An Example Of Authoritative And Authoritarian Parenting For Children

Our home consisted of 7 children (I am the 3rd child), we went to church every Sunday and were taught the importance of church and living good values. These values were taught for the most part in an authoritarian parenting style. Authoritarian parenting “does not encourage verbal give and take, believing that the child should accept her word for what is right” (Baumrind pg. 890). My mother, was for the most part a stay at home mom and was more of an uninvolved parent, “showing little to no affection or encouragement (Maccoby)” As children we did our own thing, but we understood what was expected. For example, every August, the task of replenishing our food storage was in full force (this was my mom’s responsibility), by canning, peaches,

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

The parenting style in the home will result in differences in the children’s behavior. For example, an authoritarian parent is controlling, punitive and strict. Their rules are not flexible and do not tolerate expressions of disagreement. These

Growing up, I personally felt the echoes of authoritarian parenting, as my parents seemed to be abnormally strict compared to my other friends. From not being able to watch Disney Channel and Nickelodeon to walking alone downtown to using the restroom by myself, it seemed there was always something I was begging my parents to be able to do that they were constantly shutting down with a no. At the time, it was infuriating; it felt like everything I did in my life had some sort of limitation. However, looking on those experiences now, I realize why those limitations were put in place. The decisions my parents made for me were out of caution because they love me. For example, the book Freakonomics by Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner discusses the reluctance behind letting a child stay at the home of a gun-owner. Even if the statistics do not prove that this is a highly dangerous situation, it initiates a feeling of fear in a parent that their child is not in a safe environment. When looking at statistics, you can see that the amount of children that die from a gunshot in this situation are very few, yet that doesn’t seem to comfort the worry of parents.

A fixed mindset is when someone believes the abilities you are born with are the ones you will always have, and they cannot be changed. Children who possess a fixed mindset are likely to attribute their success to pure luck and their failures to ability or lack thereof. This is also known as learned helplessness. Children with a growth mindset, however, have a contrasting perspective. They believe abilities can be improved over time with an input of effort. They attribute their success to their abilities and their failures to variables that can be easily altered. As I have mentioned in the past, I fall under the authoritative parenting style. Because an authoritative parenting style is firm but caring and encouraging, I have cultivated a growth

According to the article, The Authoritative Parenting Style: Warmth, Rationality, and High-Standards, “The authoritative parenting approach is linked with the most successful child outcomes.” One of the major focuses is finding a middle ground between too much freedom, and being too strict. It reflects a balance between two values, freedom and responsibility. The responsibility allows for the child to mature and organize their lives by doing tasks such as studying, getting good grades, just make to make good decisions overall. The freedom allows them to have a mind of their own; to hopefully apply making good decisions in life. It also gives them a chance to experience how the real world is. Authoritarian parenting would disagree with this tactic. There’s a belief that if a child is granted freedom, the child is being set up for failure. They do not see the point of freedom when keeping them to high-standards and strict rules will ensure that failure isn’t an option. While I can understand the point being made, it’s a bad parenting tactic. When a child doesn’t experience any bad, how are they supposed to function in the real world? They need freedom to be able to deal with disappointment or failure when they come across it when

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We all have had parents or caregivers that raised us in ways in which they thought would make us into good people. Some parent’s were very strick with their children, while some were the complete opposite. However, according to Balswick and Balswick (2014), ”Children who grow up without adequate guidance become fertile ground for authoritarian leaders or cults that prey on neglected young people” (p. 113). Also, according to Wilson et al. (2011), maltreated children are in constant state of stress which can permanently damage their brains, speeding of slowing down emotional responses. So, how is a parent to raise a children so they are not preyed upon, abused nor neglected? Diana Baumrind, a clinical and developmental psychologist has tried to answer this question through her reserch. She studied children and thier parents and came up with four parenting styles. According to Berger (2014) those parenting styles are authoritarian, permissive and authoritative. Authoritarian parents shows little support for their children and are very controlling (Balswick & Balswick, 2014). They demand a kind of blind obedience from the children. Permissive parents are very supportive but have little control over their children (Balswick & Balswick, 2014). This type of parent is reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to let their children to regulate themselves. Authoritative parenting occupies a sort of middle ground between granting too much freedom and being

