A Difficult Relationship Analysis

Cognitive dissonance is defined as the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change. Cognitive dissonance occurs most often when a person’s beliefs, morals or feeling are one way but they do not act accordingly. This dissonance may be displayed in numerous ways that may be done outwardly but also there is an internal process that takes place. A use of internal processing involves many different functions, included but not limited to, thinking, perception and problem solving. The driving force of dissonance is that we as humans attempt to align opposing thoughts or ideas and carry on with life in a way that still meets our morals, set standards or way of thinking. In doing so, we are then challenged to find what we believe as appropriate reasoning for making

Phil noted that men and women are wired differently and attempting to blur viewpoints is unnatural and dangerous. When couples try to insist their viewpoints on each other, it often starts ego-conflict that can be harmful to the self-esteem. Which ties in with Myth #3 “Great relationships cause great problem-solving.” Ironic myth, right? The ability to problem solve seems to be a key component in healthy relationships? Dr. Phil embellished on this by pointing out that 90 percent of conflicts in relationships are unsolvable, and you can still be happy even if you and your partner can’t solve disagreements. “There are things that you and your partner disagree about and will continue to disagree about. Why can’t you once and for all resolve these issues? Because in order to do so, one of you would have to sacrifice your values and beliefs.” The textbook describes one of the dangers when engaging in conflict is when power is unequally distributed by interpersonal power. Which causes the other partner to feel unheard and weak in the relationship. Dr. Phil gives the advice that agreeing to disagree is O.K.. If the problem is unsolvable, it’s healthy to reach emotional closure this

“The engine that drives self-justification, the energy that produces the need to justify our actions and decisions—especially the wrong ones—is an unpleasant feeling the Festinger called “cognitive dissonance.” Cognitive dissonance is a state of tension that occurs when ever a person holds two cognitions (ideas, attitudes, beliefs, opinions) that are psychologically inconsistent, such as “Smoking is a dumb thing to do because it could kill me” and “I smoke two packs a day.” Dissonance produces mental discomfort, ranging from minor pangs to deep anguish.” (p.13)

Mark Knapp’s model of relational development is made up of the ten stages involved in the “coming together” and “coming apart” of relationships. The first stage, initiating, is all about making a good first impression so that others will think of you as someone worth speaking with/to (“Knapp’s Relationship Model,” 2010). I first met Ms. Jenny at a leadership meeting. My very first impression of her when I walked in the room was negative because she barely acknowledged me, and acted as if she did not really care about me, even though I was the leader of her band. I did my best to keep an open mind as she began to introduce herself to the group and explained her vision for the band. My impression of her then improved because she sounded very positive and had very ambitious goals for our band. I left the meeting with conflicting impressions because I appreciated her enthusiasm, but I also felt that she did not have a very realistic mindset. In this particular situation I did not have much of a choice in whether or not I wanted to have a relationship with her, so I acted positive and encouraged my fellow leaders to do the same. In the second step of Knapp’s model, experimenting, people generally use small talk to determine if they want to pursue the relationship further with a person (Adler and Proctor, 2010, p. 277). This step was all but nonexistent because my relationship with Ms. Jenny did not really have any small talk, and we had to have a relationship together because of my position and her job. The third step of Knapp’s model is intensifying, in/during which partners begin to spend more time together, their feelings are more openly expressed, and a deeper relationship begins to develop (Adler and Proctor, 2010, p. 277). This particular step lasted about a week in my relationship with Ms. Jenny. During this time she trained me to be the type of leader that she wanted, and pressured me to lead the band more. We also had weekend meetings for conducting lessons, and she gave me a lot of constructive criticism. In Knapp’s fourth step, integrating, the partners of a relationship become a social unit (Adler and Proctor, 2010, p. 278). Ms. Jenny and I became a social unit when she put more pressure on me to lead

The principle of self-justification explains the dissonance of two or more thoughts or beliefs that are inconsistent. For example, when our attitudes change, we experience a feeling of tension that happens after we act in contrary to our attitudes or when we make difficult decisions to reduce the arousal of our behavior. Furthermore, these principle of self-justification is composed of two strategies the internal self-justification and the external self-justification. The internal self-justification refers to the change that people perceive when their actions are in denial or when they have negative consequences, while the external self-justification refers to the use of external excuses used to justify one’s actions.

