Caroline Luby
English 9 CP Period 6
Mrs. Gowanlock
November 6, 2015
How Lily Comes of Age Through lies Lying is a very important thing in the real world, it happens quite often and people realize that it’s not right. In Sue Monk Kidd’s The Secret Life of Bees, there are many lies that characters tell throughout the story and when the lies are told Lily is coming of age. The lies that are told contribute to the growth of the characters. Some of the lies that were told was when T.Ray lies to Lily about her mother. Another lie is when Lily lies to the Boatwright’s about her past, and what had happened to her mother and father. A lie that is mentioned throughout the book is when May lies to everyone and says that she is fine but she is not. Lastly
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Ray lying to Lily about her mom is a very big scene in the book, because this is mentioned quite often throughout the novel and it appears in about almost every chapter. This connects to Lily coming of age because when T. Ray is lying to her throughout the book, she starts to catch onto it, because she is getting older and she is starting to mature more. She also starts to figure out more things about her mother through Rosaleen and the Boatwright sisters: “My mother died when I was 4 years old” (Kidd 4). Lily is coming of age because she now understands that what she did wasn’t good and she wants to take it back. It also relates because Lily is starting to realize that her father is not trustworthy and he might be lying: “My first and only memory of my mother was the day she died” (5). Lily then had to figure out how to survive without her in her life. Lily never really knew anything about her mother because she shot her, but she always remembered what happened on that day. After this happened she always bugged T. Ray to tell her about her mom: “The day she died was December 3rd 1954” (5). Lily is coming of age during this because she has to learn to live without a mom. This part connects to the thesis because Lily starts to think that some of the things he say’s might not be true. She starts to realize right from …show more content…
She really wasn't fine because she had killed herself. Lily seems really worried about May and what is happening to her because she has been gone for a while: “I’ll go with you said August. May spoke over her shoulder. No, please, August, just me.” (188). In this it starts to sound like something is really wrong with May because she wants to be alone. After a while everyone in the house starts to worry about her because she is usually back by now. Lily is also coming of age because she is starting to realize more things that are happening: “After 20 minutes she said that’s it let's go get her” (189). Everyone starts to worry that something is wrong. When the Boatwright’s all find May they all seem shocked about why she would do this to herself and not say anything: “ May lay in 2 feet of water with a huge river stone on top of her chest” (192). They all see her and just stand there, speechless, May should have told them what was going on because they might have been able to help. It relates to the thesis because Lily is starting to realize that lying isn’t good and bad things might happen if the truth isn’t
Ray was Lily’s abusive father that does not care about Lily’s clothing, sleepovers, or even football games (8). (SS) When Lily calls T. Ray and he cannot answer a simple question about her, she tries to convince herself that it does not matter by telling herself, “Don’t cry. Don’t you dare cry. So what if he doesn’t know the color you love best? So what?” (160). (SS) Lily has the idea that she is “unlovable” and wonders “who could love her” (242). (SS) But little does Lily know that a very significant figure will come into her life and will show Lily what being loved by a “family” member feels like. (PS) August Boatwright, an African American beekeeper, shows Lily her empathetic heart right when Lily walks through her door. (SS) When Lily comes to the Boatwright household seeking for a place to stay, August opens up her home to Lily, exclaiming, “Well, you can stay here till you figure out what to do. We can’t have you living on the side of the road” (72). (SS) August could have turned Lily away and told her to find another place to stay, but she graciously opens up her home to Lily. (SS) In the same way, when Lily faints of embarrassment during a Daughters of Mary gathering, August acts as if it is her fault by telling Lily, “I should’ve turned on the fans in
Phi·los·o·phy- the study of the fundamental nature of knowledge, reality, and existence, more so when considered as an academic discipline. Throughout The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd, Lily Owens shows her thoughts on life and what it meant to her. At the start of the novel, she is an innocent girl whose reality comprised of kneeling on grits and an angry T. Ray. Once she has the truth of her mother’s death etched into her head, everything Lily considers is right became wrong. In a matter of hours, she aged from 14 to 40 years of age. With age comes wisdom, and as she progressed throughout the novel, her philosophy of life changed with her. By the end of The Secret Life of Bees, Lily Owens experienced love, anger, happiness, and sadness in larger doses than most 14-year-old girls. With
