Arrange Marriages vs. Love Marriages

It is often said that marriages are made in Heaven, and therefore, a suitable partner is very much of a necessity so as to lead a very happy and satisfied life. We often witness two types of Marriages, mainly, love marriages and arranged marriages. In love marriage, two adults decide to involve themselves in the holy bond of matrimony and in the other the families of the groom and the bride, or the third parties, a very active role in determining the match. In earlier days arranged marriages were the norm; this research provides a comparative analysis of the different practices and beliefs in marriage in the American and Nigerian contexts.

It can be argued that one of the most important aspects of culture are marriages. The union of two people to symbolize the propagation of a system of belief and ideas passed down which become inherent to their identity. Almost every culture has some type of marriage ritual in which unite two different families and create an integral bond. Yet the similarities in the placed importance of marriage traditions are not the same across the board, and their traditions also differ as well. Each culture or group of people have different marriage customs, and do not share the same meaning of what a marriage is or what it holds in society. The purpose of this paper is to analyze how American marriage culture is different from Arab or Chinese. The paper

Marriage is described as two people as partners in a personal relationship. There are two typical ideas of marriage that we know today. The first one that comes to mind is the one we all know, based on love, but there is another one that some may not even know of and its arranged marriages. Arranged marriage is not typically in our culture we know but in different cultures arranged marriages are their normal marriage. Throughout this essay, I will discuss the importance of realizing cultural diversity and how we apply the perspectives we gain from cross-cultural comparison to our own experience using central concepts about marriage to compare and contrast marriage in several cultures.

Marriage practices vary across cultures. Every culture has its own way of conducting marriage according to their traditions and customs. Most cultures share common customs and practices, while some cultures have unique practices. Marriage refers to a social union agreed upon by the couples to unit as spouses. The union of couples implies sexual relations, permanence in union, and procreation. This research paper focuses on comparing marriage practices in American and Indian culture. There is significant difference between the two cultures in marriage practices.

Definition of culture is a wide range. Culture is language, art, food, cloth, lifestyle, and believe. I was born and lived in Japan 19 years. When I came to the United States, I was surprised how Japanese and American culture is different. Japan and America is different language, food and lifestyle. There is a Japanese culture that American culture should adapt for social benefit. That is arranged marriage. There were many countries that arranged marriage is popular around the world. However, recently, arranged marriage is no more popular because society, and people’s idea changed, and many people think arranged marriage is not respect their children. In Japan, arranged marriage is very popular since long time ago. A few decades ago, arranged marriage was forced marriage, and wealthy people do that for keeping family well-off. However, definition and style of arranged marriage changed recently. Arranged marriage is more like matchmaking. Parents do not force marriage anymore. They encourage to find good partner for daughter or son. “Arranged marriages in Japan are now in the minority because one reporter says that over 70% of Japanese marriage are based on love. The remaining 30 % are arranged.” (Arranged Marriages in Japan) From this date, Japanese still arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is beneficial American society because fast, low divorce rate, no trouble, and marriage with ideal person.

Arranged marriage is a form of marital union in which family members or matchmakers select spouses for someone based on cultural background, financial status, dietary habits, religion and other key factors. This type of marriage is mostly practiced in the Middle East, South East Asia, Africa and some South American countries. In contrast, love marriage (free will) is a form of marriage that is used in countries that practice arranged marriages to define a marriage in which partners are allowed to marry someone of their own choice; this diverges from an arranged marriage, which is considered the norm in this culture. Free will marriages are considered to be a taboo among many families in the Indian culture, whether it is in India or American. According to them, marriage is a bond that two people should tie only with the consent, blessings and approval of their parents and family members. In the Western culture there is no such thing as arrange marriage since usually couples have the free will to marry someone based on their own liking.

Arranged marriages have been known to happen for several centuries. Arranged marriages are a type of marital union where a third party usually the parents of the pride and groom predetermine their martial agreement at a young age rather than each other select their own spouse. Historically, it was a primary way for a spouse to meet her or his future significant other. The traditional purposes of these types of unions were political, military, and social. They were common among the royalty and nobility around the world. Modern arranged marriages are now linked to religious beliefs or by a cultural nom or financial stability. In this article, I will examine if arranged marriage are still occurring in the modern day and the reasons behind the acceptance of the third party to allow it to happen.

