Annotated Bibliography: The Sex-Starved Marriage

The first chapter opened my eyes to diverse topics about human sexuality in general. My generation has sex almost emotionlessly because of the hookup scene that surrounds us in society. But we have sex until one of the partners has an orgasm. “Our concept of sex has become so male-defined that the single orgasm has become the gold standard for women’s sexual response, and orgasm is often considered “optional” despite many women’s ability have multiple orgasms (Chalker 23).” This concept of sex seems to be

In “Sex, Lies and Conversation” Deborah Tannen argues that the problems of men and women in marriage are caused by a misunderstanding rather than lack of communication. Throughout the passage she discusses theses misunderstandings and reveals the solution to the problem.

In the novels written by Charlotte Gilman and Kate Chopin, the concept of marriage is contradicted from the romanticized relationship to a notion of imprisonment. Through the feminist perspective the reader gains a sense in which marriage may be the primary cause to gender oppression. In “The Yellow Wallpaper” Gilman’s central figure, who is unknown to the reader, is metaphorically imprisoned in a house in which the warden is her own husband. In contrast to this Chopin’s Character, Louise Mallard, gains a sense of liberation from a bleak marriage. It is clear that there two works illustrate how the characters are imprisoned through marriage. In both works there is a fine-line between the concept of domesticity and masculinity that ties

This paper will outline sexuality at different life stages, and as a sexual therapist I will coach an adolescent girl with a boyfriend who is pressuring her to have sex; an elderly couple with a wife exhibiting a renewed interest in sexual activity and a unwilling husband; and finally a handicapped male that has been paralyzed since he was four years old.

In “Sexuality and Aging-Research on Aging” Dan Sewell, MD, explains the revised definition of sexual intimacy, the need for doctors to ask about sexual activity, and the need to take care of ourselves.

Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).

He states having financial difficulty being sole financial income and wishes he could be retired. His wife spends here days at home taking care of the home and has given up trying to find work after being laid off over a year ago. Relating to sexuality and reproductive patterns, the couple expressed dissatisfaction and lack of sexual intimacy. This may be due to physical factors of the husband’s obesity and medical issues that could decrease sex drive. They both view marriage and relationship as a religious union that will not be broken. Some counseling would be beneficial to the couple to help facilitate open communication and a close bond to increase personal intimacy.

In today’s modern society, where we may think that women no longer feel restricted towards their love life, sexuality, and relationships, it often comes as quite surprising that twenty-something, highly educated, and carefree women find themselves constrained among the rules of their sexual and relational desires. Leslie Bell’s Hard to Get: Twenty- Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom focuses on such young women who despite being taught to seek out a compassionate relationship of equals, are at the same time, being taught the discrepancy in the evolutionary psychology between men and women. This eventually leads women to “split” her desires and having to consider not only how to get what they want, but what they really want.

These are couples that are still together, despite their problem. Even if they strongly desire recovery, they may subconsciously fear that cure might destroy their relationship. This is a frequent condition in which the help of psycho-sexual therapist may be helpful. sexological therapies are still used without substantial modification of the original definitions and format. The field of psycho-sexology has only recently taken seriously the task of scientifically demonstrating the efficacy of sex therapies (Heiman and Meston, 1997). Following this way, talking therapies will continue to play an axial role in sexology, not as an alternative to, but probably in conjunction with medical treatments. However, some points need to be addressed by

Although the author portrays the married woman as having the sole purpose of pleasing her husband, this guide is aided to help her succeed at this task.

A recent study of sexual relationship among Romantic Partners, Friends, Friends with Benefits, and Casual Acquaintances as Sexual Partners was conducted by two researchers Wyndol Furman from the Department of Psychology, University of Denver and Laura Shaffer from the Department of Psychology, University of Louisville Schools of Medicine. Authors, through their intensive research and sample studies, interviews and questionnaires, have examined and concluded their findings on sexual behaviors with different partners. Their research was mainly focused on sexual relationships in romantic married and cohabitating couples versus nonromantic young adults and adolescent partners. They believe sexual behavior mostly occurred among nonromantic

Sex has been viewed as fundamental for most romantic relationships, but sexual gratification and relationship satisfaction have often been examined separately. In more recent years, researchers have explored the association between sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction to gain a better understanding of how couples can obtain happy stable relationship (Schmiedeberg & Schröder 2016). The purpose of this literature review is to explore the connection between sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction, as well as to inquire information about outside factors that may affect couples inside and outside the bedroom. Literature Review

When we get married we often come into the union with unrealistic expectations related to sex that can hinder our sexual appetite and desires. When the libido becomes nonexistent there has to be more effort to reverse it. Porn is the most cost-efficient way that can aid in that reversal. You can easily spend hundreds of dollars on costumes, oils and sex toys versus watching porn online for free. When couples have a mutual understanding of the genre of porn they can increase their level of foreplay. Those who view more visual sexual stimuli (VSS) are likely to have a higher sexual drive,’ researchers wrote in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. When couple's view this form of entertainment, physiological changes occur such as heart rate, blood pressure, respiration, erection, and vaginal vasocongestion, which all leads to sexual arousal (Shackleton, 2015). This form of visual stimulation is also a way for couples to fantasize and release all inhibitions. Couples are able to try new things and get more comfortable with their bodies and partners without the ridicule while experimenting to find additional likes and dislikes to make intimacy even more enjoyable and making an even better connection.

Furthermore, it has been found that in addition to contributing to marital instability, premarital sex increases the likelihood that a couple will divorce. Joan Kahn and Kathryn London found that virgin brides are ten percent less likely to have divorced or separated than women who had not been virgins at marriage. They also discuss that this correlation between premarital sex and divorce can be explained in many different ways. The first is that it may be a direct effect due either to the “impact of premarital intimacy on subsequent marital quality or to the impact of having had other premarital sexual experiences on the level of satisfaction with one 's spouse.” A second explanation is that there is an indirect effect and the correlation may be due to the

In each part of the globe people want loving and long lasting relationships. In 21st generation young men and women think that sexual enjoy is the key point to success a relationship but that 's wrong. Now-a-days in the world 80% of the crimes occur by the people to fulfill the sexual desire. Poverty, violent crime, delinquency, promiscuity, alcohol and drug abuse, mental illness, and suicide are all happened for the sex and the breakdown of the marriage bond.