Argumentative Home

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Although divorce is well known for the effects it has on the child/children, some people, such as divorce attorneys or mediators, believe divorce is better for the child/children than an argumentative home. These people think divorce is better for the child/children because according to them, in an argumentative home the child/children have to witness their parents fighting which makes them feel unstable. Although it is true that an abusive home can be dangerous, a study has been done on children with married parents versus children with divorced parents, and the results were only forty-four percent of children in a divorced home feel emotionally safe, while seventy-nine percent of children with married parents feel emotionally safe (Tamar…show more content…
Mark Guralnick, a family attorney who has worked on many gray divorces, agrees when he states “Adult children of a gray divorce are definitely affected because now they are affected by the possibility of having to take in their senior parents as if they were the children” (Saggio 2). In other words, the stress of having to take care of their parents in addition dealing with the crushing weight of the divorce, the millennials have begun to push off the possibility of marriage altogether. With the increasing divorce rate for “grey-haired” couple tripling over the past two centuries, there has been a decrease in in divorces from the younger generation due to the lack of marriages from those under thirty. Another issue the grown children of divorcing couple have to deal with is the stress of their parents giving information about the divorce which causes boundary issues. The parents also tend to lean on their child/children for emotional, and in some cases, financial support. Terry Gaspard, an author and therapist, himself states “Adult children may be called on to help, but they shouldn’t let it break them, clear boundaries are important” (Saggio 2). Gaspard’s point is millennials should not be depended on to take care of their parents, or have the stress due to much information from the divorce. Even children who grew up in a split home still carry the stress from their parents divorce. Research has shown fourteen percent of children have felt like an outsider in their own home at times along with having to take sides in their parents conflict’s.Thirty-two percent felt like an adult even though they were still a kid, and thirty-four felt it was stressful in their family (Lewin 5). Basically
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