Afghan Wedding Tradition

1337 WordsJun 18, 20186 Pages
Marriage in the traditional Afghan culture has a deep-rooted process through which it treads step by step. Rarely do young men and women have an opportunity to meet each other, and the to-be wife is usually chosen in a haste. When a young man wants to marry a young lady who is from an unknown family, first his parents do some kind of background check about her, trying to know more about her morals, beauty, and other family affairs. If they are contented with what they find, his parents will send a female family member or a relative to her house in order to understand, indirectly or directly, and would disclose the proposal, if the situation is favorable. This consultation process takes some time, and a date is usually fixed to announce…show more content…
The groom's father provides all necessary arrangements and needs of the wedding day for the bride's family. Relatives and friends of the bride come together in her father's house and bring her out to sit among the women gathered in her father's home and waiting for the groom and his friends to come and take her to her home. Partying at the Groom's Home The real party is held in the groom's house where a larger number of people are invited for lunch. A small group of tambourine men stand outside and escort the groom's relatives and friends with their gifts to the house, where another person stands to receive the gifts. The groom's family members serve the people with tea, water, and fresh juices, standing in line in the entrance to receive the guests and lead them to the rooms where they'll be seated. The bride's family sends the white cloth prepared for the groom by at least two teenage boys of her family. The groom gets prepared as people would have taken their lunch and performed the `Asr (Afternoon) Prayer. Then, he rides the horse decorated with a new embroidery cloth at its back. Elders leave to bride's home earlier, and the groom follows them with his friends, singer, and a group of tambourine-men. Men from both sides sit in a room to listen to khutba nikah (Dari for: marriage speech) at the bride's home. The groom is then taken to inside the house, where the bride is waiting him
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