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Attachment Styles : Secure Attachment Style

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Attachments Styles
Secure Attachment Style. People who refer to this category have a positive view of themselves and of the other people also. I suppose this category could fit Daniel Cleaver from “Bridget Jones`s Diary”. That is because they are true optimists and it is their life philosophy to trust people and not only those who they love (Harms, 2011). They consider a person as such who deserves being treated kindly and respectfully. They feel secure about people and do not get ready to defend themselves because they do not put themselves in a position of defense from the outside world. They are open to the world. Moreover, they know there might be difficulties and conflicts, but still they do not afraid of them. In the adult life, …show more content…

An avoidant adult will avoid forming longtime relationships because they simply find it “isn`t worth the effort” (“Attachment Styles: Overcoming Fear, Embracing Intimacy At Last”, 2012). They tend to believe that longtime relationships are hardly reachable so they are rather pessimistic than optimistic in terms of forming and keeping relationships through lifetime. In the other word, the relationships through a lifetime are not about the avoidant category. Living “on the own terms” is secure and that is how it is possible to be confident in future (“Attachment Styles: Overcoming Fear, Embracing Intimacy At Last”, 2012). If a secure type is rather confident in relationships, an avoidant type will be secure in the absence of these relationships. Unlike to a secure type, avoidant adults do not tend to get attached too much to another person because they feel unsure whether this person is reliable or not. The avoidant people do not want to get attached because it is unsecure.
Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style. Anxious adults would be preoccupied with the idea that the other person is not as attached as he/she is and would think what the reasons are and would be anxious about this situation. I suppose Bridget Jones from “Bridget Jones`s Diary” fit this category. High anxiety and low avoidance are typical for this category (“Attachment Styles: Overcoming Fear, Embracing Intimacy At Last”, 2012). Sometimes, they think they would scary

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