A Qualitative Parenting Incident Analysis

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This incident started when I was around two years old. In my house, I am the youngest out of my two siblings and because I was the youngest, I received what many people called “special” treatment. This is common within all families that have multiple children; the youngest child would always get spoiled and focused on the most. At first, the attention seemed normal; at two years old, I was not capable of doing many of the things that I do today. As I got older, I got accustomed to this sort of treatment and in my head, I thought that this was how all parents should raise their children. I am not trying to bring down my parents or any other parents who spoil their children. In the perspective of the parents, it may seem impossible for their…show more content…
To get a feel of how my parents were; my parents strayed away from the Asian stereotype which was that all Asian families live under the authoritarian parenting style (Rathus & Longmir, 2010). Instead, my parents chose to adopt the permissive-indulgent parenting style (Rathus & Longmir, 2010) my parents were really laid back; they did not force me to go down a certain career path, instead, they were supportive of my decision to pursue social service work despite them not knowing what it means to become a social service worker. There were not many rules in the house other than the usual “do not do drugs” or “do not skip school, do well in school” My parents reasoning for adopting this parenting style was because, my parents did not want us to be raised like how they were raised, my parents were scared that If they adopted the authoritative parenting style, that when I got older, I would have some resentment towards them. Currently, I am slowly developing a sense of independence by taking on more responsibilities and thinking for myself rather than letting my parents do…show more content…
This is the second stage of Erikson’s Stages of Development that occurs during 18 months to three years old. During this stage, this is when the child starts to develop a sense of independence. Children will begin to make their own decisions and will try act upon them, for example, the child will decide what clothes they would like to wear and then try to put on the clothes themselves. Parents play a major role in this stage as the child is young so they do not know how to do a lot of things. It is important to note for parents that If they see their child doing something by themselves, the parents should let the child continue trying figure out their task. An example would be if a child is trying to dress themselves, instead of the parent doing everything, the parent should let the child try to put on their shirt and pants by themselves. In other words, the parents should encourage the child to do things themselves. “A focal concern of the parents is likely to be to encourage the child to exert self-control over excretion.” (Stevens, 2008) If the child is successful in this stage, they will have successfully developed a sense of independence and will be more confident when doing their own tasks. In contrast, failure in this stage will lead to the child opposite; the child will develop insecurities due to not being able to do things by themselves and will
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