Arranged Marriages Between Rochel And Nasira

The novel revolves around two women, Mariam and Laila. The novel takes place during a terrible time to live in Afghanistan, but things were especially hard for women. Their lives brought together and are forced to live through unimaginable situations. At first, they didn’t get along, but then a beautiful friendship began. Their friendship would eventually be their salvation. They both experienced incredible character development. Mariam and Laila’s childhoods were very different, which is explains their characteristics in the novel. Laila’s modern upbringing gave her courage, which inspired Mariam to take action in both of their lives.

Marriage is described as two people as partners in a personal relationship. There are two typical ideas of marriage that we know today. The first one that comes to mind is the one we all know, based on love, but there is another one that some may not even know of and its arranged marriages. Arranged marriage is not typically in our culture we know but in different cultures arranged marriages are their normal marriage. Throughout this essay, I will discuss the importance of realizing cultural diversity and how we apply the perspectives we gain from cross-cultural comparison to our own experience using central concepts about marriage to compare and contrast marriage in several cultures.

As Kingsolver predicted that readers would feel most sympathetic to this character, she chooses to have Leah marry a Congolese man from the village where the family lived. Kingsolver wrote this plot twist in an attempt to bridge the gap between two cultures, to show readers, and society as a whole, that while the cultures are different there is a common ground and there can be happiness, but it is not always so simple. The attempt to bridge the gap was evident in Leah ’s description of her and Anatole’s wedding, “At my request we were married in that room by the village chief, in a ceremony that was neither quite Christian nor Bantu. I asked for God’s blessing and carried red bougainvillea flowers for my mother. Aunt Elisabet draped around our shoulders the traditional marriage cloth called mole, a beautiful double-sized pagne that symbolizes the togetherness of marriage” (Kingsolver 221). Thought it was not the traditional marriage every white American girl dreams of having, for her it was everything she could have hoped for. With the flowers representing her culture, and the cloth representing Anatole’s culture, the two very different cultures are able to intermingle and readers are then able to see it as though they were there. Multiple chapters throughout the novel illustrate the struggles Leah and her Congolese family still experience while the rest of her American family had already left the Congo and moved on to easier living

I believe every natural of people have family that comes with a downfall, and always turn out to be functional by sticking to their values, culture, and beliefs. As for my family, I believe that culture and the nationality plays a big role in the household. I was raised by strict Haitian parents, that was always tough on me about education, responsibility, and independence. I believe my parents was only strict on me the most because I was the last out of four children's, which is I was the youngest. Alfred Adler did a family constellation and birthorder were Adlerians believes that the sibling closest in age and most different is the sibling that most affect how one defines the self (cite pg94). I related this to my life because I have sisters

This film showed the many different aspects of marriage and family in which we learned about in class. It gave examples of some types of marriages such as polygyny practiced in

Arranged marriage in the Renaissance era was very popular among Florentine families. This was the way of life for multiple different reasons. Arranged marriages were the way things were run in order to bring two families together. The two families hopes were to gain an alliance and more importantly gain wealth. Another objective was producing offspring more specifically boys that could eventually inherit the family wealth and power.

The Basseri, a pastoral nomadic tribe from southern Iran, practice the custom of arranged marriage. Marriages are arranged by the heads of the households, usually the fathers of the prospective bride and groom. To the Basseri, a marriage is not primarily seen as a bond between man and woman, but rather as a transaction between tents. An arranged marriage brings many benefits for the involved Basseri families. In case of a marriage, the family of the bride will get a bride-price, which serves as a compensation for the bride that has to leave her family. After a marriage, the families have no ongoing obligations for each other, but they normally stay in contact. The motivation for this is that the families desire to interact and arrange more

Stefan Schafer’s and Diane Crespo’s film, Arranged, tells the story of two very different women from distinct cultures who turn out to be more alike than they thought. The story revolves around Rochel Meshenberg is an Orthodox Jew and Nasira Khaldi who is Muslim. They both start teaching at a New York public school, where they both discover that they are more similar than anything (Arranged 2007). Arranged is used to show the power of friendship and mutual respect despite differences can bring people together and intensify a friendship.

