Advantages and Disadvantages of Disciplining Children

Every child has been yelled at by their parent or their guardian. Frequently, a child is guilty of misbehaving. Often, parents are screaming for no apparent reason. Each child has felt the fear rise from their toes to their brain worrying about what they could’ve done. Once they figured out it’s nothing they have done, children get confused. They

For example, if a child has thrown an object at his parent or hits a parent out of anger, the child would receive a spanking without receiving an explainnation of what he did wrong. Then child would not learn that it is wrong to throw things or hit at people. This would lead to the child repeating the behavior again.

Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the

For children, over parenting "...can lead to an illusion of control over ... children, who may rebel as they grow older and shatter that illusion" because they do not feel as if they are earning respect (Hewitt). For healthy family relationships, their needs to be respect, and in overparenting, there seems to be none; For the child. The image of power over the child simply ruins the parent chance at respect. The child slowly loses respect for the parents and begins to rebel. For children “All great rebellions are born of private acts of civil disobedience that inspire rebel bands to plot together. And so there is now a new revolution under way, one aimed at rolling back the almost comical overprotectiveness and overinvestment of moms and dads”because they cannot stand to lose their freedom any longer (Gibbs 1). The world is facing a parenting rebellion, with children leading on the front lines. Disrespect leads to aggravation and children no longer want to be treated this way. This rebellion was created because of acts of in house rebellion. Children no longer listen to overprotective parents because while the parents think they have positive intentions, their children see the aftermath of overparenting. When children are told to do something, they just do not enjoy it as much as if they were able to make the decision on their own. This can lead to overall avoidance of the activity of reluctance to practice the activity. Children will often times try to fail at the sport, just so they can avoid the sport. When forced activity take place, suddenly the activity becomes a chore and the child no longer wants to participate. This is what parents see as rebellious, and they believe by overparenting, they can solve this problem; Wrong. Children will become more rebellious as overparenting increases. Parenting may seem to be helpful, but to lay back on the parenting

Spanking is an ineffective method for disciplining children as it both validates violence and creates antisocial behaviour while failing to teach a child why their actions were wrong. As some parents continue to utilize spanking, the children often internalize many negative side effects. They learn to “legitimatize violence”2 thus carrying these issues into other interpersonal relationships. Using their caregivers as models, they are more likely to hit others such as peers & siblings “as means of resolving their conflicts.”1 Ironically, this is exactly what some parents are trying to eliminate. Other children may become increasingly antisocial. From the perspective of a child, those who are supposed to protect them chose to hurt them instead.

Authoritative parents know what they want their children to do, but they also treat them with respect and warmth. Children raised with this parenting style are independent, self-reliant, competent, and tend to do well in school. Authoritarian parents have strict guidelines, are very demanding, and do not respect or communicate well with their children. Their treatment of their children is cold and rejecting. This parenting style tends to cause hostility and resentment in children. The children are less confident, do not do as well academically or socially, and are often anxious and irritable. Permissive-indulgent parents are easy going and have low attempts to control their children. The children are treated with warmth and support. Children raised by permissive parents tend to be resourceful and have high self-esteem. However, research supports the idea that these children have less self-discipline and are less responsible than children from authoritative families. (Permissive Parenting) Rejecting-neglecting parenting involves having low demands for behavior and low attempts to control their children. “The children of neglectful parents are the least competent, responsible, and mature.” (Rathus, pg. 167)

Child discipline has been a heated topic of debate in recent years. Many older people in past generations support more severe child discipline, citing that it teaches kids proper behavior better than more modern teaching styles. However, younger parents and experts are saying that severe child discipline can have long lasting negative effects. The issue of child abuse has been brought up many times in these arguments. There is a fine line between an acceptable spanking and child abuse. Corporal punishment may be thought of as, “the good old days,” by many adults, but kids today measure up, and might even surpass what kids used to be like.

Both discipline and affection in combination with each other allow for children to learn socially acceptable behavior and thrive on the encouragement that is given to them. When in the absence of parental guidance, children ultimately gravitate toward other accessible authority

Children are going to continue to make mistakes, but they will learn from them just like adults do. So why would we punish them for it? When positive guiding children we can help them see and understand consequences from the choices they make. By using punishment instead of positive discipline can cause possible side effects, such as blocking open communications, punishment represses behaviour, but doesn’t deal with the behaviour, models a negative use of power, and to have continue effect it must escalate in order to remain it’s effectiveness. Using punishment as discipline will create a negative relationship between educator/parent and child. This could lead the child to have negative thoughts about themselves creating a low self-esteem.

Discipline also leads to more respect from the child. When children are disciplined at home, those children tend to be respectful towards others. Those children say respectful things like good morning, please, thank you, etc. Also, discipline instills appropriate behavior. When a parent disciplines their child for poor behavior, he or she learns about what behavior is acceptable. According to an article in the journal Pediatrics and Child Health, “Discipline can foster appropriate behavior in children, teaching them how to interact with others, when to postpone pleasure and how to tolerate discomfort” (Carpenter). With effective child discipline, that child will be respectful his or her whole life. For example, if a child borrows something from their parents, the parents car or jacket, and doesn’t return it either with a full tank or washed, than next time when they ask, the answer will be no. Next time around they are going to respect the parents and the parents’ things if that child wants access to the parents’ belongings, they are going to return it the way they found it (Radzka).

children can become rebellious, if the parents are just strict but do not allow much or high expectations

Many studies have come out with negative effects that can come about from using many forms of corporal punishment. As parents we need to ask ourselves are we able to control ourselves when we are upset at our kids? Are we able to be fair to our kids? Can the things we do to our children come back and turn out to be used against us and others? “Corporal punishment

Discipline is one of the basic things a child learns from his parents before he or she faces the outside world to learn more about life as a whole. Teaching this trait can depend on how the parent shows it to their child and how they explain the importance of having this trait both in and out of their homes. Misbehaving children cannot be avoided as they are curious little beings and they have a tendency to explore. But there are some parents, even teachers, who do not tolerate misbehaving and they resort to corporal punishments such as spanking to make sure the child never forgets how painful it is to misbehave as they will remember the punishment entailed to it and become more disciplined. However, not all children would understand the

Children are like flowers, if well taken care of they will bloom. If ignored or tortured, they will wither and die. Child discipline is one of the most important elements of successful parenting. Today, many people have this notion that physical abuse is in no way a solution to helping children discern between right and wrong. Since generations children have been taught the art of discipline through physical punishment. Often this approach to disciplining has resulted in two outcomes, one is where the child becomes more tolerant and is willing to adhere to what he/she has been told, or the other which more often results in children developing a sense of anguish and desire to revolt.

Safeness is one of the advantages of parenting style where parents create rules like a method of protecting their children, it’s similar to providing guidance as to which is the correct path to take. Better parenting allows the parent and the child to have better relationships with their children. Parents effectively deal with difficult kids, and another one is clear goals which child is aware of what was his/her goal in the future. It also creates responsible citizens that are highly responsible citizens when they grow up. One of the disadvantages of parenting style is rebellion where children don’t get the opportunity to learn right from their mistakes. It can also create communication problems where child is afraid that his feelings, thoughts or actions might be punished, he is not as likely to share these problems with his parents. This is a can cause problem because children need to talk with their parents when they encounter problems, they can solve it within their selves. Bullying is also one of the disadvantages when strict parent typically establishes limits without empathy, children raised in a strict home often become angry and