From my standpoint, building administrators are the forefront of the school. They foster positive interpersonal relationships, shape and promote high standards for improving the school from within, and endorse the code of ethics implemented for educators by human resources and the board of education.

If one's habits fail to match with one, it may tolerate that. However, non-matching thoughts and talks that can lead towards conflict, collapse, and breakup.

Recent research has shown that young people face a varying number of challenges during maturation. Pearce, Cross, Monks, Waters and Falconer (2011) found that common stressors and anxieties for young people are related to relational issues (e.g., family, romantic), scholastic obligations (e.g., study), self-esteem (e.g., body image), emotional wellbeing, and bullying. As such, the mental wellbeing of young people is becoming a serious national issue. Annually, on average 27% of young people aged from 16 to 24 are experiencing some form of mental illness or mental health problems (Slade, Johnston, Oakley Browne, Andrews, & Whiteford,

My partner was my new boyfriend. I picked him because he was available and is always talking about how I’m mysterious and never open up. So, I thought this would help us get closer and it was a perfect time. At the beginning, we agreed we were a five, and now were between a two and one. Before our relationship was based off superficialness and passionate love. As we were doing the activity, it started out with laughter and jokes. Then, it got deeper and we found out we had a lot of pain, and were in need of more than just passion. We’re so similar, it’s pretty odd. So, I would say we were getting closer and closer. Not once did I feel like me opening up was being dismissed or rejected with a “too much information”, instead it was welcomed and

This comprehensive analysis determines the concepts, components, and elements of interpersonal relationships. The concept of attraction foundations shows four different stages of attraction beginning with social and interpersonal communication skills forming a bond between two people. The social environment promotes building of interpersonal relationships for both the professional and private environments. The unique exchanges between interpersonal relationships involve more than verbal communication between two people. The interpersonal relationships form the basic idealism for professional, and private communication skills.

As a conclusion, in searching for your right partner or assessing your current life partnership is important to remember that every relationship is flawed and you probably would not end up in something that gets an A in every one of the above items and bullet points but you should hope to do well on most of them, since each one plays a large part in your lifelong

The principal assumption of the theory regarding to Hogg and Vaughan (2011, p.214) “is that cognitive dissonance is an unpleasant state of psychological tension generated when a person has two or more cognitions (bits of information) that are inconsistent or do not fit together. So if people at the same time hold those two cognitions (thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, states of awareness of behaviour), which are psychologically inconsistent, then we experience dissonance. The theory also accounts for discrepancies between behaviour and attitudes. For instance, when people act in a manner that is inconsistent with their attitudes, then they experience tension. And how people can reduce this tension? Festinger (1957) suggested people have to do it by changing their attitudes so that they are in line with their behavior. The main way of reducing dissonance is attitude change. The theory propose that when we are dealing with two conflicting beliefs then we experience tension or an aversive state and a good example is military training. The military teaches and telling soldiers that when they kill the enemy its nothing wrong and killing them is a good thing but those same soldiers have a deeply natural and inborn belief that “thou shalt not kill”(Sturman, 2012) . Another example is about person who smokes cigarettes. Regarding to Stone and Cooper (2001) most people

Dual relationships occur when practitioners have two or more overlapping roles with their client. They cannot be entirely avoided and not all are unethical, some may enhance treatment outcomes. It is how practitioners approach setting boundaries and understanding these boundaries that lead to a healthy relationship.

The main factor that caused our relationship to go astray was communication. Instead of talking face to face with each other, we communicated through text messaging. By doing this it made us say things that we wouldn’t normally say to one another in person. It gave us this false sense of power that we abused with harsh word to bring the other down. We weren’t able to listen and actually analyze what the other person was saying or feeling without being interrupted with the rapid fire of text messages. In order to have stopped this from occurring. We should have arranged a time and place where we could’ve sat down and talked face to face about the situation.

Sometime I struggle with inconsistency between my actions and my thought when it come to important task in my life such as food, money, shopping work .In my opinion I will use the topic of health behavior, to illustrate the concept of dissonance in my own life experience for example when I over the wrong choices of food (behavior) and they I know that unhealthy food can causes weight gain, and other health issues such as obesity, high cholesterol (cognition). Growing up, I came from Nigeria where we never consider weight