Authoritarian vs. Authoritative Parenting Essay

909 Words Mar 17th, 2013 4 Pages
Authoritarian vs. Authoritative parenting
Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.
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I prefer to reinforce confidence and compassion into raising my sons. To do this, I have to show unconditional love and at the same time setting undefined boundaries. My mother left little to no room for mistakes to be made. She was a firm believer in pushing for excellence. I do not agree with that, I allow my children to make mistakes and I am there to encourage and support them. My mother was never a warm and nurturing parent. In fact, she has often been regarded as cold and rejecting. I choose to be that warm and nurturing parent. Communication is a primary factor in the well being of a parent-child relationship. When dialogue is developed between parent and child, options are explored and the child can learn valuable decision making skills.
Communication is important in discipline. Authoritarian parents tend to place an excess worth on the aspects of disciplining a child. Reasons or explanations of the rules for the punishment were never given with my mother. Being an authoritative parent, I lean towards allowing my children to know why the rules are such and what to expect when the rules are broken. A lot of authoritarian power base is achieved through parental intimidation of the child. The authoritative parent is less likely to respond my anger to a rebellion against their rules. When my mother gave punishments they were neither effective nor appropriate. However, by learning through experience I parent with firm but appropriate…