Attachment Style Id It 's Time

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PG. 29 Attachment Style ID—It’s Time To identify your attachment style, read the following questions, and carefully consider which of the following three first-person descriptions best characterizes your feelings and behaviors in romantic relationships. Do not be afraid to be completely honest with yourself. There is no judgment here.This is just a jumping-off point to help you move forward along a new, healthier, and ultimately more successful path to intimacy and romance. [1] (a) I find it relatively easy to get close to others. I am comfortable depending on them, and having them depend on me. I don’t often worry about being abandoned, or about someone getting too close to me. (b) I find it relatively easy to socialize, verbalize, and…show more content…
(c) I seek reasons to cancel social situations, or create white lies to leave early from events or dating. I may make up facts in order to pretend I am better than I might be. I sometimes can connect and have deep, intimate relationships. There are other times, I feel myself running from them, feeling suffocated and overwhelmed. [3] (a) I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others, and I find it difficult to trust them completely. It is difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often love partners want to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being. (b) I don’t need to be with anyone. I am fine by myself. (c) I don’t need close relationships. I don’t need another to make me feel whole or complete. If you consistently identified most strongly with the (a) quotes, you likely fall generally into the secure attachment style category. PG. 75 The most intense aspect of the avoidant attachment style would be leading into disorganized, which is characterized by behaviors that do not make sense. This often is manifested in unpredictable, confusing, or erratic behaviors. Researchers have found that this is due to the fact that individuals with a disorganized attachment often can’t make sense of their experiences, and not able to form a coherent narrative of what is going on around them. For those that suffered abuse, they may offer strange explanations about their abusive experiences.
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