benefits everyone involved. For example, in the story “Angel in Disguise”, the author states "We'll keep her a day or two longer; she is so weak and helpless," said Mrs. Joe Thompson…” She was starting to open up to Maggie and realize that she loves her as if she were her own child. This helps lift Mrs. Thompson’s sprits and shows her that she can feel feelings. This shows how being kind to Maggie made her a more loving person in the end. Additionally, in the article, “Teaching Kindness,” the author states that “As minds and bodies grow, it’s abundantly clear that children require a healthy dose of the warm-and-fuzzies to thrive as healthy, happy, well-rounded individuals.” This is proof that children need kindness

Heeman, V. (2007). Workplace Bullying: A Distinct, Interpersonal, and Communicative Phenomenon. Paper presented at the meeting of the National Communication Association.

I’ve worked at a number of jobs over the year’s sense I graduated from High School, and from time to time I’ve run into co-workers that are more than difficult to get along with. The one thing that has helped the most has been being able to communicate with them in such a way as to learn what it is that they need and learn how they operate. There’s a reason people are difficult and being able to communicate with them can be instrumental in possibly exercising that information from them or at least learning the most effective way to work with them.