As odd as it sounds, disasters can lead someone to become the best that they can be. In Piers Paul Read’s book Alive, the story is about the real life events of the survivors of Uruguayan Flight 571’s crash in the Andes and the events that led to their survival. Gregory Boyle’s Tattoos of the Heart, tells stories of Boyle's encounters with different “Homeboys” who grew up in dangerous parts of Los Angeles and how God helped him in his mission to help the kids. Through these two books, both stories have shown traits and conditions that lead to self actualization, the importance of the mind during harsh times, and similarities between both. Achievement and failure can play an incredible role in achieving self actualization. In Alive, the survivors witnessed the horror of seeing friends and family die during the 72 days in the barren …show more content…
Self actualization can not just happen spontaneously, it happens when one realizes that their is a void one's life that needs to be filled. That is when self actualization starts. In Tattoos of the Heart, the women named Carmen comes up to Greg Boyle and asks for help. While Carmen is talking to Boyle, she breaks down and calls herself a disgrace for the life she lives. Carmen is on her way to self actualization. One of the main characteristics of self actualization is to have a realistic view of oneself. Carmen is finally taking responsibility for the life choices she has made. She accepts that she is not living a fulfilling life, and by realizing this, she now knows what she must do in her life to reach her self fulfillment in life. That is a great example of how reaching self actualization is situational, one must come to the point in their lives where he or she decides that something must be change in his or her life in order to self fulfilled. Carmen did just that by admitting her problems, the first step to self
Tattoos on the Heart encompasses many themes, but Fr. Boyle predominantly focuses on life and death. In one distinct instance, Fr. Boyle depicts the story of an unnamed sixteen-year-old homegirl who tells him, with such joy, that she is pregnant. Fr. Boyle is unable to hide his disappointment, which leads the homegirl to say “I just want to have a kid before I die.” (90) This narrative was unfamiliar to my own life experiences, which consequently made the story difficult to relate to. Growing up in a middle class neighborhood I was never fully exposed to death that occurs in young adults due to gang violence, as a result I never knew what it was like to genuinely fear for my life or believe that I was going to die before I turned eighteen.
The book I read to better understand and gain sympathy for returning citizens is Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion (ISBN 978-1439153154) by Father Gregory Boyle, S.J. $14 can afford this 240-page autobiography about a Jesuit priest serving one of the most troubled neighborhoods in the most unique way.
Have you ever wondered if the ordeals you went through could become a “rite of passage?” These ordeals could be a big event that could change a person’s entire foundation, such as marriage, or it can be something small, like being inspired to cook because of feedback. The novella, “The Body” written by Gordie Lachance, elaborates about the author’s childhood where he and his friends went through an ordeal that is a rite of passage. This ordeal was considered a journey for the boys as they believed in the frame and glory once they found the corpse of Ray Browser, a young boy around the same age as the author and his friends. The journey started out as an easygoing adventure, a playful type that could be considered as an innocent boy running in the park playing tag with his buddies. However, the journey changes into a more “serious business” for the author and his friends have to face many circumstances where it becomes flight-or-fight situations. In the novella, Gordie reveals many insights into the characteristics of his friends and himself
No matter the circumstance, people will always be able to learn something to improve their lifestyle. It might be dire and serious, or light-hearted and fun. Whatever the case, the experience people gain from that situation is what aids to develop their persona. In “What Football Taught Me” by Donald Murray and “Suicide’s Forgotten Victims” by Lisa Keiski, both writers learn life lessons from their experiences. Despite emotional and physical exhaustion, Murray and Keiski learned life lessons through society, authority figures, and self-awareness.
Faith is supposed to be something that one allows to guide them through everything. They’re supposed to believe, in good times and bad, that whatever God or Gods they believe in will get them through anything. Unfortunately, faith can be put to the test when one is placed in harsh, difficult situations. The victims of the Holocaust lived with this intense struggle to maintain faith to the worst extent. Elie Wiesel’s personal experience with the struggle to maintain faith is conveyed in his novel, Night.
Resilience is the power or the ability to return to the original form. “Resilience is born by grounding yourself in your own loveliness, hitting notes you thought were way out of your range” (94). Father Gregory Boyle says this because he knows that resilience is needed in order to change. Resilience is important because we can become better people by doing things, we thought we couldn’t do. In the book, Tattoos on the Heart, The Power of Boundless Compassion, Boyle claims resilience is essential in our lives because it is the key to do better.
