Essay on Against Love

Love is a difficult word to explain, and everyone has their own opinions on what they think it truly means. Romance is a major topic in literature, movies, music, etc.… The world is continuously surrounded by the notion of finding companionship in a single person and staying with them “until death do us part.” In “Against Love” by Laura Kipnis, Kipnis states, “If you love me, you’ll do what I want or need, or demand--- and I’ll love you in return” (Kipnis 805). “Carnal Knowledge” is a prime example of how Kipnis’ claim on love fails. Where a human being can pour his heart out to another person, do all he could to please and satisfy them and receive not an ounce of devotion in return. While everyone is entitled to their own opinions,

When one looks at romantic love, one would conclude that it is a social dyad that brings about certain responsibilities between two people in a relationship such as honesty, protection, openness and expressions of love. (William, 2008: 76). Contrasting with

Growing up children are surrounded with a fairy tale life, the ‘happily ever after.’ As girls we are supposed to wait for our prince charming and he will love us forever; and for boys it is finding and rescuing a beautiful princess who can cook, clean, and is loved by all creatures. That is what marriage is based off of as a child, but that perspective changes once we get a small grasp of the concept of love and we really see what marriage is. Marriage is not something anyone goes into lightly and maybe our expectations of the fairy tale life are why divorce is so commonly sought.

In this global era of evolving civilization, it is increasingly difficult to ignore the fascinating fact about love. Love is a feeling of intimacy, warmth, and attachment. Love is inevitable and it plays a vital role in human life as Janie uses her experience with the pear tree to compare each of her relationships, but it is not until Tea Cake that she finds “a bee to her bloom.” (106).

On the other hand, Laura Kipnis, who is a professor of media studies at North Western University, and the writer of “Against Love”, questions the essential stereotype of the love with mutuality. Kipnis argues that ordinary concepts of the love can make bad effects such as deficiency of emotional affection, character, and personality. Both

In the western world marriage is not doing great. Statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. This sombers my heart and so many people out in the world looking for love. All too often do you hear stories of families getting mauled apart by the spark of love dying. Generations not learning what true happiness and what love really is going forward towards a future of loss. Think of the wonders you would have by changing how society views marriage, less broken homes, more personal

Though strongly desirable, “modern love” carries the peril of the coexistence of love and sex. Kipnis points out that love affair is the rebellious breakaway from the lack of passion in love. While the society is requiring people to abandon their desires, the adulterers live their lives to the fullest. Therefore, they create a utopian romance and pledge their bodies and souls to the new lovers. Such simple action comes from the intolerance of monogamy, as Kipnis indicates that “… Whomever you love today – a beacon of hope, the center of all your optimism – has a good chance of becoming your worst nightmare tomorrow.” Unable to distinguish their feeling through

While people are often able to identify when they feel the emotion love, love itself seems to defy definition.  In her polemic “Against Love”, Laura Kipnis argues that love cannot exist as traditional expressions of love such as marriage, monogamy, and mutuality.  However, in her argument, she defines love incorrectly by equating love to expressions of love. This definition lacks a component essential to understanding the abstract concept of love: emotion. Recognizing love as emotion helps us realize that, contrary to Kipnis’ argument love by nature transcends all expressions of love. Love is subjective and exists in any and all forms. In her argument that love cannot survive as conventional expressions of love, Kipnis ignores the nature of love as emotion in favor of equating love to different expressions of love. Love is a force which exists above expressions of love; a true understanding of love can only come from an assessment of how individuals, not societies, respond to the emotion.

Love has many different meanings to different people. For a child, love is what he or she feels for his mommy and daddy. To teenage boy, love is what he should feel for his girlfriend of the moment, only because she says she loves him. But as we get older and "wiser," love becomes more and more confusing. Along with poets and philosophers, people have been trying to answer that age-old question for centuries: What is love?

Love is difficult to define, difficult to measure, and difficult to understand. Love is what great writers write about, great singers sing about, and great philosophers ponder. Love is a powerful emotion, for which there is no wrong definition, for it suits each and every person differently. Whether love is between family, friends, or lovers, it is an overwhelming emotion that can be experienced in many different ways.

The sanctity of marriage has seemed to have disappeared with the arrival of the 21st century. Though marriage rates have always fluctuated in the past, current events have caused divorce rates to increase. According to recent statistics made by the census bureau, the divorce rate in America is roughly 50 percent. There are a myriad of speculations as to why more people are not staying together. One reason is that people are getting married for the wrong reasons, such as unplanned pregnancies. Another reason is that women have become more independent so that they are not forced in to being in a marriage where they are not happy. Last, lenient divorce laws make it much easier for many couples to get divorced. Combined, these three

Love is a powerful feeling; it makes you do crazy thing. Many people spend years trying to find it, others give up thinking they’ll never find it. Love has been defined as an intensive feeling of a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. Of course, Love doesn 't have to romantic and/or sexual. People who are ace, as in asexual, aromantic and agender, can still be in relationships that are satisfying for them without the needs of a romantic relationship. Familial love is also non-romantic-sexual. However, in this paper, we will be talking about romantic-sexual love, what it is, and why I believe it’s so important to understand and experience.

“Only the dead have seen the end of war.”- Plato. Plato was a philosopher in Classical Greece and the founder of the Academy in Athens, the first institution of higher learning in the Western world. War is nothing new, throughout history we have experienced over hundreds of wars with more in the future. For every war requires soldiers to fight for what they believe in. In most cases the soldiers are on a mission to fight the enemy for their country. Fighting is common between individuals because conflict is inevitable. It can try to be avoided, but as a nation, we can never eliminate it.The way to manage conflict and reduce the damage is less hate and more love. The overall goal of the soldiers is to fight for the interest of the country which is not peace but power. The power is sent to bring peace, once everyone is continent peace will appear. Conflict exists because there is always someone to fight, whether that be in gang or drug wars, or more importantly with politics and war between nations. There will always be a fight to win what someone wants, which can flare war.

I am not in any way saying that marriage is easy and I believe divorce rates are increasingly high because our generation and those past are becoming accustomed to the eases of today’s lifestyle, the marriages that last are the ones that truly understand the commitment that is being made not just seeing it as the final step in a relationship because this is not in any way true. The advancement of a relationship doesn’t end with marriage or children, after all there is a lifetime ahead of you with the person you have married, there will be trials and some of the most difficult times of your life. Marriage requires a commitment to fall in love with that person over and over again each day.

“The Iranian government sees trans and homosexual individuals as people with psychosexual problems, and so provide them with a medical solution”(Neha Thirani Bagri, An Uncomfortable Truth, qz). People around the world do not get the rights they deserve because the government influences and limits people's actions. Nobody should be living in fear, feel held back, or discriminated against because of their sex, race, religion or sexual orientation. Everyone should be given the right of protection, be treated with respect, and not have to live in fear because of who they are.