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Arranged Marriages have been around since time can remember. An arranged marriage is a marital union between a man and a woman who were selected to be wedded together by a third party. Historically, arrange marriages were the main way to marry. In certain parts of the world, it is still the primary approach. There are two types of arrange marriages. The first is a traditional marriage where the children can, with strong objections, refuse to marry their soon to be spouse. In a forced marriage, the children have no say in the matter. Bread Givers shows an excellent representation of the pressures on children from their parents to be married against their will.

In a lot of cultures touching is considered to be disrespectful and rude but in on our culture it is not a bad thing, it is etiquette. When we first meet someone, whether it is someone of the opposite sex or same sex, at a family gathering or social event they are often greeted with a hug, handshake, or a kiss on the cheek. If you walk in to a scenery of Cubans and do not greet them in any of those forms you are considered to be rude. Touching is a demonstration of affection. It is not taboo and does not carry a sexual connotation (Cuba, 2017). When someone in our culture goes to see a healthcare provider we like to be greeted by our formal name and with a handshake(Graham and Ritter, 2017). That is a respectful and professional way to approach us and makes us feel comfortable. When we feel comfortable in our environment it makes the appointment go by smoother and we are

Arranged marriage is found in various cultures and countries around the world, including Afghanistan and other parts of the Middle East; having an arranged marriage is thought of as an Afghani tradition and has been a part of life for many families. The practice of arranged marriage has advantages and disadvantages; it can create more family power and give more financial security. Sadly being forced into a marriage can disrupt the independence of the engaged, most women stop their education when they become engaged resulting in many women being illiterate. This makes it impossible for them to be successful without depending on their husbands. Arranged marriage is found in many cultures throughout the modern world, though in a lot of cases it results in a happy family it can also be very limiting on women and often girls are married before they can give consent.

In our society, we wouldn’t consider arranged marriages as a normal thing we are, use to consensual heterosexual serial monogamy. But in some countries, they do consider arranged marriages normal. In India, arranged marriages have been apart of the Indian culture since the fourth century and many consider it a central fabric of Indian society (Arranged Marriages, Matchmakers, and Dowries in India, 2000). Pakistan also considers arranged marriages as normal in Pakistani culture elders of the family are considered wise and they are the ones who help pick out a spouse a family member (Arranged Marriages are the Part of Pakistani Culture, 2012). Japan still practices arranged marriage but now less than ten percent of marriages are arranged compared to half a century ago when about seventy percent were arranged(Tying the Knot, 1998). In China, they have marriage markets where parents line the pathways share with other parents their clippings they have on their child, hoping to find a good match for their child (Epatko, 2015). Still, today many countries consider arranged marriages normal.

ReferencesAugust, P. (2005, October). Arranged Marriages in the Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. Retrieved from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriageBowman, H. & Spanier, G. (1978). Modern Marriage. McGraw-Hill Book Company.

Yet in America, it is quite different. As stated by Paul Hockings, the Indian culture believes that a woman must obey the men in their lives in a certain order. For instance, a woman should obey her father first, next her husband, and finally her son. The head male of the family, whether it is the father, husband, or son is in charge of the entire family. The head male is also important in arranging marriages. The head male of the family, has to compensate or receive compensation at the time of a child’s marriage. In the Indian culture, the primary purpose of a marriage is to bring families together. It is usually not done out of love or romance. If a marriage is not approved or arranged by the parents involved, then the act is frowned upon. In America, marriages are not typically arranged and people do not receive compensation during a

The final cross cultural difference I will discuss is the collectivist culture of India versus the individualistic culture of the United States. India is more of a collectivist culture, whereas the U.S. is strongly individualistic. The family is at the center of Indian society, which is largely patriarchal. Several generations of a family are brought together to live in one household. The hierarchical nature of the Indian culture extends into the family as well, where the head of the family makes the key decisions for the household (Kumar, 2005). An Indian’s primary loyalty usually lies with their family rather than with their

In some cultures touching and hugging is a big part of their lives. How you touch someone says a lot about you. The way you touch someone says a lot if you touch them loving and comforting it shows you are kind. If you touch them too hard and hurt them, people are going to be afraid to touch you when they see you. In the United States we always shake hands with people when see them or meet someone a new person. That says you are friendly but not always in a good way. We shake hands with a lot of people and sometimes we don’t really want to see that person any more.

