I interviewed a 36 years old woman who had been abuse in a relationship. Her name is Crisleidy. She was born in Cuba. She has two kids and she got married in Cuba. Crisleidy came to the United State with her husband and two kids 4 years ago. Her husband was the only one that had a job in the house. Crisleidy used to be a housewife. She had to stay home taking care of the kids. She didn’t have a job because her husband didn’t want her to work. Crisleidy husband “Jorge” used to beat her when he told her to do some things and she doesn’t do it. Whenever she asked Jorge for money to buy something she likes for herself, he slapped her and disrespected her. He didn’t like when Crisleidy asked him for money because he was the only one that was paying the bills in the house. Her being in an abuse relationship with her husband was like being locked in a prison, tied up and unable to speak. He threatened to kill her and the kids a lot of times. But, she didn’t do anything about it because she always thought that she deserved it. When her husband gets angry, he knocked her down, shakes her, and pushed her into walls. Every time Jorge reacted like that with Crisleidy in front of the kids they will cried until their father stop beating her. After his behavior he apologized to Crisleidy then he said that “it’s because he loves her”. She used to pull up with her husband behavior because she used to love him and she couldn’t take care of the kids. She was not
Just before leaving the US Johanna approached me with a story about their relationship which changed my perspective. She described an incredibly abusive home life that was verbally, emotionally and physically (manhandling and physically forcing here to do things she didn't want to do, dragging her through the house, she never mentioned hitting). Johanna also mentioned that sex had become a problem and she didn't like the way she was treated when they had sex. She told me he intentionally locked her out of the house and made her to sleep outside one night.
Cisneros creates the conflict of love between Cleofilas and her husband, Juan Pedro, in which they struggle with because of the constant mistreatment he exerts upon her. Although love is an intense feeling that is often expressed through affection and intimacy, Cleofilas believes that love is always physical, and when conveyed, it is also painful. As she watches her current favorite telenovela Tu o Nadie, (You or No One), she begins to think the way one should live there life is by only wanting one person and nobody else and that “To suffer for love is good” (45) and “The pain is all sweet somehow in the end” (Cisneros 45). Because of her lack of female guidance and better representation of a realistic relationship between a husband and wife, she automatically assumes that her husband’s beatings towards her are love, when they are undoubtedly, domestic violence. Furthermore, Cleofilas consistently thought that “If any man were to strike her, she would strike back” (48). However, that was not the case when Juan Pedro hit her for the first time. After He slapped her twice, Cleofilas stood in shock and “Did not fight back, break into tears, or run away” (47). Regardless of her lack of self defense, the slaps left her speechless because it took her by surprise,
I’ve come across a diverse amount of relationships in my life, and some have made an influence on my life forever. Just like in “The Wife’s Story”, the Colin Kapernick article, and “Without Title”, these characters explore the adversities of relationships they have to go through. The relationships we have with others can affect our lives in an undesirable way. In the short story, “The Wife’s Story” by Ursula K. Le Guin, the wife is too blinded by love to see that her husband is lying to her.
This paper presents an integrative approach to a women surviving abuse over the course of 15 years. Working with racially victimized women who have experienced violence in their relationships. Domestic violence can be as simple as emotional abuse with words to something as severe as murder to murder suicide. For women who experience abuse in childhood or adulthood, the assumptions are that surviving includes seeking help. This article presents an exploratory study on the prevalence of victimization in the lives of Caucasian, African American, and Latina women, if and to whom they disclosed their victimization, and where they turned for services and support. The results indicate Caucasian women turn more to traditional, therapeutic sources compared with African American women, who tend to use tangible supports. For the purpose of this research, I interviewed two women of color who were both the victim in their younger years and how they survival and the affected it had on their lives. However, when controlling for a number of key variables, the ethnic differences disappear. The fact is, domestic violence occurs across all socioeconomic statuses, classes, races, and cultures. Implications for further research and practice conclude this article.