The less content, insecure, apprehensive, less affiliative with peers, and more likely to be hostile under pressure children had parents that displayed a more authoritarian style of parenting. That these parents were less nurturing, less involved, offered little reasoning behind decisions, were very firm, expected obedience without question, discouraged expression, and appeared more frightening to their children were given the authoritarian

I will reflect on my own experiences to address this journal. My inmediate family consisted of both of my parents and two siblings (I was the second and middle one). Our family was of a low-socioeconomic status. Nevertheless, we lived in a relatively good neighborhood. My parents, in particular my father used an authoritarian parenting style to raise us. The authoritarian parenting style is a restrictive pattern of parenting in which adults set many rules for their offspring, demand strict obedience, and rely on authority rather than rationale to elicit compliance (Shaffer & Kipp, 2010); physical punishment and other methods of physical discipline are frequently used as means of correction (Secombe, 2011). Nevertheless, it must be said that such practices were common during my upbringing (1970’s to 1980’s). Even

The authoritarian parenting can also be refers to as strict style of parenting whereby parent set down rules and holding high standard without questioning, discussion of emotion or expression of affection from the children. This parenting style is a highly demanding of their children and are directive, but unresponsive. If their children are unable to follow the rules or “misconduct”, they will be punished usually physical. Authoritarian parenting believes in holding their child high level of achievement and status. Their desire for discipline is often dominant in this relationship, that the relationship itself is devoid or low in love, affection and nurturing. Children of such parents are usually focused in studies and tend to make good grades because of the high expectation from their parent. The negative impact is that they are not socially developed, shy, unconfident and lack decision making as they their parent never motivate and encourage them to develop opinion.

There are three parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative and permissive. Authoritarian parents usually construct specific regulation and expectations for their children but do not explain the reasoning behind their rules. They also make their children understand the consequences in the form of punishment upon violation of the regulation, hence leaving limited space for discussion and negotiation of the constructed rules (Kim 8). Authoritative parents set up clear standards for their children as well; however, they allow their children to develop a sense of autonomy and participate in discussion towards discipline (Kim 8). These methods are correlated with increased depressive symptoms and lower self-esteem. Unlike the above two types, permissive parents usually offer fewer rules and guidance towards the children's behavior. They respect their children’s desires and needs and require less in return (Kim 8). As a result, Kim finds that only authoritative parenting significantly associates with positive child outcomes, including academic success and instrumental competence (Kim 8).

Not to say that one parenting style is the right for everyone, but overall authoritarian seems to not by the ideal choice when it comes to raising children. Parents are able to choose how they raise their children differently from others. Tracy Trauner, a educator at Michigan State University, explains how these different ways parents raise young can be put into either a Authoritative, Neglectful, Permissive, or Authoritarian category(What’s Your Parenting Style). These types of parenting styles are all unique and have some difference between them. The American Psychological Association describes Authoritative, Neglectful, and Permissive parenting styles. They describe Authoritative as parents who nurture, respond and support their children

They balance their strictness with love and understanding. The punishment that they give out is somewhat lenient, but at the same time they still enforce their rules and the disappointment when they break them. Authoritative parenting produces children with the highest self-esteem, self reliance, and social competence. They usually have the best relationship with their parents and are well rounded. They have a nice balence of work and play in their

This scenario involves a boy age 8 that is practicing for little league baseball. School has just started and the boy has been practicing after school with his friends. Baseball is something that he enjoys very much. His father also enjoys the sport, and expects his son to be one of the best on the team. While practicing before a game the boy pitches his friend a curve ball. The boy starts to feel pain in his shoulder and wrist as he continues to pitch the ball. As the game begins, he sees his father in the stands rooting for his team. He pitches the first ball to the best of his ability, but the second ball does him in. His shoulder is so sore that he can barely move it. The coach takes the boy out of the game.