Attachment Hypothesis

Lewis (2013) explains the ability to control your emotions does not begin until a child nears the age of six (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). The need to maintain control of feelings and emotions remains important throughout adulthood. It would not be normal for a 38-year-old lawyer to throw a temper tantrum in the courtroom because they did not win a case. Not everyone is great at controlling their emotions, but there is always room for improvement (Berger, 2014). A child is not born with this control, nor can one learn it on their own. Morris et al. (2007) discussed the importance of parents, teachers and other adults that may be in a child?s life to instruct and inform children of appropriate ways to manage their feelings for them to learn or develop over time (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). It is the same aspect as manners. A child does not come out of the womb saying ?please? and ?thank you,? but must be taught to use such mannerisms. Eric Erikson explained that children believe they can achieve any goal just as long as they keep trying because their view of their abilities is not yet within reason (Berger, 2014). A child may see a fish breath underwater and believe they too can breathe while swimming

By repeating these four stages every day the child can learn to manage their feelings themselves. We can start this approach with babies.

“Emotional intelligence is the ability to regulate your emotions and understanding others for effective problem solving and living happily” (236 kail). Logan and his brother Austin often fight about ‘who ate the chips,’ or’ who did not do their chores.’ They have both failed to demonstrate emotional intelligence, in which resulted in pushing each other and insults. “Emotional coaching is a style of teaching that help people navigate the world of emotions. This requires taking others emotions seriously, seeing things from their point of view, and helping them develop skills to deal effectively with their emotions (Byerwalter “Emotional Coaching Handout”). My boyfriend Austin and I both know how to emotional coach. Since

. • Effective expression and modulation are taught to help children and parents identify and cope with a range of emotions

Emotions, thoughts, and behaviors share a communal correlation; thoughts can produce emotional responses; emotional responses can then produce positive and negative behaviors. As a result, a student’s emotions and behaviors have a direct correlation to their thoughts and vice versa (Stonecipher, 2012). In instances where a student is unable to self-manage their behaviors while presented with an issue, a probable outcome would be that the student will then act out inappropriately. As a result, cognitive behavioral interventions often encompass problem solving and anger management strategies (Robinson, 2007). Conducive to effectually self-managing behavior, students must be trained to exercise constructive thinking and reduce the pervasiveness of participating in destructive behavior acquired from an emotional response. Students may obtain this by acknowledging the problem, defining it, producing and assessing resolutions, applying a plan and lastly observing the resolution (Yell, Meadows, Drasgow, & Shriner, 2009). Students should also learn to recognize specific elements including triggers, reminders, and reducers, while trying to self-manage. Teachers must retain patience during this process as students must build these skills up before positive results transpire (Yell, Meadows, Drasgow, & Shriner, 2009).

When comparing and contrasting two different types of attachment I picked secure attachment and ambivalent attachment. Secure attachment is when an infant using the mother a secure base where they can explore from in their own comfort zone. The infant will notice when the mother or primary caregiver leave them or the room. When they return to the room they go straight to them were they are reassured and go back to whatever they were doing before mom left the room. Ambivalent attachment is where an infant is more alert of the whereabouts of the mother or caregiver.

A tip I believe that should be communicated to current or expectant parents is to watch how they themselves express their frustration and angry in front of their children. A child does not fully understand the impact that various actions can have, and continual expression of these behaviors can lead to their normalization. For example, if a parent continually hits various objects to alleviate stress or frustration, the child will believe that hitting those objects is normal and continue that behavior. The Bobo doll experiment, by Albert Bandura, is an example of this occurrence. In this experiment, Nursery school children first watched a video were an adult model repeatedly hit a Bodo doll in various ways, and were then individually placed

HDEV 3102-03 Lifespan Social and Emotional Development Winter 2017, Professor Jiansheng Guo, CSUEB Student Name: Estefani Canales and NetID: pu7372 Chapter 10 Emotional Development and Attachment: Chapter Summary Total Word Count: LG 1: Basic aspects of emotion Emotions are both positive and negative and is what we feel and use to react to important things in our lives when something of importance takes place. When regulating emotions parents can take the approach of emotion coaching, being supportive and taking the chance to teach their children about their negative emotions to help guide them, or they can take the approach of emotional-dismissing in which they just ignore and reject children’s emotions. LG 2: Development of

This essay will discuss how parents and carers can support the early emotional needs of their child. Parents or carers are usually defined as the primary caregivers for the child (e.g. biological parents, foster carers) and they have a considerable influence on the child’s emotional development. This discussion will focus on the role of the mother in meeting a child’s early emotional needs and will draw on maternal sensitivity and responsiveness, attachment theory and factors that can affect the quality of attachment. It will also briefly discuss the role of fathers. Adequate support for a child’s emotional needs start from birth.

As humans, building relationships between others is a form of connecting and communicating. It is a social situation that is experienced every day through the course of a lifetime. The initial relationship that is made is between the mother and the child. This bond that connects two people is known to be called attachment. The theory of attachment begins at birth, and from that, continuing on to other relationships in family, friends, and romance. Attachment is taught through social experiences, however the relationship with the mother and her temperament are the key factors in shaping the infants attachment type, which

Emotional coaching simply means that parents recognize when they or their child is feeling an emotion, they identify their feelings, and they are sensitive to the presence

To begin with attachment theory, first everyone should understand what the attachment is. According to attachment means bonding between a child and caregiver or vice versa. The attachment theory is the theory that describes the long term interpersonal relationship between the humans. Also, it can be defined as the strong bond between parent and child, and later in peer and romantic relationship (Metzger, Erdman, Ng 85). It generates a specific fact that how the humans react in relationships when they get hurt, separated from loved ones and perceiving a threat. Basically the two main types of attachment are secure and insecure. Secure attachment is the attachments where mother and father are available for their child and during that time child demonstrates his or her stress and reestablish the connection (Metzger, Erdman, Ng 87). Insecure attachment is the attachment where parents are not regularly in touch with their children or they ignore their child which built a failed emotion communication (Metzger, Erdman, Ng 87). Also, it may be repeated from one generation to another until it is not recovered. However, as a result of attachment theory, it is so important for children to know about it and there are also several emotional effects on children when their parents leave to go to another county due to their connections or bond between them.

It is very common for the children to become overwhelmed by their emotions. They simply don’t know how to express their feelings through a positive outlet. This leads to conflict more often then not. To utilize these ideas one suggestion I will use is to assign an emotion to the child’s feelings. For example if a child comes in and says “My teacher yelled at me for talking in the hallway

Young children often can be overwhelmed by their emotions and not know how to express them. This tends to lead toward temper tantrums, biting, and hitting. By letting them know that I am next to them and can talk them through what they might be feeling, they learn how to express their feelings in a safe way. I also support their learning by being engaged in the learning process. I will model how to do certain things, repeat their words or expressions, and develop appropriate activities for them to explore.

In John Gottman’s, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, it is found that teaching children to regulate and understand their emotions is important in order to create an emotionally healthy generation. Emotional intelligence, which is referred to as an “IQ” of people and the world of feelings (Gottman 17), contributes to the success of life emotionally, socially, and mentally of oneself. According to Gottman, there are multiple contributing factors that influence a child’s emotional intelligence which are parents and their parenting style, parent’s emotional expression, a parent’s interest or relationship with the child specifically between father and child, and the influences of the parent’s relationship on the child. The