Adoption: A Fictional Narrative

A long time ago, in about 2004, I was born to two drug and alcohol addicts. We lived in Plano, Texas, in a disgusting apartment. We had cat and dog feces everywhere, and overall it wasn’t the best environment to raise a child in. But when I was about four and a half, my mother put me up for adoption without telling me. I ended up being adopted by my aunt and uncle, but although being four and a half, I will always remember that day vividly, because that was the first day I had experienced real love.

I have always been the youngest. I was the youngest of a rather large family of seven. My parents, then two girls, then three boys. Me being the last of the boys. I was five when it all began. I was living in Sheffield, England and my parents had been thinking about adoption for a little while. One day when we all met in the conservatory for devotions, Mom and Dad walked in purposefully and started devotions by saying,”Kids, we have been thinking about adding a member to our family. We want to adopt.” The room got quieter and everyone was still while Mom and Dad waited for a reaction. I had absolutely no idea what in the world that meant, but the word sounded sharp so I liked it. I quickly learned that it meant “finding a kid whose parents couldn’t take care of them, and bringing them into our family and making them our son, or daughter, brother or sister.” I liked the idea and was all for it. Mom and Dad warned us that it would not be easy to adopt. We discussed the what it would take and what it would mean for us. I’ll admit I didn’t understand most of it, but I did understand that I was getting a new sibling, and that some things would change. If I only knew how much…

After a moment or so, Makoto took a deep breath, and I was ready for him to tell me to deal with it on my own. I was already considering giving it up for adoption, because I knew for a fact that I couldn’t take care of it if it was on my own. It was an honest mistake, but there was no way in hell I could help work with that mistake.

Awhile back I was thinking about when our closed adoption was safe and secure because our boys were here with us and their family was across the world and couldn’t find them. They always knew they were adopted, it was never hidden, in fact it never could be hidden, since they were older when they joined our family.

Last year their birth mother relapsed. We had not heard from Beth in a while--in fact, no one had. Beth’s friends in Columbus had not heard from her, and she had not been showing up to her job. Everyone was concerned. My family had tried to contact her for weeks before she finally got in contact with us again. She had said that she checked herself into rehab as soon as she relapsed. Rehab was where she had been hiding out. My parents did not want to tell my siblings where she had been. They did not want them to think that their biological mother had chosen drugs over them. Since Beth had taken responsibility and went to rehab, they decided to give her a second chance.

My personal feelings don't matter I have to speak with Arthur and simply hope that our conversation doesn't end with both of us becoming covered in cuts and bruises. During my life I have seen many trends from cowboy hats to bell-bottoms come and go, and I have found that a tie, coat, trousers, vest, white undershirt, and black leather dress shoes never go out of style. Once I finish getting dressed I kiss Morgan goodbye and start walking over to our bedroom door. “I'll probably swing by your office later today, but until then goodbye madame mayor.” “Jason you know I hate it when you call me that.” “Oh, but you're so cut when you're angry.” “My beloved before you leave promise me two things.” “What do you ask of me Mrs. McCartney do you want me to climb the highest mountain and tell the gods how beautiful my wife is?” “No that’s not good enough how about I buy you the biggest diamond I can find or get the birds to sing a special song to you every morning?” “Do you always have to be such a smartass romantic?” “Ya.” “Now what were you going to say?” “Promise me you won't let Arthur piss you off, and remember we have to go and meet the Lawson family who have officially decided to move to Avalon Meadows.” “Well you know what they say nothing says this is a good place to raise your kids like a bloody nose and black eye.” “Jason promise me.” “I can promise you that I will remember to go speak to the Lawson family, but Arthur knows how to push my buttons if anyone can piss me off its him.” “I can accept that just make sure you protect that gorgeous face of

All three corners of the adoption triad are affected I many ways. Birth mothers are the first to be psychologically traumatized by the adoption. For the adoptees that are a part of the closed era, many of the birth mothers were young, unwed and forced to give her baby up for adoption. No other options were suggested along with no counseling on how to deal with the loss of her child, left a trauma that was not easily forgotten. Some were sent to maternity homes to hide the shame from the rest of the family and the public. The child was to be a very close kept secret mistake to be undone. While giving birth, they were shielded from seeing their child, some not even knowing if they gave birth to a boy

Thousands of couples all over the U.S are unable to start their own family. Many of these couples are desperate to have children of there own, and long to be able to have a family. In some instances, adoption may be an option for these couples. Adoption is the legal responsibility and care of a child that is not one’s by birth. (Source F) In the United Sates, there are several factors that go into the process of adopting a child. Factors such as the extreme cost, the complex of the process, and the variation of adoption laws, in all different states. To make this process easier, I propose the government intervenes and regulates adoption, makes the process simpler, and sets a minimum standard of adoption laws for states.

Those who have gone through the adoption process often refer to it as a roller coaster ride. There are moments when you feel you have been climbing forever – working towards a desired result that seems to never arrive. Then suddenly you are hanging on for dear life as you are whipped through major stretches at break neck speed, twisting and turning. You may lose sight of the ground and find yourself reacting instead of relying on your careful plans and preparations. What’s the trick to a successful adoption? You might say that it’s learning how to enjoy the ride for what it is...something you probably can’t predict, but that leads you right where you wanted to go. Struggling to stay grounded during your own roller coaster adoption ride?

Focus: Mary and her family will learn and utilize healthy communication skills to move towards adoption. Ms. Smalls (MHP), Mrs. Gailliard (MHS), and Mary discuss the adoption process.

Seven seniors made the traveling squad, including “Battling Ted Evans”, who paced the hallway with head bowed and clenched fists. Miguel and Lillian Canales, a habitual infirmary resident, shared the bench closest to where few would find sanctuary. She fiddled with a hospital band, as he eyeballed the door, willing it to open. But the barrier would not yield.

Adoption is the process in which an adult legally becomes the guardian to a child or children that are not biologically their own (Legal Information Institute, n.d.). Through adoption, a new family is created and rather than looking at it as one event—which many people mistakenly do—it is a lifelong process that has an effect on every aspect of all parties involved. While there are many different components of adoption, this paper has a strong emphasis of unrelated adoptions, or adoptions by adults who are not in any way biologically related to the child, and when fit, the adoption process and effects specific to infants.

The adoption process domestically and internationally has been a huge topic of controversy for years. There are many reasons why couples, and even single people choose to adopt children. Some can’t have children of their own, and some are just determined to make the world better for at least one child. Many people choose to adopt international because they feel they can make a difference for some child out there somewhere, but Some people choose a different route though, some parents choose to become foster parents to children in their area who need the help first. Foster parent take children in on a more temporary basis and help them through whatever situation they are in. Adoption as most people know is a permanent solution to the child

In the last four decades, the concept of the American family has undergone a radical transformation, reflecting society¡¯s growing openness. Among all segments of society, there is a greater acceptance of a variety of family structures ¨C from single parenting to blended families to same sex parenting of children. The introduction of openness into the process of adoption offers new opportunities for children in need of a parent or parents and prospective parents wishing to create or expand their families. Meeting the requirements to become eligible to adopt no longer means being constrained by the conventions of an earlier generation.

“I don’t know much yet, but when I spoke to the doctor on the phone, she sounded hopeful,” Arthur said. “And, everyone, this is Annis, Tristan’s friend.”