The majority of teenagers for years dream about the day they finally get to move out of their parents home and start living independently. Suddenly when it's time to move out and live on their own it becomes overwhelming. Most teenagers think they are ready to take on the responsibility of living independently but when reality sets in, they realize that providing for themselves is surprisingly more difficult than living with their family. Living alone and living with family has its own advantages and disadvantages which include the amount of responsibilities, freedom and financial stability an individual has.
When living with your parents, everything is prepared for you. The responsibilities a teenager is given are based on the parents trying to prepare them for early adulthood. This means sharing responsibilities that contribute to the house such as chores. For example, today you have to do the dishes, the next day you have to clean the living room and the bathroom. A disadvantage of living with your parents would be the amount of freedom you are given. For example, you have a set curfew time to be home by, and the consequences of arriving late past the curfew time would be a punishment like getting grounded, no internet for two days, or getting your favorite play system taken away. You’re not allowed to talk on the phone past certain hours and you’re not allowed to go to that concert you’ve been waiting to go to because your parents would rather have you stay home.
Parents now days believe teens are misbehaving and not listening more so than teens in years past. However, kids in years past had more control and authority of their own life’s unlike today’s kids who have to rely on their parents. Adults now days have complete authority over teens unlike teens in years past. Teens back in the day were able to find work at an early age and could choose whether or not they wanted to attend school. With that being said, today’s teenager’s growth to adulthood is being prolonged due to society’s changes. Coontz states, “relations between adults and teens are especially strained today, not because youths have lost their childhood, but because they are not being adequately prepared for the new requirements of adulthood.” (McIntyre, 2014, p. 8) Therefore, society’s sociological and historical changes are the real reason for adult and teen
Becoming a teenager is similar to moving into a new house in many ways. The main similarity between the two is sense of change. When one turns into a teenager, they begin to see and experience new things that could force them to change their ways and mature in order to catch up with their environment. For instance, most teens have the realization that they need to act more maturely and need to take responsibility of their
b. Adolescents are less dependent on their parents, and they begin to make major decisions on their own accord. For example, some adolescents choose to get part-time jobs to buy their own clothes and pay for some of their expenses.
As we age, our lives are divided into stages with inescapable hardships. The most difficult of these stages has proven to be adolescence and young adulthood, the years in which our personalities are defined. This juncture is the pinnacle of maturation, however, it is gradually becoming a plateau wherein inactivity is most prevalent. It is indisputable that American children and young adults alike are lingering in their youth for far too long. Many in their teens and twenties are holding tight to the freedom of childhood by depending on their parents, refusing to settle down, and avoiding responsibility. Through their lack of independence, inability to commit and their indolence, certain action must be taken against adolescents
Having independence in your own life is great but it comes with major responsibilities. Once you leave the comfort of your parents house everything will start to sink in. Because until you leave know one really knows what's to come. The responsibilities are too much to even think about let alone figure them out. With the responsibilities comes independence and with independence comes freedom to live your life how you want when you want.
