An Abstract of Bernard's the Good-Provider Role: It's Rise and Fall of the Good Provider

Families are organized with fathers as the figures in control and the mothers are subordinate to them. Mothers, however, take compete charge of the children, and so from a child’s point of view, mothers appear to be authority figures as well. Children are obligated to respect and obey these authoritative figures. (p. 103)

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Theroux, P. “Being a Man” English 102 Reader. Bedford/St. Martin’s. Boston, 2013 pages. 358-361. Print

In “Before Manliness Lost Its Virtue” (2017), David Brooks (a New York Times Op-Ed columnist) claims that we are living in a “crisis of masculinity” (15). David Brooks backs up his claim by comparing and contrasting manliness of the men in the White House (the “”I don’t care what you think” manliness” [2] and the “the look-at-me-I-can-curse manliness”[2] ) to men in ancient Greece (“real men defended or served their city”[6] the “The manly man… risks death and criticism.”[8] and “They are constantly picking fights”[9].) to the ideal man (“The magnanimous leader… uses his traits… to create a just political order.”[11]).

The word patriarchy is rarely openly used to describe modern day American society, yet it is the root of all gender relations. The widely accepted notion that men naturally evolved to become the superior sex is a myth. Aaron Devor’s “Becoming Members of Society: Learning the Social Meanings of Gender,” and Michael Kimmel’s “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code,” both argue that the gender hierarchy America has been built upon is the product of socialization. Devor 's essay, written more like a research paper, focuses on explaining the origins of the gender myth through well-researched scientific evidence and logos. To reflect his writing style, he mainly talks about the physical effects this has had on male and female characteristics. In his

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy” (SOURCE). Manhood and being a “real man” is defined in many different ways depending on the person. However, most of these things that men are defined by can be done by any gender and there are people that make it their work to prove that. The social construct of manhood has overall negative consequences on society; however, not all men uphold this construct, and can prove to be advocates of change.

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Although each culture views families and how they treat each other differently than other cultures, but when it comes to the traditional two-parent, nuclear family type, the relationship ties can be strained. Since the father would typically be out for the day working and the mother at home with the children, the mother spends the most time with the kids forming a stronger bond than the father might. Leading into the next function, economic cooperation, in which the work done at home is often not paid for resulting in the mother losing say or power over what occurs within their family. In addition, it compiles more tension and stress onto women due to 1950’s TV shows of how a family should be. In the article, “In Search Of A Golden Age,” Stephanie

As Ehrmann states in the opening scene, “If you're going to be a man in this world, you better learn how to dominate and control people and circumstances.” This quote summarizes the never-ending goal men must meet in our society. This goal, of maintaining masculinity, has lead to the violence, depression, and confusion among males. In the film, they examine the cause and effect of male gender-policing in our society. Through personal anecdotes and expert testimony, the film sheds light on the painful cost of masculinity in America.

As a meteor enters the earth’s atmosphere, it often disintegrates in a fiery ball and leaves nothing but ashes. By the 20th century, the American self-made man existed in a similar state. Since the American Revolution, American men’s identities clung to the promises of the self-made archetype, which focused on the public accumulation of wealth and status. This hunger for success focused on the qualities of mobility, competiveness, and aggressiveness. For over two centuries, these qualities thrusted America onto the world stage. By the late 20th century, the new, modern world threatened the American self-made man’s existence. Debilitating events such as the closing of the frontier; gender and racial equality; and economic instability all contributed to the self-made man’s downfall. Thus, in crumbling under the ashes of the self-made man, contemporary American men must forge a new definition of manhood. Although not all negative, the qualities of the self-made man created this crisis of manhood. Other scholars, such as Michael Kimmel, attempted, but failed to fully mend the issue. In continuation, this paper serves to do what other historians could not complete; establish the foundation for true manhood. In such an endeavor, the best attributes of the previously established manhood

These rules foster a certain type of man. One who takes charge and leads, one whose primary concern is, “Being a Man Among Men,” (Kimmel 464). However, it also creates a person who suppresses his feelings in fear of being labeled as effeminate. The stigma dictates that attributes typically associated with women are unmasculine, so as boys turn to men, “Along the way they suppress all the feelings they associate with the maternal--compassion, nurturance, vulnerability, dependency,” (Kimmel 469). This pattern of suppression has not changed much in recent years. Society still enforces the idea that men should be strong and stoic, when these traits are no longer what are needed to be successful in the workforce.

The 21st century has changed the definitions of true manhood from being stringent to more open. With these two characteristics, men are urged to continue to have egalitarian relationships with their wives, encouraged to forgo some financial/career success so that they can develop a close relationship with their family, pushed to spend time with family in organized activities, and demonstrate moral courage in all areas. The basic characteristics that men need to become equipped with are still devotion to morals and resiliency from temptation. These two characteristics are more important today then they may have been in the past. Without these two characteristics, men are left weak and vulnerable to the dangerous that lay ahead when trying to become a true man. These two characteristics are the most salient at a basic level and encourage men to forge on so that they may gain additional characteristics that blossom from these

The whole idea of manhood in America is pitiful, in my opinion. This version of masculinity is a little like having to wear an ill-fitting cat for one’s entire life…. Even the expression “Be a man!” strikes me as insulting and abusive. It means: Be stupid, be unfeeling, obedient, soldierly and stop thinking…. it not only insists on difference and connives at superiority, it is also by its very nature

alternating priorities of family and business affairs, as explored by Hochschild, are in a perfect

Talcott Parsons argues this statement, by saying, that there are two broad functions of the family- primary socialisation and stabilisation of the adult personality ‘throughout the emotional security, including sexual expression, provided by marriage’ (O'Donnell, 1997).