Are Tiger Parents Push Their Children?

Extreme or aggressive parenting techniques are ineffective and can irreparably damage a child’s psyche. Many children raised by overly strict parents lack initiative and creativity (“Extreme Parenting.”). Scout Masterson and Bill Horn freak-out after seeing the matching cheetah pajamas. They informed Nana that if she repeats the pajama catastrophe she will not be able to have another sleepover with Simone. Simone was only three year old and was going to have her first sleep over with her grandmother. But her nerves and controlling parents kept checking up on her bay video chat. She’s a three year old girl that is not invaded to nanas home a

Several years ago, Amy Chua’s book: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother has triggered a lively debate about the strict parenting style. In the book, it is mentioned that Chua sets rules and restrictions, such as no sleepovers, practising music instruments every day, etc. As a result, her daughters achieve excellent grades in schools (Goodin ¶2-3). Chua’s parenting style is categorized as authoritarian. In Hong Kong, Chua’s style is popular. Parents put a lot of pressure on their children. Starting from primary level, children are asked to attend extra tutorials. From the parents’ eyes, “Practice makes perfect”. Hence, children will become more competitive. However, westerners oppose her methods. Some believe that giving no freedom to children is not conducive to one’s academic performance.

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

Amy Chua, a professor at Yale Law School who wrote a memoir named Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, believes that parenting style should be strict parenting is the key to successful child-rearing. In addition, she believes that hardened child-rearing approach with the methods of close monitoring and behavioral restrictions. Also, Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior, Chua wrote that parents should override their children preferences such things as hobbies and academic performance. Moreover, she thinks the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be the best students and that academic achievement reflects successful parenting, and that if children did not excel at school then there was a problem and parents were not doing their job. According to Chua, through close monitoring and disciplines, children will be able to

A tiger mom can be described as strict, stern, and rigorous with high expectations. In the article “Whatever Happened to the Original Tiger Mum's Children?” by Tanith Carey, they discuss how Amy Chua raised her two daughters, Sophia and Lulu Chua-Rubenfeld. They were brought up in a very strict manner of focusing on school and playing violin/piano. They didn’t have much of an outside life, for they were always doing school work. Some may say that Amy Chua raised her daughters in a bad way, but the family speaks out on how it was tough but more happy childhood. Honestly, tiger parenting can get your kids far, but I wouldn’t raise my own kids like this exactly.

It’s true that different parents have distinct parenting styles. Each child must be disparate from another due to cultural background and upbringing. Three major parenting styles that have been around are tiger, helicopter, and free range parenting. In tiger parenting, parents are strict, while in free range it is just the opposite, parents let loose and let their children be who they are and allow them to take risks. The article “I am a helicopter parent, and I don’t apologize” by Elizabeth Fairfield Strokes is an epitome of helicopter parenting and what goes on in a mind of helicopter parent. Helicopter parenting refers to "a style of parents who are over focused on their children," says Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders near Detroit and author of Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide. "They typically take too much responsibility

Is there a right way to raise your child? There are really no set rules on how to raise your child, as we can see throughout the articles written by Amy Chua, a self-described “Chinese Tiger Mom” and Hanna Rosin, a “Western Mother,” in The Wall Street Journal in January 2011. These articles show that the two authors have completely different parenting styles. On one hand, Amy Chua believes kids should not go to sleepovers, be in school plays, and get anything less than A's in school except for gym. Meanwhile, Hannah Rosin believes that children need some freedom to express themselves. There are many

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

The hypervigilance of parents where they dictate everything that their child does actually does damage to the child because it stunts the development of internal motivation in these students (Margolies, 2016). If my parents had told me what clubs to be in, what sports to do, what classes to take, and what homework to do at what time then I never would have developed the motivation to choose for myself. It would have actually made me less capable of choosing things for myself, thus causing more stress in my life as more responsibility would fall on me as my schooling continues. The other dangerous way that this forced culture of perfectionism damages these youths is when they seem to be the perfect student, excelling in their studies in high school, and then without this constant support they crash in college and can quickly spiral out of control, not knowing how to handle this new stress as they no longer have the hypervigilance or the praise of their parents to keep them going. Helicopter parents think that by controlling these aspects of their child’s life will benefit them and create the best possible outcome for them. This is very obviously false as it is creating the situation of a severely underdeveloped child.