In Tattoos on the Heart, the reader accompanies Father Gregory Boyle throughout a series of heart-warming conversions he conducts through his interactions with numerous gang members in the Los Angeles projects. Likewise, J.D. Vance in Hillbilly Elegy constructs a memoir of his tumultuous upbringing in the Midwest as well as of his familial roots in Kentucky. A commonality throughout the novels is the poverty faced by members of these communities and how it contributes to the conflicts that drive the plot. The topic of poverty, its causes, and possible solutions has always interested me a lot due to a concept of the Lottery of Birth, which is a philosophical position that comes up frequently in my debate competitions. Basically, where we are born, in terms of one’s position and class in society, is arbitrary; I did not choose to be born in the socioeconomically comfortable neighborhood of Massapequa Park. This is a perpetual unfairness to which there is no solution, but there has to be some action that can alleviate the suffering of the over three billion people worldwide who live on less than three dollars a day (DoSomething.org).
The theme of this novel is to look at the good you do in life and how it carries over after your death. The moral of the book is; "People can make changes in their lives whenever they really want to, even right up to the end."
In his novel Tattoos on the Heart, author Father Gregory Boyle S.J. shares his experiences as a pastor in the gang capital of the United States, Los Angeles, in an attempt to persuade his readers to look at gang members with a more humane perspective. To help his readers relate to the gang members, Fr. Boyle recounts personal anecdotes about the many gang members he works with and their journeys towards changing their lives. Through his use of colloquial language and informal diction and his narration of personal stories, Fr. Boyle creates an intimate tone accomplishes his purpose of discrediting the stereotypes associated with gangs and depicting a human face worthy of respect and sympathy. Though Boyle published this novel in 2010, his insight and wisdom on the state of gang violence still hold true today, and he continues to inspire his readers to recognize the tragedies many gang members face in their everyday lives.
Gregory Boyle begins chapter eight: “Success with a few questions that seem so simplistic at first glance. What is success and what is failure? What is good and what is bad? Setback or progress?” (Boyle 167). Taking a few moments to process these questions, one realizes that the question is quite complex and difficult. Success has such a subjective definition that it can only be defined by the one who answers the question of “what is success to you?” and has no universal definition. Specifically with gang members, success in the context of their lives is about personal growth and less about tangible results. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will
To begin with, the theme of self-discovery is unmistakable in this novel. Discovering one’s self is an important
In conclusion, a person must go through a series of step/stages to reach “self-actualization.” They must achieve his/his “safety” and “physiological” needs “(basic needs).” “Esteem” and “belongingness and love” needs “(psychological needs)” to reach the stage of “self-actualization.” Psychological theories helps us better understand why a character does what he/she did. Using the psychological theory can help people reach the stage of self-actualization. Although, some may not reach this stage due to natural or un-natural
Society often fail to understand and see the mental pain that individuals carry throughout their lives. Some people bear its burden, while others suffer greatly because of it, to the point of choosing self-destruction. The narrators from “The Gargoyle” (Davidson) and “Walk to Morning” (Boyden) both experience this pain that ultimately sets them on a course to a deep pit. They survive their near-deaths and later encounter unique life-changing people. As a result, they become better individuals.
When we do so, self actualisation will occur. Rogers likened this actualisation process to the growth of plants, having an innate tendency to grow from a seed to full potential when exposed to favourable conditions. Rogers believed that for a person to achieve self-actualisation they must be in a state of congruence, thus, self-actualisation occurs when a person’s ideal self is congruent with their actual behaviour and self-image. For the client to self actualise; key principals must be employed during the counselling process. Outlined as follows:
Have you ever experienced being alone? Everyone has, or likely will, at some point in their life. But how about for 94 days, carrying a backpack that weighs nearly as much as you do containing all you have to survive off, by foot? Or what about 227 days, floating through the ocean on a tipsy life boat, with limited supplies, little to no sense of direction, and a huge Bengal tiger to watch out for? Probably not. Both of these scenarios involve extreme human conditions. On the theme of a person’s conditions both challenging and shaping who they are, there are two novels that stand out in the exploration of this topic, and they are Life of Pi and Wild By Cheryl Strayed.