During this week, I reviewed the major barriers to leave an abusive relationship more deeply, and I was able to apply these knowledge to my Internship work. The first major concern is that the victim feel fearful of their partner's threatens, and it happens a lot for undocumented victims. Undocumented victims feel fearful to be deported. Another reason would be the influence under gender and culture. In some cultures, domestic violence is not recognized as serious as other violence, and seeking assistance would harm the family reputation. An example would be a father with two children in the shelter. Being the only male in the shelter, sometimes some other clients just against him because he is
Unfortunately, the victim commonly minimizes the frequency and severity of their abuser’s violent behavior even with the best of interviewers; therefore, particular techniques should be employed in order to ascertain the most complete history as possible. The violent history will start when the counselor, ask Maria to describe the most recent incident of violence. The counselor might be purposely vague when approaching the violence history. This may occur before the counselor provides Maria with a definition of physical, sexual, or psychological
Domestic violence can happen everywhere and to anyone. Race, gender, or age is not excluded from dangerous relationships that some never escape. But, for the ones who successfully flee from an abuser, they have to try and push back the trauma and horrifying memories the victims have faced in order to create a new life for themselves. Accomplishing this feat sounds impossible at first glance with proper help, victims of abuse can learn how to make their voice heard with the support of positive influences and a push to succeed. They learn to live with their past in a journey of acceptance but not forgiveness.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any age and gender starting from babies and ending to elderlies in homes they are sent to live in. Regardless of one’s sexual orientation and race domestic violence can occur to anyone who are in relationships. Domestic violence not only affects those who are the victims but also to the people who are close to them such as neighbors, children, family members, co- workers, and people who have an insight on the situation. It is important for the victim to address the problem with someone who can help. Although the abuser can promise to change and get better, the victim must remove himself or herself from the situation to reduce risks of long-term affects.
In my career as a substance abuse counselor I met this amazing women. To look at her she appeared to be beaten and broken down by the choices that she made in life. She was a heroin addict, prostitute, daughter of a broken home, mother to a child she abandoned, mother to a child that was conceived by rape, and a sex trafficking victim. In the time I counseled her, she told me many things. However, the one thing that stuck out was the time that she prostituted herself and ended up chained to a radiator in an abandoned building for two weeks and raped repeatedly by several different men. Regardless of her choice to be a prostitute she became a trafficking victim when she was held against her will and raped. The man that held her captive sold her body for sex to any individual willing to purchase it. While, this amazing woman has suffered from these terrible atrocities she has rekindled the broken relationship with her family, worked through her trauma, and has been in recovery from heroin for over two years.
The South Australian woman has a harrowing tale to tell about her 28-year abusive marriage. However, her story, like countless others,
Imagine a scenario where a woman in a third world country marries an American citizen; he brings her over, she’s given a visa and cannot work. Her husband promises to take care of her, but the situation slowly starts to escalate. He promises that he will stop hurting her when she becomes pregnant, and the abuse stops after a while. Shortly after her child is born, the abuse begins again. She wants to divorce her husband but he reminders that, if she does, she will lose her visa. She would have to return to her home country and leave her child behind. This fear causes her to stay in this abusive relationship, under the control of her husband.
This week I worked on my finial LOCA with my field instructor, The case is a Hispanic female who is thirty five and her husband who is also thirty five. The mother tested positive for marijuana while pregnant. The child tested positive for Marijuana, mother lost custody of her newborn baby, and he was placed in a foster home. The mother has a history of Department of children and families cases were her parental rights were terminated. Currently her two older children from a previous relationship is are in foster homes. The mother and her husband have a history of domestic violence and the two older children are terrified of him.Interviews were conducted with the mother and father, along with the caretakers of the newborn baby. The parent have
You have a very interesting topic, and I look forward to reading more of your research. Many of the women in my life, including myself, have been victims of domestic violence at some point in their lives. These women are from different races, as are their abusers. This is a sensitive subject for many women, and getting them to open up about their abuse can sometimes be difficult; most of the time they live in secrecy and shame.
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The two students I chose to interview happen to be in a relationship with each other. One is a female who is 22 and the other is a male who is also 22. I thought it would be interesting to see their point of views knowing they were in a relationship. I decided to also have this interview corded. Now, after having them answers my questions, I do have to say it might not have been the greatest idea to have both of them in my interview. The reason why I say that was because they ended up have a little argument afterwards and seemed a little annoyed with each other when hearing their answers to the questions. I asked them if they wanted to be interviewed separately but both agreed they wanted to be in the same room and wanted to hear each other’s answers. I didn’t see a problem with it at first but after hearing their attitudes towards each other I soon realized it probably wasn’t the best thing to have them answer in the same room. For the sake of this assignment I will refer to student #1 as the female and student #2 as the male. Student #1 identified as being Cambodian and Asian American. Student #2 identified as being African-American and Caucasian. Both of the students stated that their inner circle consisted of all racially diverse people. For example, #2 said all his friends were mostly mixed with black and another race. And #1 said her roommates were all from a different ethnic background from her own. Both of them are from Seattle and went to the same high school. They