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Analysis Of The Poem ' Home Burial ' By Robert Frost

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Robert Frost’s poem, “Home Burial” (1914), eloquently intertwines dialogue within the structure of the poem in order to reveal the tensions between the two characters. Having recently buried their only child, Amy and her husband are learning how to grieve and deal with this horrible loss. However, they are learning to grieve separately, which causes distress and makes it look like their marriage is failing. According to William Fish, “mothers and fathers grieve differently and therefore are often out of synch with one another in their grief” (428). In accordance with Fish’s expertise, these differences are not overly surprising. Yet, a closer look into how both deal with tragic loss reveals the beginning to change gender norms of the early …show more content…

Albeit not the best way to cope, blocking out the incident is a typical fatherly approach to grief. As a result of social conditioning, the husband has an idea of what it means for a male to grieve and what is acceptable for him to show. Much of how he reacts fits the conditioned gender norms for males, which according to W. Schatz includes anger, emotional outbursts and irritability (294). Although “each person must work through her grief in her own way and her own time frame”, neither he nor Amy understand that there are significant differences in how they feel sorrow and act (W. Schatz 296). Irritable, the husband does not seem to think before he speaks, and while he does try to fix the problems between them he makes claims such as “I do think, though, you overdo it a little” (Frost 65) Naturally, Amy is offended by this statement; however, she has not yet considered that he has to grieve, too. It is not just her whose life is changing, and she is supposing that, because of outward manifestations such as his inability to speak and act as precisely as she does, he does not grieve or feel anything at all. But in his mind, he must stay strong and take charge of the situation by setting a powerful example for his family. These gender roles of how he should act are so deeply ingrained into his mind that he has a hard time seeing beyond them. In the early twentieth century, the gender roles were beginning to change with the emergence of the new woman. While women

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