No one question the positive effect of feeling good, but are there any benefits from unpleasant emotions? It seems that people has been chasing for good mood in the last 2 decades, but there are several people trying to find positive influences for feeling bad underneath. In the Psychology Today article “Beyond Happiness: The Upside of Feeling Down” (2015), Hutson focuses his attention on the how human beings benefit themselves from negative emotions. Hutson has some strong point that there are many positive effects from negative emotions, which are expressing anger is good in negotiation, guilt can motivate individuals to fix the mistake, and envy is one of the motivation to drive people to success.
In” Beyond Happiness: The Upside of Feeling
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At the first place, he talks about how fear and anxiety affect human’s life. Fear is people’s protection and a useful tool to face the threat and prepare to flee from the danger situation. Hutson points out that the response of fear is not controlled by human’s will, but it relates to the evolution. He also claims that people tend to be uncritical risk-takers without fear anything, especially unnecessary risk could hurt people themselves. When you feel the fear but you don’t know the reason, you turn fear into anxiety. The benefits from anxiety, based on Hutson’s information, is that it will stimulate people attention and self-discipline. Anxiety can also provide individuals a corrective purpose to let them being true to themselves. Then Hutson points out that regret happens when you want to undo and change your mind and it will let people think carefully before they act. Humans’ brain will highlight the mistake people made before, because it is a good chance to increase their own abilities. Author also believed that regret is a kind of motivation to encourage us to fix what we made wrong before. Regret arise when people realized if they took a different action they will get a different result, while disappointment is the result is worse than your expectation. The benefits of regret are that it will bring people together to share their stories and make each other humbler or more vulnerable. Hutson thinks …show more content…
First, anger comes from being undervalued. Expressing anger can show others that angry people believe that they are underestimate. In other words, this could let the rest of individuals think twice about angry people’s ability, which means showing anger can change others opinions about undervaluing people. Having a second chance to display the ability that are ignored at first will help people in the negotiation. Second, expressing anger can let others fear you in negotiation. Recent research in negotiations (Van Kleef et al., 2003) has shown that expressing one’s anger can make rivals to feel fear and make larger concessions. What more, showing anger can also prevent oneself from being duped. Third, those who expressing anger are seen as higher in social status, because people are afraid of those who are powerful or who do well in the field where normal individuals are not good at. People can demonstrate a higher value by showing angry in the appropriate occasion. That makes sense because it is rare to see the normal people to show their anger to authority or powerful person compared with feeling fear of them. In sum, expressing anger can let people revalued, make concessions for those rivals who feel the fear, and display a higher social status. There is no doubt that showing one’s anger can benefit people in the
In the article “In Pursuit Of Unhappiness” by Darrin McMahon (2005) he informs the reader that you don't have to make it a happy new year you could make someone else's year happy. McMahon supports his claim with using quotes from a lot of different people.His purpose is to tell the reader that you don't need to have a happy you could make someone else's year happy. McMahon supports his claim by using quotes from many different people. His purpose is to educate the reader that you don't need to be happy in order to make your year happy.McMahon uses a didactic relationship with his audience of middle aged americans. I agree with McMahon and how don't alwasy have to have a happy new year instead you could make some one elses year happy.In my
From the perspective of positive psychology, there is a well-being formula invested by Martin Seligman to achieve a higher well-being. Martin Seligman (2010) defined as happiness: H (to maintain the length of happiness) = S (happy range breadth) + V (you can control the factors) + C (your living environment). Happy length: the distinction between "temporary" happy and "persistent" happy. Temporary happiness can be achieved by food, comedy, bunch of flowers. While the persistence of happiness is mainly affected by genetic, and this genetic trait can be changed. The breadth of happiness: psychologists think that we are born with a happy constant point, like a thermometer. If there is a happier thing, even if we are upset, it will be dedicated
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This paper will examine Robert C. Solomon's Emotions and Choices article, to best identify what anger is, and to what extent a rational human being is responsible for their anger. Firstly, Solomon's argument must be described. A quick summation of Solomon's argument can be found in the following four points: Emotions are judgements, emotions are chosen, emotions serve a purpose, and emotions are rational.1 To quote Solomon, he explains that “Emotions are not occurrences, and do not happen to us. They ... may be chosen like an action.”2
Some people argue that happiness helps make good decisions because happy people strive for the best result. David states, “[Positive emotions] help build vital social, physical, and cognitive resources that lead to positive outcomes and affiliations” (124). David points out that with the right amount of positivity, people make good judgments. The author acknowledges that happiness can have benefits, but she states that too much happiness could hurt human development because the mind does not consider the consequences of an action. Julie Norem, a psychology professor, points out, “’If you’re a pessimist who really thinks through in detail what might go wrong, that’s a strategy that’s likely to work very well for you’” (qtd. in Wallis). She explains
In our culture, it is considered extremely rude and dishonorable if you show your anger in public. On the other hand, it is a mark of sophistication and good breeding if you can control your temper and treat everyone with goodwill.
