Attachment Theory By John Bowlby

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Attachment theory constituted by John Bowlby suggested the child’s early attachment with a primary caregiver predicts their later adulthood relationship style. There are three patterns of adult attachment theory: secure, avoidant, and ambivalent relationship styles. First, the secure relationship style shows few problems with developing satisfying friendships and relationships, such as trusting others and developing the bond with others (Larson & Buss, 2014). Second, the avoidant relationship style portrays by having difficulty in making commitments, relying on others, and trusting others because they are afraid of being disappointed (Larson & Buss, 2014). Lastly, the ambivalent relationship style is characterized as having high levels of neediness, reassurance, and attention in their relationships as they are overly dependent (Larson & Buss, 2014). Shieh shows few characteristics that describe avoidant relationship style, such as, avoidance of intimacy, afraid of commitment, and fear of being abandoned. He did not realize his problems with dating until he was in a serious relationship with Donna. Johnny Shieh began to date when he was in optometry school in Boston; hence he has never been in a serious relationship. He blamed it on his settlement because he was living three different cities for school. He went to the University of Waterloo, for undergraduate science program for four years, and then moved to College of Boston for optometry school for an additional four
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