Interplay Of Conflict And Deception In Interpersonal Communication

Interpersonal conflict happens in every relationship. It is inevitable when two or more people disagree on something. Conflict is a result of a misunderstanding because of a miscommunication. In the movie Hitch (Mordaunt & Tadross, 2005) we can notice an interpersonal conflict between two people due to a lack of communication. Communication is a key role in any relationship, whether platonic or an intimate relationship. When starting a relationship it is primordial to be able to communicate effectively from the beginning in order to avoid any conflict. However “people are usually cautious about what they tell each other and how they say it, and they make a conscious effort to present positive

One of the first conflicts in the film causes a bigger conflict in later years and later in the plot between the same characters. A conflict is defined as "Conflict is a fact of human life. It occurs naturally in all kinds of settings. Nations still struggle, families fracture in destructive conflicts, marriages face challenges and often fail, and the workplace is plagued with stress." in the textbook "Interpersonal Conflict" by Wilmot. Meriam-Webster defines conflict in three ways. Firstly a war, fight or battle. Secondly "competitive or opposing action of incompatibles :antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons)" or "mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands". Lastly "the opposition of persons or forces that gives rise to the

Conflict, according to Wilmot & Hocker (2011), is defined as an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals.

Hocker, J. and Wilmot, W. (2014). Interpersonal conflict (9thed). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc.

Interpersonal conflict can be broadly defined as a disagreement between two interdependent people who think that they have conflicting goals. For example, the dinner scene at the beginning of the movie with Cher, Josh, and Cher’s father. Josh is known as a very studious, college student that is studying law. Josh believes that Cher doesn’t care about her studies and just bribes her teachers in order to get by. At one point during the dinner, Cher calls Josh a “brown-noser.” Josh comes back to say, “You are such a superficial space cadet. What makes you think you can convince your teachers to change your grades?” Cher then says, “Only the fact that I’ve done it every other semester.” Obviously, there is some interpersonal conflict here because they both have different views of how to get by in school.

What is conflict? Even something as basic as a universal definition for the word conflict seems to vary from source to source. A literature review focusing on conflict defined it as “the interaction of interdependent people who perceive incompatibility and the possibility of interference from others as a result of this incompatibility” (Brinkert 2010). Often times the disagreement results not from a concrete difference, but rather a difference in perception (Ellis & Abbott 2012). One of the most important factors effecting conflict management is the resolution style used. The most often used tool for classifying how conflict is managed is the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (Iglesias & Vallejo 2012).

Deception According to Hyman (1989) deception implies that an agent acts or speaks so as to induce a false belief in a target or victim. Deception can occur in everyday life. Whether it is telling someone they look nice or not telling them that they look fat. This is an important process for forming relationships and general social interaction.

A significant form of interpersonal communication that plays an enormous role in relationships is lying. Lying has evolved into a frequent practice in today’s society. Even though, lying seem to be fond upon, we all have done it multiple times for not just our benefit but for others. In relationships, lying is turned from a negative to positive act depending on the circumstances. It seems as if, you lie in attempt to help another person it’s celebrated than if you lie for your benefits. Lying is known to only mislead or give a false impression in which the false hood can only cause negative acts. Why does one enange in lying if the outcome is negative? The most found reason that people find themselves lying is because of the truth. It is said that many people lie because long-term the truth is worse than the short-term lie. Lying is judged off its cost and benefits. In each situation, there will be outcomes when it comes to the lies being told. Lying to those you have impersonal connection with has less of an impact than those you have an interpersonal relationships. Those that has an impersonal relationships is nearly never affected by the lies told because normally they do not see that person as often as those with the close bonds. I understand that lying can be beneficial in relationship of any kind, but I personally feel that the truth is preferred. There are two consequences that puts strain on the relationship. Termination is the last step in a relationship; there are

Conflict is a process that every one of us has experienced throughout our lives. There are various definitions of conflict as described by different authors. Generally, conflict is a process whereby, one individual’s interest is opposed or negatively affected by the other party (Yoder-Wise,2015).

In “The Ways we Lie,” Stephanie Ericsson expresses her own life experience as an example to show, how difficult it is to balance the moral value of living a lie and the consequences of telling the truth in real life. Ericsson expresses her views thoroughly on how “we all lie” for different reasons and for different purposes. In “The Way We Lie,” informational essay, some of the words contradict each other, for example, she explains the impossibility and the consequences of telling the truth all the time, while she explains the consequences of telling a lie without taking a side. She used those statements to build a strong bond with readers by eliminating judgment and creating humble moments. Ericsson’s essay grasped my attention easily and intrigued me so much that, I couldn’t keep my eyes of the pages; the end of each paragraph brought me to have text-to-self connections.

Deception Jehan Fostanes Nayga had once said, “Know that to understand other people, is one way of helping them to grow”. In “Immune to Reality”, Daniel Gilbert states, “ Research suggests that people are typically unaware of the reasons why they are doing what they are doing, but when asked for a reason, they readily supply one” (Gilbert 131). Gilbert’s essay is based off the foundation of happiness and its unpredictability. However, happiness is an intangible chimerical feeling that often times is obtained with understanding and knowledge.

In conclusion, interpersonal conflicts arise often during times of miscommuniction or the lack of transparency in relationships. In order to maintain healthy relationships, couple should practice more positive relationship maintenance behaviors like creating a safe place to offer advice and practice conflict management to resolve their interpersonal conflicts. It is how each party handles the situation that can determine if the relationship can overcome conflicts and be able to maintain the relationship or if the challenges are too damaging and will hinder the growth of the

Conflict is “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals” (Hocker, 1991). There are two basic types of conflicts: substantive and emotional. According to Schermerhorn et.al., substantive conflict is a fundamental disagreement over ends or goals to be pursued and the means for their

As many know, we lie to cover up things that we don’t want others to know. Maybe when you were a child you broke your brothers toy and when he confronted you, you lied and said you had no idea who did it, or maybe you completely try to change the subject. In a way, that is what interpersonal deception theory is, it’s an attempt to explain how individuals handle actual deception at the conscious or subconscious level while they are engaged in a face-to-face communication. And Actually This type of deception has 3 aspects such as falsification, concealment, and equivocation.

Interpersonal conflict is described as “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent people who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, or interference in the achievement of their goals (Beebe 221). As with many other things, people have developed some myths about it. One of the interpersonal conflict myths is that it indicates a relationship of poor quality. This is, however, incorrect because the conflict can instead demonstrate the complete opposite. An example would be when a couple is arguing about what to eat for dinner. Such a disagreement can show that there is a supportive environment between the two of them. Both people feel comfortable enough to voice their differing opinions without the fear of being negatively