Grown children can benefit significantly from parental help. Young adults who received financial, every day and emotional support from their parents have reported clearer life goals and more satisfaction than young adults who received less parental support (Fingerman & Furstenburg , 2012). This closeness to parents, signals an overall change in the cultural climate of what relationships take place in people’s lives today versus in generations past. This change is made true by, delays in marriage, more Americans choosing to remain single, and high divorce rates, a tie to a parent may be the most important bond in a young adult’s life (Fingerman & Furstenburg , 2012). However the negative side to this can also lead to adult children feeling stifled and there even older parents sometimes feeling as though the children will never grow up. Research shows that parents and grown children alike reported awkwardness, viewing intense parental support in adulthood as a sign of harmful over-involvement. Parents reported less gratification about their own lives if they believed their children were too dependent (Fingerman & Furstenburg , 2012). So although help is great, it is the idea that this help can in turn cause more good than harm that is the issue. With the economy not yet having fully come back full swing and an ever changing definition of marriage coupled with
Nearly 80% of teens are currently working 20 plus hours a week just to try and make a minimal living. Most teenagers that go to college end college in $30,000 in student loan debt. No wonder the idea of going to college after high school is becoming an unpopular idea for teenagers who are faced with thousands of dollars of debt after college and their only 21, and trying to make a living while trying to go to college is nearly impossible. Let alone trying to start a life while a life of debt is looming in college student’s futures. Most young people end up not being able to start their life’s because it is simply too expensive. Many students after college end up putting off living on their own, starting a family and end up
When a student goes off to college, they begin to no longer rely on their parents as much as they once have. The majority of college students choose to live on campus. They start becoming more independent. They learn to make their own food, do their homework and clean up after themselves without being told, and they start providing for themselves for the most part. They discover they have to be responsible with their money because they now have tuition to pay; and books, tuition, and other miscellaneous items to buy. They also gain a better sense of responsibility by deciding their major and choosing their career
For centuries, teenagers have fought with their parents over the amount of freedom they should have. Parents always fight to reel in their child’s freedom, while teens argue that they need more privileges. While parents certainly have an argument in protecting their kids from the big, scary world, ultimately teenagers need to be exposed to the dangers of everyday life in order to prepare them for entering it on their own. If they have no real-life experience, they cannot be expected to handle it well when they leave their parents’ houses. In order to teach kids responsibility and life skills, kids should be allowed freedom to work and be out on their own, but have certain restrictions on a case-to-case basis in terms of curfews and household obligations.
As a child, I had a degree of autonomy to an extent, meaning that everything that I did was not overly controlled by my parents. I was able to sleep in during the weekends and chill inside my house without having to worry about strenuous chores. Whenever I wanted to hang out with friends from school, I was not allowed unless my parents knew my friend and their parents; I could not go out with just anyone. As I matured, I was permitted by my parents to participate in outside activities such as going to the movies with my friends. I really did not have a curfew because
The most significant effect of living away from home is the independent behavior that grows inside of you. Living on your own far from your family gives you a lot of experiences toward organizing your life. Since it is up to you and no one else to go to school, clean your room, wash your clothes, and organize your expenses, it is predictable that you will have a good and strong meaning of responsibility. Being independent and responsible will help you get through life every goal you want to achieve.
Teenage is a fundamental stage of life that each human being passes through. Some people face this period of their life strongly and positively, while others face many problems and difficulties. This depends on the environment these young adults live in, their parents, their friends, their living conditions, their education, and many other factors. Teenagers face many problems such as becoming addicted to drugs and alcohol, being influenced negatively by their peers, self-image and weight, or even arguments with their parents
When living with parents a good portion of responsibility a young adult is given are tasks to get them prepared for early adulthood. This means sharing responsibilities that contribute to the house such as chores. For example, today they’re responsible for washing the dishes, the next day cleaning the living room and the bathroom. A disadvantage of living with parents would be the amount of freedom that is given. For example, in most households, there is a set curfew time to be home by, and the consequences of arriving late past the curfew time would be getting grounded, no internet for two days, or getting that favorite play system taken away. There is no talking on the phone past certain hours, not being allowed to go to that concert that’s been on their to-do list because mom and dad would rather have them stay home. Although their freedom is limited, for the most part,
Being a teenager in this situation is the hardest part of your life. The mind thinks you’re a man, but you’re still a youth. Young people can do anything they want, especially when they are alone. Parents need to work more and more to raise for the family they live in.
Being away for a little over eight months, college students everywhere will come home for the summer. There will be love, long nights, and many visits. Although there will be the, “See you in the morning!” at around midnight as well. All college students will be different when returning home. They should have grown and matured. While being mature, students will be assuming more freedom over the summer. This may be to stay out later or just for being left alone and not constantly checked on. Summer is a time for enjoying the outdoors and spending time with loved ones. Making the summer manageable, it will take the work of the students and the parents. Although living with your parents during a college summer break can be difficult, there are many strategies to help the summer with your parents go smoother.