Have ever wondered if helicopter parenting is useful or harmful to children? Some may say, helicopter parenting is good for children while others may say it's not. Michael Unger takes about the perils of helicopter parenting in the article " Bubble-Wrapping Our Children". On the other hand, Don Aucoin discuss the benefits when parents helicopter their children. Therefore, helicopter parenting is beneficial to children because it protects them from harm or dangers, help them live a better health life and help them meet their dreams.

Parenting is different for everyone, but is any one way really better than the other? Amy Chua, a professor at Yale University, believes that the strict parenting style of Chinese mothers is the way to go. She believes that her strict and often harsh parenting style contributed to the success of her daughters. Chinese parents believe that if their children are successful, it is a reflection of the parents. Hanna Rosin, a contributing editor for the Atlantic, has very different views from Ms. Chua about the correct parenting style. Ms. Rosin believes that the more relaxed, nurturing, and self-led style of Western parenting is the better way to raise children. She believes that placing your children under immense pressure can produce

Authoritative parents “set standards, but also give their child choices. They recognize the good things that their child does, but they do not overlook the bad things. These parents are more confident and nurturing. They set standards that their child can meet. Usually, this type of parenting leads to a positive self-image in the child (Black, 2008). Permissive parents “do not control their children, it is more like the other way around. There is no discipline, and the child grows up knowing they can get whatever they want. When the parent does try to discipline, the child doesn't take it seriously. These parents give in easily and avoid confrontation whenever possible” (Black, 2008). In general American parents raise their children to have an individual personality, and to be independent from a very young age. “Firm disciplines are directed toward the infant and these are gradually relaxed as the child grows” (Suzuki, 2000).

What may be the most noticeable characteristic of these parents is their over involvement in their child’s academics. They see their child’s school work and academic activities as something that is for the child and parent together instead of for the child alone (How Not to Be a Helicopter Parent). Therefore, when the child does not do well on any given thing, the parent feels guilty as if it were their fault that the child failed (How Not to Be a Helicopter Parent).

Amy Chua’s. Structured, strong willed, strict, and overbearing. This parenting style is practiced by many, and results show it to be effective in creating successful children soon to be adults. Not all would agree with the rules of the “Tiger Mother.” A columnist for the Los Angeles Times Meghan Daum wrote while many agreed with Chua’s ways so many others felt disrespected and upset about it. Those who agreed said that they were applauding her for her strict ways and agreed that some American parents would rather be their child’s friend verses their parent. Daum brings to attention that after extreme conflict and death threats were made to Amy Chua from those who disapproved, she softened the message. She said her passage was a bit badly portrayed, and was meant to be comical. Chua made sure to stand her ground on her parenting ways though. Meghan Daum relates to Chua’s plead of the article being misleading she mentions New York Times digs deep and can be tough. Another Los Angeles Times columnist Patrick Goldstein writes “I have no beef with Chua’s parenting code.” (Goldstein). He further explains that he doesn’t feel it is any more gruesome then those of the parents living on the Westside of Los Angeles. Goldstein says, “The truth is that if you have a particular talent and the will to succeed, you don’t really need education.” (Patrick Goldstein). He refers to the life of Holly Wood. Half of the famous don’t have any college education and some without high-school, but very successful. A staffed writer for the New Yorker Elizabeth Kolbert says, “Yes you can brute force any kid to learn to play the piano but you’ll never have a Jimi Hendrix.” (Elizabeth

Being a mother is to support your children all the way even if they choose to take the road you don’t want them too. Mother’s play a responsible role in children’s health, education and complete wellbeing. In the article, Mother Inferior? Hanna Rosin, the author talks about her mothering style, which is the complete opposite of Amy Chua from The Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother. Hanna Rosin would allow everything that Amy Chua wouldn’t allow for her children. Her idea of raising children were different, she wanted her child to be happy in fact she never pressured her child into doing anything. Hanna Rosin had some good points; however, some of her points I cannot agree with her. I agree with Hanna Rosin when she said