In The Happiness Hypothesis Jonathan Haidt talks about how our brains work and how best to find happiness with the different ways it works. Haidt describes the different ways a positive and negative person’s brain works and how each can find happiness through various and different methods. He also discusses different aspects of society that can affect our level of happiness. All of these things can be considered to find the best way to raise your level of happiness.
Known for his research on affective forecasting, the prediction of how the future can affect ones emotional state, Daniel Gilbert, wrote a book explaining how people tend to have delusions of their future which often misleads peoples’ happiness. This Harvard college professor of psychology published one of the best time selling books, Stumbling on Happiness, arguing that imagination is what triggers peoples joy. As a social psychologist Gilbert wanted to understand what is it that truly causes that feeling to come. People continue believing in beliefs that aren’t necessary true simply because people and society can’t handle the truth. For instance, if you give up after a failure, you will never reach your goals.
In addition, dealing with emotions allows people to feel the emotions as they arise within each person. When a person feels angry, they should allow themselves to feel that anger, and vent it out in some form or the other, without causing any harm to others. Unlike Lady Macbeth starts to feeling angry, nervous, scared, and freaks out when she thinks and imagines the blood on her hands. She states, “O, proper stuff! This is the very painting of your fear. This is the air-drawn dagger which you said Led you to Duncan. O, these flaws and starts,
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Within The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt, he mentions that there are two ancient truths concerning how the mind works. The first truth is the foundational idea of the book: the mind is divided into parts that sometimes conflict with each other. The second truth is Shakespeare’s idea about how “thinking makes it so.” (or, as Buddha said, “Our life is the creation of our mind.”) Like a rider, on the back of an elephant, the conscious, reasoning part of the mind has only limited control of what the elephant does. Nowadays, we know the cause of these divisions, and a few ways to help the rider and the elephant work as a better team. We can improve this ancient idea today by explaining why most people’s minds have a bias toward seeing threats and engaging in useless worry. To change this bias, we can use three techniques to increase happiness, one ancient, and two very new.
The story of the movie The Pursuit of Happyness directed by Gabriele Muccino portrays a family who struggles with finding enough money to pay taxes and afford living expenses. The movie takes a place in San Francisco during the 80s. The two main characters are the father Chris Gardner and his son Christopher, Will Smith and Jaden Smith respectively. Gardner tries to support his family. But every time he attempts to make things better, they always end up worse. Gardner in the story wonders on "how to be happy?" He earns his money by selling the bone density
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Success is extremely coveted in the society, however on the path to success, obstacles will stand in the way. Failure is inevitable and the response of an individual towards these obstacles and the failures in their lives determines whether or not they will have success. Failure gives allowance to learn from mistakes and motivates to do better the next time. The Pursuit of Happyness uses lighting, music and camera angles to give viewers an insight into Chris’ journey through the film demonstrating his resiliency, optimism and loving personality. Filmmaker, Gabriele Muccino, uses the protagonist, Chris’ final triumph to illustrate the significance of failure in achieving success.
The article Born to Be Happy, Through a Twist of Human Hard Wire by Richard A Friedman addresses both psychiatric and scientific aspects of physiological disorders. The main concern of this article in tales what makes individuals happy or obtain happiness and also explaining how psychiatric illnesses alter their happiness. Friedman’s main disorder explained is a temperament disorder called hyperthymia a mental illness that is rare in America. Friedman’s definition of hyperthymia states, “Constant joyous temperament, energetic and productive and are often the envy of all who know them because they don’t have to work at it” (Friedman par 3). Prior to this definition Richard provides two of his