With specific social requests having the same home, the outcome is a "us versus them attitude". This state of mind creates detest and makes debate. Kwame Appiah, creator of Good Difference, and Franklin Foer, creator of How Soccer Clarifies the World, give us all around examinations of a part of the issues we stand up to in globalization. Appiah states that feelings are relative, and this can certainly have a moral effect. A valid example, in this some bit of the world, the man who is called your father is your genuine natural father and finishes his parental commitment. Then again, in Appiah's article, he talks around an Abusua family system inducing from the Akan tribe. "Your real father is not in charge of you, but rather your uncle (all the more particularly your mom's sibling) does the guardian part of the real father" (654). In the American culture this is most likely a major no, yet to the Akan tribe they ask why American men are confronting kid bolster issues when they don't bolster a kid, on the grounds that the meaning of father is flipped for both social orders. Plainly there is a distinction in social

Rochel who is an Orthodox Jew, and Nasira who is a Syrian- descent Muslim, are both public school teachers at a multi-cultural school located in Brooklyn, New York. Both of the women begin to realize that they have more in common with each other than they think. Rochel and Nasira are going through an arranged marriage processes, in which they are both feeling religious and cultural pressures from their families. Both women are presented with many choices for potential husbands; however, ultimately, they choose whom they want to marry, as in any other marriage. Arranged marriages should never be forced or pressured. On the other hand, one shouldn't criticize arranged marriages as long as the people who are in them are okay with them.

While culture is prevalent in everyone 's lives, the way that culture is interpreted can drastically vary depending upon the generation a person grew up in. In both Madeleine Thien 's “Simple Recipes” and Kazuo Ishiguro 's “A Family Supper” the way in which the children view culture is significantly different from their parents views. While the children in each story grew up in different countries, the similarities between the children and their families are strikingly similar. The cultural views of the father and son in each story leads them in separate ways, which ultimately causes major rifts within the families and creates significant tension between father and son. The fathers in each story are authority figures to their children. Although the level of authority each father has over their children is drastically different due to the age of their children, it is clear both fathers demand a certain level of respect from them. The suppers in each story, while seemingly insignificant at first, actually carry a much deeper meaning. The suppers play a large role in how each story plays out. Although there are differences in regards to how each story conveys the message of cultural divide, the point remains the same. Culture is always evolving, and while this is generally viewed as a success for society, if those involved do not have a firm grasp on what is changing, it can lead to disagreements within society and in some cases disagreements within

Being born a female in Iran one automatically has less control over her autonomy. This is due to the male dominant society which has placed limitations and expectations on females. These exceptions and limitations can range from being told what to wear in public to not being able to go out alone without placing themselves in danger. Through socialization these have become social norms in the Iranian culture that have resulted in explicit and implicit gender roles. According the Berger and Luckmann, socialization can be deconstructed into two parts: primary and secondary socialization (1967). In primary socialization, a child is taught by significant others what are appropriate attitudes, behaviors

The film is based on the autobiographical account of Mira Nair's own family.( Manish Gajjar 2002) It is about a stressed father, a bride-to-be with a secret, a smitten events coordinator, and relatives from around the world who create much ado about the preparations for an arranged marriage in India (IMDB). The excellent exploitaation of symbolism, colour and costumes together with the contrast between modern and traditional India has been successfully depicted the Indian values and beliefs. Nonetheless, with the use of representations, and by dealing with the concept of

The film “Arranged” touches on many aspects that the readings discussed, and offers new insight into conservative religions and the interactions between people of different faiths. One particularly interesting aspect of the movie was the tension that the two women – especially Rochel – experienced. First there’s the tension within a religion: Rochel is really dissatisfied (at least at first) with the matchmaking process and says she doesn’t want to do it anymore. However, her mother is aghast to hear that and asks her to think about her family, because if Rochel doesn’t get married it hurts her sister’s marriage prospects and hurts the family’s reputation. In some way, this makes it seem like there’s a lack of personal choice in this arranged marriage system. And even though Rochel ends up with someone she really likes, it’s not truly because of the arranged marriage system – it’s because she meets Gideon in real life and Nasira is kind enough to help her and go around the traditional matchmaking process.

One can also observe that men in the Indian culture are more dominant than women. In an article by Katrina Beedy, Indian men dictate the rules for relationships, especially when it comes to women, (Beedy). In addition according to an article by Asia society, the indian culture is very hierarchial, (Asia Society). With having such a culture, women have the role of maintaining the family. For example, in the movie, Jess’s entire family was at her house to celebrate her sister getting married, all of the women were asking Jess about when she’s going to settle down and marry a strong man, (Chadha, "Bend it like Beckham"). This shows the characteristics of a collectivistic culture because members of not just the immediate family but also the entire family are assumed to roles to keep the family functioning. The opposite can be assumed about the westerners (they are an individualistic culture) because the British girl called