Affection Charles Lewis

Some ways that demonstrate the changes in Lewis are evident through love. His view on love changes, from the perspective that is presented at the beginning where he says that ‘love is not so important nowadays.’, to having love is a important aspect as this is shown through his comment, ‘without love the world wouldn’t mean much.’

Love can be whatever one makes it out to be. From basic science to a complex philosophical or mystical idea. A person’s own unique experiences with love make it a concept that is so widely perceived and interpreted. Throughout her piece, Selections from Love 2.0 Barbara Fredrickson tries to broaden her audience’s understanding to a new idea of love. Overall, she claims that love is a biological need. The claim that longevity and quality of life might have lots to do with not only ‘clean air and nutritious food’ but also ‘your supply of love’ are accurate to a certain extent. A constant supply of love is needed for a better quality of life but it is not necessarily needed to live a long life. If the claim is taken to be true, then a weak supply of love would result in a person just existing and not living life to their fullest or connecting to other human beings; therefore, they would be incomplete without it.

In the excerpt of “Four Loves”, C.S. Lewis explains his view on friendship and how it is formed. C.S. Lewis displays the contrasts of friendship from companionship and romance by consistently asking the question “Do you see the same truth”. By asking this question Lewis explains how friendship is established.

Daily Love Unfolds in Everything and All Beings Love is universal. It is through the lenses of love that we create a life full of existence and aliveness. In “The Gift” by Li-Young Lee the speaker reflects back on a specific incident where the speaker’s father helped him remove a splinter from his hand that was causing him all sorts of painful forces. The speaker travels back in time to a childhood scene where he experiences the tenderness and caring from his father’s palm that has a lasting impression, which he recreates in the same act of removing the pain from his “wife’s right hand” (20).

Affection is, as C.S. Lewis describes it, "Love in which our experience seems to differ least form that of the animals" (p. 31). The Greeks call affection love storge. C.S. Lewis gives us an example of storge, which involves a women and her child. C.S. Lewis explains "The Need and Need-love of the young is obvious; so is the Gift-love of the mother…. There is a paradox. It is a Need-love but what it needs is to give. It is a Gift-love but it needs to be needed" (p. 32). C.S. Lewis goes on to say that this love is the most discriminating of all the loves and "Almost anyone can become an object of Affection; the ugly, the stupid, even the exasperating" (p. 32). Affection pays no attention to age, sex, class, education, and even species. C.S. Lewis gives the most important cause of Affection, familiarity. One must be familiar with an object, animal, or person in able to feel Affection towards it. Once Affection is noticed within the relationship some time has already gone by after Affection has become. In other words no one can say when Affection actually began in a relationship. C.S. Lewis describes Affection as "The humblest love. It gives itself no airs. People can be proud of being ‘in love,' or of friendship. Affection is modest- even

Known for their tragic love story, Abelard and Heloise’s letters serve as an example of how pride or lust can taint a relationship. The Oxford Dictionary defines love as a strong feeling of affection. In their writings, Heloise and Abelard use words of care and sacrifice, which are elements of affection, to describe Heloise’s actions during her relationship with Abelard. Unlike Heloise, Abelard uses boastful or wallowing language to remark on his motivations for maintaining a connection with Heloise. Due to these language choices, Abelard appears not to reciprocate Heloise’s feelings. Therefore, Abelard pursues Heloise for his own personal gains despite Heloise’s feeling towards him. If Abelard does not truly love Heloise, society cherishes

The feeling of affection is similar to finding peaceful refuge in a place that once used to be a gas chamber. A gas chamber is to be choked on, a gas chamber is used to kill, a gas chamber is used solely to end one’s life. Affection feels like fresh air that one has the option to breathe after being set in a massive room with only shower heads. One could run around trying to escape but somehow the walls that are farther than usual become closer in proximity one by one until the darkness creeps in and one succumbs. Affection is the light that guides one out through a small hole in the wall and out into the woods only twenty feet from a courtyard. Affection is the freshest of air sent to be breathed only through one’s lungs as to save thee.

Love stands-out to be one of the most prevalent qualities known to humans and found in any relationship. Not to mention, the world is a place where most people seek love. No matter who or what it is, love can be expressed to anyone, ranging from family to the public or work, and to romantic relationships. Showing love to someone can be represented in multiple ways, such as taking care, supporting others in need, or simply saying ‘I love you’ to someone. The focus here is on love in relationships. In romantic relationships, love builds further emotions and enables one to develop more character traits and personalities to their love. In the novel “Eleanor and Park” by Rainbow Rowell, the two protagonists Eleanor and Park show how they resolve conflicts in their relationship, as they both have sentiments of love throughout the novel and discover more emotions and traits with each other, from the heart. Acknowledging this allows one to say that love enables one to show courage, supported by the bus scene when Eleanor was ecstatic, the bus students bullying Eleanor, and Eleanor’s conflict with her family but solved with the help of Park.

It is described as, “governs all types of love from parental love, to friendship, to spiritual love”(Jonas, 3). I tend to show parental love whenever someone I deeply care about needs me. One time when my cousin was sick I had helped him back to health. He was living with me from 2011-2016 because he was going to San Jose State University. He got food poisoning from a Mexican food truck because we already had Taco Bell the day before and he did not want to go back to back, which obviously was a mistake.

Family is a key to life. As a person once said, “ Parenthood requires love not DNA.” The feeling of love to a child from parents shows beauty in family that has many different parts of our world. It show that we are all connected in so many ways. Our world wouldn’t be quit the same if we were all the same.

The love of affection is a term that I feel I have had in my life and was easily portrayed as a need. My parents are the people in who brought me into this world. They have shown me their ways of becoming a person- by me making my own decisions, and most importantly having a walk with Christ. They may have been a pain to me through discipline, but they always have shown me their love through affection.

The foundations of family relationships lies in their love for one another. Sacrifices and expressions of love are essential elements to further strengthen or weaken a family’s bond. How love is expressed between family members is a crucial part in sustaining healthy family relationships. However, if it is not maintained, it can breakdown a family. In King Lear, Lear’s mindset towards conveying love brought his downfall, he measured his daughters’ love by the flattery he received (Shakespeare, 1.44-45). Whereas in The Road, love was communicated between the father and the son by simple gestures of touch, such as forehead kisses (McCarthy, 223). The sacrificial component in each novel played another prominent role in family relationships. In

Madeleine L’Engle reveals the importance of loving relationships through bullying and hatred in the story. L’Engle uses being kind and not judgmental, adapting to one’s surroundings, and putting aside hatred to find love all to relate to the central message of the importance of loving relationships.

Since definition of love and its representation varies person to person and in the past it has already been represented in various ways, which leads one to presume that language is insufficient to represent love. However, it is evident that the language has proved to be sufficient enough to not only analyze, dissect and explain the feelings of love from so many angles including biologically. Subversions of conventions of love is not the matter of insufficiency of language but a matter of how a poet experiences love or how a poet chooses to express those experiences.

According to C.S. Lewis, Affection love is the type of love that comes very naturally to humans. In fact, this type of love is believed to be experienced in the same manner as animals (Lewis, 41). Affection love is the love that we have for people in our lives, such as our parents, siblings, roommates, etc. This love stems from our need to be loved and need to love. Therefore, the ideas of Need love and Gift love become ever present. For example, when a mother hears her newborn baby cry, her Gift love becomes apparent. The Need love of the child – food, a diaper change, or a nap – are what causes the mother to also experience Need love, but in a different manner. The mother’s Need love is to care for her child, which in turn, forms into a Gift love, when she is able to satisfy the needs of her child.