The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd is a book discussing the internal strife of a young white girl, in a very racist 1960’s south. The main character, Lily Owens, faces many problems she must overcome, including her personal dilemma of killing her own mother in an accident. Sue Monk Kidd accurately displays the irrationality of racism in the South during mid- 1960's not only by using beautiful language, but very thoroughly developed plot and character development. Kidd shows the irrationality of racism through the characters in her book, The Secret Life of Bees and shows that even during that time period, some unique people, were able to see beyond the heavy curtain of racism that separated people from each
Lily starts to feel that she has developed a bond with the Boatwright sisters. Lily does not have a good relationship with her father. He makes her feel unwanted and abuses her verbally and physically. Lily’s father comes to the Boatwright’s residence and demands that Lily returns home with him but she refuses. The sisters inform the father that Lily can stay with them and they pledge to take good care of her, “ I still remember telling myself that when he drove away that day he wasn’t saying good riddance; he was saying, Oh, Lily, you’re better off in that house of coloured women. You never would have flowered with me like you will with them” (Kidd 299-300). Lily came to the realization that her father was not fit to provide her with the love and nurturing that she deserved. The sisters provided her with a loving environment where she feels protected. Also, the Boatwright sisters, especially August, are strong female role models. Lily will model her ideals, values and morals after the Boatwright
Once Lily accepts what she has done and learns that her mother's death did not make her a bad person, her conflict can finally be resolved. As a result of resolving her conflict, she is able to mature because of the struggle, just like other people are able to grow and evolve from their own mistakes. This is evident when she admits "Before coming here, my whole life had been nothing but a hole where my mother should have been, and this hole had made me different, left me always aching for something, but never once did I think what he'd lost or how it might've changed him" (Kidd 293). Lily finally realizes that her mother's death has not only affected her, but also her father, T. Ray, and the calendar sisters. Through the course of Lily's struggle, Lily learns a lot about life and matures into a wiser
Lily starts off stuck living in an unloving, abusive household and decides to free herself from the negative atmosphere that she had been living in her whole life. Lily is perpetually abused by her father. He forces her to kneel on Martha White's, gets exasperated every time she speaks, and yells at her for no reason. Lily is not the only one noticing the terrible treatment, Rosaleen does too. Once after Lily had to kneel on the Martha White's Rosaleen said to her, “Look at you, child. Look what he’s done to you” (Kidd 25). Noticing the unloving treatment Lily gets, Rosaleen knew that their household was demoralizing place for Lily to be in, which is why she didn’t question when Lily when she later runs away. Lily one day realizes she needs to do something about her horrible life at home. While sitting in her room she hears a voice in her
When lily went to South Carolina she goes to a lady named August. August is very artifice. Lily stays at her honey house for several months with her aunt Rooselyn. As she lives there she goes through many adventures and meets a ton of new people. She meets her true love Zach and two sister of August named May and June. She finds out a lot about her mother. She finds out that her mother Deborah stayed at the same honey house. She also finds out that her mother ran away from T-Ray when he was abusive. At the end T-Ray finds Lily at Augusts house and he threatens her that she has to come back home with him. Lily fights and eventually convinces T-Ray that she is better off with August and forgives him.
Everyone has a secret life that they keep hidden from the rest of the world. Lies are told on a daily basis in order to keep these lives stashed in the dark. In The Secret Life of Bees, by Sue Monk Kidd, the bees are the ones that have the most secret life of all. They each have their own specific role to play deep within the hive. It's obvious that the author had meant for some of her characters to portray the roles that these buzzing insects have to dutifully fulfill every duty. Lily and Zach are the field bees, August is a nurse bee, and the Lady of Chains is the Queen bee.
