As the writer, personally I think that arranged marriages are against my personal culture and ethnic moral standards. Growing up in a society where young individuals like myself are constantly exploring our minds and bodies, arranged marriages are out of the equation. We want to meet and find people that fit our niche and personality, and hopefully find a significant other to spend the rest of our lives with. The topic of arranged marriage is not in our dictionary, such an approach in dictating our dating lives is out of the question. With social media outlets and numerous social reforms such as gay marriage being recently legalized, it has allowed this millennial age to become more liberate and free in the way we feel and want to express our thoughts. Personally, if I was given an arranged marriage proposal, I would probably be angry and violate of my right as an individual to be even given that
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Marriage is a union between a man and woman. Selecting a husband and wife is one of the most important decisions of a person’s life because a marriage can bring either a happy or unhappy life. Choosing the best partner is one of the keys to get a happy marriage. For some people they may choose to get married with the person whom they love, which is love marriage. Actually, there are two kinds of marriage that are love marriage and arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is when the parents or family will choose the partner of their child or relatives. Arranged marriages occur in around the world especially in Asia, Africa and the Middle East. In many cultures believe that marriage is not always love. Those people claim that the couple who are getting married still young and have less experience. In this sense, some cultures believe that the best choice of the child’s partner is made by his or her parents. However, it is still controversial among people that choosing arranged marriage is the same with forced marriage. In this sense, the couple do not have a freedom of choice to choose their own partner. They have to follow their parents decision to get married with the person. In some countries, people do not agree with arranged marriages, especially for the Western people. They believe that every person has their own choice to choose their partner in a marriage. Adults seem always think that love before marriage
Love is portrayed in society as a perfect bond between two people and that they live happily ever after but that is not always the case. In the story “Once upon a Time in a Tent” written by Tim Neville talks about his time living in a tent in his backyard and his journey through his three relationships. In the story “The Arranged Marriage” written by Mira Jacob she talks about how her parents are in an arranged marriage and never showed any affection towards each other.
The couple can find happiness through compromising and commitment. A secure, sustainable marriage does not only need love, but it needs the multiple pillars of family approval, secure support system, and shared values cemented on the foundation of commitment. A marriage is the grand beginning of a new family and a starting point to assist generations move forward and develop. Due to this multitudinous number of points, arranged marriages should be strategically integrated into the modernized culture of the United
In the eastern side of the world, arranged marriages are very common. It is not like the western world where couples date to know each other then choose whether they are the perfect match. Arranged marriages are often chosen by the elders in the family. This practice has been handed down for centuries. Throughout the marriage process, there are certain procedures that must be followed in eastern matchmaking. Once a match has been chosen, the couple will learn over time that commitment and acceptance comes prior to emotions and happiness. Even though our western ways may seem normal to us, the traditions of eastern marriages are custom through procedure, commitment and acceptance within their society.
Americans should consider a less conventional way of meeting a potential partner that would one day be their future husband/wife. An arranged marriage is another option people should consider when finding a person to settle down with. Such arrangement is not forcing anyone into marriage instead it is a mutual decision. A professor of Sociology conducted a study that showed 35% of 200 married couples in America would press a button that could dissolve their marriage if they were given the chance to (Folsom 1). Marriages that suffer a serious dissatisfaction are due to the premature knowledge of their spouse and impulsive actions. It is safe to say, that over one-half of all marriages in the United States are unhappy. Thus, Americans should
One of the major areas this reality is demonstrated is the process of arranged marriages (Ross 279). Typically, Renaissance women were used as a way to combine families and increase political or financial growth for both families. Lucrezia Borgia is a perfect example of how young women were used during this time. When Lucrezia was just thirteen years old, she was married to Giovanni Sforza who was twice her age. She was married to him because an alliance with Giovanni would bring great political advantage to Lucrezia’s family (Hibbert 44). These marriages were basically business transactions with the daughters and sisters of the family being moved around like pawns to create the best possible outcome for the men. In some extreme cases, a widowed woman could be taken away from her children and forced to remarry because it would benefit her family (Keuhn 62).
In American culture the view on arranged marriages are not looked at very favorably. This is because we have grown up with the knowledge that when it comes time to marry we will have chosen our spouse of our own free will. The match will be a love match and one that is chosen through our own needs. Young men and women in India grow up with an opposite view on marriage. They know that when it comes time to marry their parents will find them a suitable mate and it will be considered scared and a lifelong commitment (Agence France-Presse.) A total of 74 percent of respondents from across India voted in favour of traditional "arranged" marriages, according to the poll by private television channel NDTV. In the Hindu faith, marriage is
From the perspective of a Utilitarian, one would argue that arranged marriage is both ethical and unethical. A utilitarian decides whether an action is good or bad based on the results that bring the greatest good to the greatest number of people affected by the action. The so called good can be defined as “happiness.” In India, places where arranged marriage are very common because it is part of their culture. Therefore in a Utilitarian eyes it would be ethical to get married if it were part of your culture and geographical location because betraying your culture would do more harm and some forms of happiness are superior to others. Many couples find themselves to be part of happy marriages like we saw in the article What It’s Really Like To Have An Arranged Marriage. Sandaya, the bride, who lived in India had an arranged marriage set by her parents. She felt honored to have done this for her family and knew it was a
Marriage is a union that has been around for as long as humans have walked the earth. The human race depends upon the union of its members, and as such, the subject of marriage has been an issue that receives more intense scrutiny and attention than many would likely believe. In today's day and age, with humanity continuing to move in a modern direction, many argue that marriage is a union that should be entered into freely and should be based exclusively on the love between two people. However, I argue that arranged marriage, which has taken place throughout the ages and throughout the world, is a union that offers its observers a marriage based in support, longevity and love, and is an institution that should not be frowned upon.
I strongly believe that arranged marriages might have a stronger and longer lasting outcome than a love marriage. Arranged marriage not only ensures an increase in family ties, but even a superior status in society which contributes to a healthier upbringing of children, and also ensures the security for future generations.
An ugly, inhuman, act like forced marriage has been practiced throughout history for centuries in one way or another; men and women, especially women, were forced into marriages by their parents, guardians, authorities or rulers for various reasons, and they went through inexplicable sufferings. Up until the late 18th century and early 19th century, when the literary and intellectual movement of romanticism presented new and progressive ideas about love marriage and which started to gain acceptance in society, all the marriages were either forced marriages or arranged marriages; even though the society differentiates arranged marriage from forced marriage, in most cases, arranged
An arranged marriage is a commitment involving two people agreed upon by other individuals, typically both sets of parents. This is not to be confused with a forced marriage, where the parents put together an arrangement involving their kids, without them having a say in it. In Anjula Razdan’s “What’s Love got to do with it?” she discusses the reasons on why our methods of seeking a partner do not work; this includes focusing on our emotions and pleasures, which often result in divorce. Furthermore, she discusses how “most people lack basic relationship skills, and, as a result, most relationships lack emotional and psychological intimacy” (Razdan, 2013, p 525). Whereas in arranged marriages, many of the issues faced in are gone, since