I first want to say marriage can be a beautiful experience, if it is done right. It takes a lot trial and error to have a perfect marriage. There has to be a clear understanding of what kind of lifestyle they both want to live. Sharing the same goals and dreams creates a solid foundation for the future. My parents have been married for twenty years. Every year that passes, I wonder how many more years they will put up with each other torment. Being around my parent’s kills me because I know the truth, and the ill truth is that the passion and love they once shared with each other is no longer there. This scares me because how is that you can love a person for some many years, and then turn around and treat each other like strangers. Sadly, I can relate to Huston and Wright’s stories because of the hostile environment I grew up in. My mother never had a special skill so she joined the Air Force where she attended college. She got the opportunity to travel to Japan, Hawaii, and even Korea. Now, she is dedicated stay at home mom who is still trying to find out where she can fits in the corporate world. On the other hand, my dad has not been passed the Georgia state lines, however he is a hard workingman who takes care of his family at any cost. Apart from each other my parents are not bad, they love my siblings and I but are enemies to one another. And don’t get me wrong they gave everything they had to raise my siblings and I but some things are not meant to last forever.

Traditionally the decision to marry made mainly by both families and marriage is often contracted by agreement amongst families in order to expand their circle of alliances and enhance their prestige (Metz, 1993). A partner is chosen by a person’s family, not based on the Western concept of romantic love (Metz, 1993). A woman’s opinion may be respected

The film is based on the autobiographical account of Mira Nair's own family.( Manish Gajjar 2002) It is about a stressed father, a bride-to-be with a secret, a smitten events coordinator, and relatives from around the world who create much ado about the preparations for an arranged marriage in India (IMDB). The excellent exploitaation of symbolism, colour and costumes together with the contrast between modern and traditional India has been successfully depicted the Indian values and beliefs. Nonetheless, with the use of representations, and by dealing with the concept of

The film “Arranged” touches on many aspects that the readings discussed, and offers new insight into conservative religions and the interactions between people of different faiths. One particularly interesting aspect of the movie was the tension that the two women – especially Rochel – experienced. First there’s the tension within a religion: Rochel is really dissatisfied (at least at first) with the matchmaking process and says she doesn’t want to do it anymore. However, her mother is aghast to hear that and asks her to think about her family, because if Rochel doesn’t get married it hurts her sister’s marriage prospects and hurts the family’s reputation. In some way, this makes it seem like there’s a lack of personal choice in this arranged marriage system. And even though Rochel ends up with someone she really likes, it’s not truly because of the arranged marriage system – it’s because she meets Gideon in real life and Nasira is kind enough to help her and go around the traditional matchmaking process.

The agreement which consist of the girls losing their virginities by guys of different faiths shows how sex can be used as a social tool due to the breakdown of social norms due to interactions between people of different faiths which would have been against the traditional way of interacting someone within your own faith. The girls’ agreement is a challenge to the social barriers place by religion. Sex as a means of gaining control is most evident among the relationship between Meriem and Hadj Beji. Although Hadj is the landlord of the building all the girls and their families occupy and can

Mireille and Nnu Ego on the surface have nothing in common, one being an educated middle class woman, and the other an educated lower class woman who is deeply rooted in tradition and superstitions. Closer looks however, reveal that both are victims of perpetuated patriarchal oppression. Although sheltered as young women, nothing could save them from the pain that comes with marriage, and cultural conflicts. These two women suffered without a voice to the point of losing themselves. Nnu Ego’s problem is rooted in her inability to conceive after marriage, but Mireille’s stems from her mother-in-law, and community who sees her as an outsider that must not be allowed to stay. Ba and Emecheta challenge the assumptions that sexist oppression and

The family structure determines where you derive from and provides a sense of who you are. The typical family structure is perceived as a father and a mother, two children, one boy and one girl, and a pet. The typical family description described above is still promoted and expected to be the “dream family.” Author Meyerhoff, “While the nuclear family with Dad, Mom, and offspring happily coexisting beneath one roof-remains the ideal, variations in family structure are plentiful and often successful” (Meyerhoff). Meaning that a lot of families are remarried spouses with prior children and more common in the last decade same sex marriages. So, do these nontraditional families have the same qualities? Personally, I would think so. After