In exactly fifty pages, Lily goes from, “My mother had left me. I hate her” (Kidd 251) to “… I have forgiven us both…” (Kidd 301). For the first thirteen of fourteen chapters, Lily hates her mother, and she makes this very clear. She directly tells August: “My mother had left me. I hate her” (Kidd 251). It’s not until August explains that Lily’s mother, Deborah, “... was practically skin and bone… And all she did was cry for a week,” that Lily starts to understand why she had to leave: she was being treated abusively by T. Ray (Kidd 252). Once Lily has this information, she begins the healing and forgiving process. This process is also helped along by Lily finally knowing the full truth about her mother’s mysterious death. The fact that Lily physically chases T. Ray as he’s about to leave the Boatwright’s house shows that she is ready to know, once and for all, the truth about her mother’s death. She is prepared for the possibility that she did in fact kill her mother. By allowing herself to know the truth, she forgives herself and her mother for leaving. She even says, “I guess I have forgiven us both, although sometimes in the night my dreams will take me back to the sadness, and I have to wake up and forgive us again” (Kidd 301). Progress in the process of Lily forgiving herself and her mom is clearly shown. Overall, she has condoned the actions of her mother, but still has little “flashbacks” or moments of weakness where she has to forgive
T. Ray had not stopped at tearing her down physically, for he had the strong desire to hack away at what is left of her mental state. By painting such a scarring image of Deborah next to the one Lily made with optimism and fondness, T. Ray’s mirage overshadowed Lily’s impression. This causes her to leave him and start a new chapter in her life. T. Ray’s bestial actions were crucial reasons that influenced Lily’s decision to leave her father and begin her pathway through the perplexing road of her mother’s life.
She is expressed as dealing with “teenage problems” if I do say so myself a lot of issues that most teenagers have: identity, popularity, self-consciousness, and parental issues. The 14-year-old throughout her story feels a deep sense of longing for her mother as she did not know her, because she died when Lily was only 4 years old. In Chapter 1, Lily talks about how she misses her mother, and how she feels completely responsible for the fact that she doesn't have her. This quote, "This is what I know about myself. She was all I wanted. And I took her away," is significant to the whole plot, because it helps us understand one of Lily's main concerns and desires. I myself have lost a parent at a very young age, and struggled to comprehend what happened, and how it would effect me through the course of my life. Lily Owens notices that she does not fit and is held back from that fact that her father does not care about Lily's life nor her needs. In Chapter 1, Lily indicates that she is “..worried so much about how I [she] looked and whether I [she] was doing things right, I [she] felt half the time I [she] was impersonating a girl instead of really being
It doesn’t take us the readers long to find out that T. Ray is an abusive parent, but it does take us a little longer to discover why he is the way he his. Going in chronological order of the discoveries within the book, T. Ray’s main three sources of internal conflict which produces external conflict with his daughter is the result of his background of war, his wife running away and eventually dying, and his daughter running away as well. Working backwards, August’s introduction into the book and the knowledge she has on Lily’s family divulges quite a lot about T. Ray than Lily is aware of. As we the readers find out, T. Ray served as a combatant during the Vietnam War and returned to Tiburon in 1964, the year the book is set in. Drawing on contemporary knowledge, the Vietnam War was a highly controversial and overall bloody war that caused massive civil unrest. These facts mixed with whatever traumatic experiences that T. Ray endured during the war serves as the first source of
Overall, it seems Lily spends her life in a constant state of regret, indecisiveness, contradictions, and conflict. All of this considered, one could interpret that Lily is paving her own path to destruction; however, the beginning of this path was entirely chance. Surely the death of her parents was a completely unrelated tragic accident, and as a human character she had no control over the other characters’ reactions to her. However, one can argue that her behavior
Lily saw her mother as a bad person for abandoning her. August explains to Lily that her mother made a mistake of leaving her with T.Ray. She also tells Lily that her mother tried to fix it be returning to get her. This conversation is an important factor when Lily learns to forgive her mother and herself.
Lily feels alone in this world. She is ostracized at school, treated with an absence of love and lives day to day knowing that she has committed irreversible acts. When she thinks about her mother all of these complications melt away in the warm allure she feels.