Awareness, Pain And Growth, And Success And Failure

I’m someone who at least tries to be self-aware and mindful of others in my daily life. Mindfulness is something I first learned about as a tool in therapy, but it’s something that has stuck with me in other aspects as well. I think that it has helped me to be more aware of how I communicate with others, I do my best to give others the benefit of the doubt, view without judgement, and understand that perspectives can vary greatly. I understand that the intent of someone’s words may not always match up with the desired effect of their words, which is something the book touches on repeatedly. Messages being misconstrued, words meaning different things to different people, timing, pitch, intonation, all of these things can change the way a situation or conversation is viewed by different people, and it leaves a lot of room for error when

The most significant period of suffering I have gone through was when I lost my grandfather. I remember we had celebrated his 50th birthday never did imagine it would be the last. That horrible news impacts my life forever realizing that we don’t count for a tomorrow. His death was suddenly due to an embolism. His death caused me a lot of suffering because he was not sick and we had made a lot of plans. I did not know how to deal with his death because I was heartbroken. I wonder and questioned if maybe only God had given us a warning. I did not know how to manage my grief and mourned for him because I was angry with God. It took me time to understand that it was God’s will and that his soul had returned to God. I learned that his death of the body was not the end of his life (Rubin & Yasien-Esmael, 2004). I found comfort in the midst of suffering by finding acceptance in God. Also, I found praying for him and sharing my suffering with others helped me console my pain. I learn that “the lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit,” which help my relationship with God grow as my pain slowly vanished.

While I was doing research for fasting rules, I noticed one of them was to not complain. I wondered the significance of stop people from complaining. To answer my question, I memorized the rule and carefully tried to practice it. Though I noticed that I broke the rule several times, I was content with my attempt. Once during dinner time, I heard other students complain about their sufferings. Sitting by them, I tried to stop myself from entering the conversation. I noticed that the dinner table was filled with negative emotions. I felt depressed after hearing all the grumbles. Finally, on Friday, the last day of deprivation week, I shared my concerns with my roommate. However, she criticized for my grumbling. I was shocked with full of regrets and guilty that I ignored my roommate’s feeling when I selfishly inject my personal negative thoughts to her. At the same time, as both a complainer and a person who was complained to, I totally understood her feelings. When others complained, I felt like they were copying their hardships and paste these hardships on mine. I found myself similar to them that I never considered other’s difficulties before groaning about mine. Reflecting on myself, I found that it is the selfishness and a lack of empathy that caused me to complain. Learning from the experience, I discovered the importance of

When approaching meditation as a novice like anything new you begin to categorize and assign key ideas based on the generalization of the word. One would expect when discussing the topic of mediation key components would arise to conform to the American Heritage Dictionary definition, “a devotional exercise of contemplation or a contemplative discourse” (Heritage, 1982). In such an exercise as mediation how would a simple subject of civility impact your ability to reflect and improve on upon yourself? Forni proposes that, “as a society we take a new, close look at that intriguing code of behavior based on respect, restraint and responsibility we call civility” (M., 2002, p.14); with in mind, one can correlate the relationship civility

Dr. McKinney illustrates these tensions as a contradiction; the idea of conflict between desires in a relationship. Mediation is a wonderful process in negotiating a solution between two parties thwarted by

1. Describe a time when you experienced a significant period of suffering. How did you deal with that experience? How did you find comfort in the midst of suffering?

Over the course of the last 5 months I have experienced many challenges that have presented to me in a wide variety of ways, some of which presented themselves based on my acts of poor judgment, and others I enacted on my own behalf. Throughout this period of time I have set many goals both academic and personal based on my challenges which have allowed me to stay focused and driven to be successful. Having an opportunity for personal reflection I have learned many things about myself and how I function, learn, and perform which as allowed me to grow mentally, personally, and spiritually. I now know and have gained a better understanding for how I think and feel, and how the decisions that I make on a daily basis shape my future. It is important for me to pay attention to how my actions have affected myself and those around me in that past and consider it as I move through life in the future.

Yet,it only washed away a few;the easy sorrows,but the effusive pains remained.Suddenly without warning,a vivid memory of my mother rushed to my mind and my heart constricted.

Something shifted in me listening to the stories of pain of two very formative people in my life. Something inside of me recognized the sacredness of this conversation. Once I heard

I ignore the slight pained grunt of the patient as I handle his wrist. I concentrate wrapping a bandage gently but firm enough to coddle the strain. He says he has no idea how he strained his wrist, but I had a pretty good idea what it could be. Pleasuring yourself too often can lead to a good amount of pain. I am beginning to feel far too acquainted with this scenario. I get one of these calls at least once a week. Guys in this city seriously jerk off way too much but this guy takes it to another level. Since seeing him, the amount of patients with this problem has double and the increase is him all by himself. This is beginning to become an epidemic maybe we should release a PSA. This is just ridiculous. There is no way in hell I was wasting nen on a guy who sprains his wrist masturbating, especially just after using it to heal a boy’s broken leg.

Despite having no mediation experience prior to this class, I immediately excelled in a few areas of mediation. Namely, I did well with the introduction, exuding confidence, and helping the disputants move toward a resolution. Each of these skills is extremely important for mediators as they help set the tone, maintain control of the conversation or accomplish the goal of mediation. Of course, I improved with I practice, but I performed admirably in each of these arenas from the outset.

Core components of (ACT) are acceptance and mindfulness. Techniques which come from a Buddhism philosophy, suggesting the way to emerge from suffering, is to firstly accept and identify its origin, and then detach from its source (Hart, 1987). One of ACT’s assumptions is that suffering is normal and unavoidable; and part of human experiences; but it’s the attempt to control or avoid painful experiences that lead to suffering. (ACT) paves the way to help let go of the struggles of pain; and be mindful of these negative thoughts. The goal of (ACT) is to increase psychological flexibility through its core processes, as a positive skill and not avoidance.

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Mindfulness is not a practice that comes naturally to everyone. Most of us struggle to reach the level of understanding and self-acceptance that mindfulness brings. If my journey through this class has taught me anything, it’s that mindfulness takes failure, patience, commitment, time, and hard work. These ideas may sound strange, after all failure isn’t typically viewed as desirable, but there is a lesson that comes from failure that no other life experience can teach. If it wasn’t for the challenge of learning and accepting who you are, or the failures and lessons along the way, the journey to mindfulness would be a less fruitful venture.

However, after hearing the inmates at my practicum site talking about the benefits of their mindfulness group, and once I had started the mindfulness class, I discovered the meaning and purpose of mindfulness exercises. The mindfulness exercises, specifically the ones that I could practice in everyday life at any time, made me notice the difference between perceiving my surroundings and mindfully perceiving it. I practiced the different mindfulness exercises I already knew and learned some more in class, and found that there are indeed many things in my stressful and hectic everyday life that simply remain unrecognized.