Love marriage simply allows you to choose who you want, to live the life that you want, and build a family that will always get the chance to enjoy this love. The emergence of the concept of love marriage decreased the boundaries between the cultures and allowed people to enjoy experiencing being with the people they love no matter what their origin is. Arranged marriage formed a lot of successful families in the past and even during the present, but it also had so many difficulties for the couples, especially in the first period of their marriage, which is the period that they spend in knowing and coping with each other’s personalities and

Generally speaking, the words arranged marriage evokes fear or even anger in one’s heart. For various amounts of people, especially those with a western mindset, the liberty to choose one’s own spouse remains utterly important and even a human right in our society today. While I strongly believe that every human owns the freedom to choose whether they want to marry someone, I also believe misconceptions form in some mind’s when the words, “arranged marriages” are spoken. While not all arranged marriages remain sincere and fair in the world today, marriages guided by parents with willing children often produce healthy and lasting marriages. Although weak arranged marriages occur as well, strong arranged marriages also exist. I believe that arranged marriages often stay robust considering admirable parents know their children well, since arranged marriages often reflect two people with the same values, and lastly because these marriages often start with solid foundations.

In Asia, arranged marriages are well known. In many cultures it is honorable for a father or mother to choose and approve of their child's mate. Sometimes, parents are introduced to the candidate by spending a few moments chatting before reaching a final decision. In arranged marriages, there is also a matchmaker who discusses the marriage with the spouses' parents beforehand. They talk about financial security, culture, and other cultures' perception of the marriage. Even though the candidates are from the same country, many live in different caste systems. Religion and divorce are also discussed. The following explains the different facets of arranged marriages in more detail.

In the past, Arranged marriage was very common, and still is in some countries in the world. Arranged marriage is when parents choose a spouse for their sons and daughters. According to Gagoomal (2009), “Arranged marriage is broadly defined as unions in which people other than the bride and groom, typically parents or other family members, play important or decisive roles in determining who marries whom.” (p. 590). Asia and The Middle East follows this tradition and believe that marriage should come first then think about love. Some people believe in love at first sight, however, others believe that it takes time and patience to love someone and develop a relationship with them. Arranged marriage leaves their child with no choice but to marry the person they picked out for them. This may also be referred as Forced marriage. India is the most common country that follows this tradition and is very serious about it. Arranged marriage is different than Traditional marriage

What is marriage? Marriage is a gift from God to us, the quality of our marriage can be our gift from us to him/ her. There was a history in India that “First Comes Marriage, Then Comes Love”. According to them, it means, you will get to know your life partner after marriage. Therefore, arranged marriage has been important in Indian culture since the 4th century. Women would be placed under the authority of a male. Then, in the modern period, love marriage has become more popular. Love marriage is better than arrange marriage because at this

Nowadays, with growing technology people, young and old, are getting adapted to a virtual way of life resulting in forgetting their own traditions and practices which also reflects the way one gets married. When it comes to arranged marriages, parents ensure that their traditions are kept alive. In an article called ‘Arranged Marriages Appeal To Indians Trying To Keeping Traditions

Marriage, or what is also known as matrimony, is a process wherein a man and a woman get legally and religiously bound by a contract. In a much simpler sense, marriage is a process wherein a man and a woman unite, establishing obligations as well as rights between them, between their children and them, and between their in-laws and them (Cott, 2000). It is important to establish early at this point that the definition of marriage can vary both contextually and operationally across cultures. In some religiously conservative countries, for example, marriage is a form of union between a man and a woman, after which certain aspects of interpersonal relationships, such as a sexual relationship gets acknowledged. Also, in those conservative countries, marriage can be considered to be a prerequisite, a compulsory requirement, before the pursuance of any physical or sexual activity.

Even though marriage has evolved culturally from the early days to-date, there are still differences that exist, for instance, Indians think of marriage as something that should be arranged by parents on behalf of the children (Lustig & Koester, 2010). On the other hand, in Argentina or Spain it is viewed as an outcome of a long courtship and preparation. In fact, in many cultures marriages must be approved by the family since they are viewed as vital link between families. The understanding and study of the cultural values of