Basic Life Coach Tool Analysis

Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too. ~ Christine Morgan

(4) .2 Describe how to identify and contact sources of support and guidance for undertaking personal development.

While angry, people get out of control, sometimes not even realizing what they’re doing until after it’s done. “Interestingly, the effects of incidental emotion can be so strong that they drive behavior even when people have a financial incentive to disregard irrelevant influences on their judgment.” ("Fuel in the Fire: How Anger Impacts Judgment and Decision-Making”) Saying that, it’s clear that one of the main reasons why people make the choices that they do is because of their

For many years I struggled with managing my anger and have taken anger management counselling four times as a result. I have never demonstrated an explosive anger but rather and passive aggressive one, which according to my old anger management counselor is one of the worst types of anger. People that have passive aggressive anger issues are as he stated, “ticking time bombs.” This revelation scared me and I have actively worked on expressing my anger better since. I know what makes me angry, and if possible how and when I should avoid those situations. I know when to walk away and when to voice my feelings, but learning these skills has not been easy. I am not good at expressing emotions, and anger is no different. However, I know that unexpressed anger is unhealthy and if gone unchecked can become dangerous. Everyone one has a breaking point no matter how long their fuse is. I never wanted to reach that point, so I have worked on my anger management skills. I am pleased to say that I have a good handle on this now, and I think that the result of the assessment reflect that achievement. It takes a lot to make me angry but when I do get angry I know how to deal with it. I believe that these skills are imperative to good management. Managers cannot afford to allow anger to get in the way of managing their team or business. There are many

Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques. Learning to relax can ensure that communication can be made in a non-hostile way. (Association A. P.,

Understanding the various factors involved in the counseling process is imperative. The counselor’s connection with the client is an influential tool in the therapeutic relationship. My goal is to become an effective counselor who will help clients achieve their goals. As I progressed through this course, I became aware of my skills, strengths, weaknesses, and how I will continue to facilitate my growth as a counselor.

This Clinician worked on building rapport with Dallas and addressing the topic of anger management. The Clinician and Dallas work on the Anger Menu/Coping Skills Menu activity. Dallas was instructed to create a anger menu in which she drawn four different methods of expressing her anger on the menu with the help of the therapist. The different techniques that was taught by the therapist was muscle relaxation, paced breathing, calming imagery, assertive communication with friends and family members.

You can use anger on yourself. Some people become angry with themselves. If you get angry at yourself, you may try to hurt yourself. There is no reason for you to become angry with yourself because you are perfect, just the way you are. Most people who do this are being bullied. The bullies make them feel like they mean nothing.

Mastery of the three steps of self-compassion and compassion for others makes us virtually immune to the ill-effects of anger. The first step of self-compassion is seeing beneath the symptom or defense (anger, anxiety, manipulation, obnoxious behavior) to the cause, which is some form of core hurt (feeling unimportant, disregarded, accused, devalued, guilty, untrustworthy, rejected, powerless, unlovable). Second, the core hurt must be validated (this is how I feel at this moment), and, third, changed (this behavior or event or disappointment or mistake does not mean that I'm unimportant, not valuable or lovable.) Compassion for others is recognizing that their symptoms, defenses, and obnoxious behavior come from a core hurt,

There are several triggers that can provoke anger. Such things that make people angry are: alcohol, hunger, traffic, mental illness, pain and grief. Not only can these things make you angry, but if left untreated, can potentially lead to severe health problems. If these anger problems are uncontrolled or unsolved it can lead to problems such as backaches, headaches, strokes, heart attacks, or high blood pressure. Not only do physical problems result from uncontrolled anger, but so do mental ones. In fact, often those dealing with anger, suffer from some form of depression, self injury, alcohol/drug abuse, low self esteem, or even eating disorders. There are several symptoms that can help you identify if you are struggling with managing your anger. The emotional symptoms that are most commonly seen with poorly managed anger are depression, guilt, the desire to lash out verbally, resentment, and irritation. Some of the physical symptoms include pacing, using rude remarks, losing your humor, screaming or crying, lashing out physically, and fidgeting with one hand. Not every case of anger management shows these symptoms, but some individuals are able to identify their onset of intense anger with these

    To control my anger and be a calmer person, I will have to focus on solving the problems that make me angry. Therefore, I will learn how to apologize when I get in my bad mood and go off on  people and then end up hurting them with my words. I will also try to stick to my own problems that correspond with me, because I feel that when I try to solve a problem that does not correspond to me, I end up saying the wrong thing and easily end up impatient and mad.  I would like to prevent getting mad for example, I was furious when my little cousins lost

Anger is a common reaction that can aid individuals in relieving stress, and expressing emotions. Experiencing anger is normal, and at times, the appropriate response. When accomplished appropriately, anger can be an important tool used by a healthy adult. But anger has risks, perhaps more than any other emotion, it can isolate people from other adults and lead individuals to engage in behavior they may later regret. Anger can be manifested through a variety of ways, including physical violence, verbal profanity and internal frustrations. Anger can be the result of sadness, fear, or an overall inability to effectively cope with the struggles of everyday life. Writer had the experience of interacting with a client, TR, who was in the middle of an anger outburst, due to behavior of a staff member.

First you hit the gym , and either lose a few pounds or put on a few pounds of muscle ,  the effects bring your spirit and

Anger is a complex emotion. Anger can be a destructive behavior if man could not control it. The levels of anger relate to information which is processed of attributions, images, and thoughts that include one feeling excessively blamed, attacked, wronged, inferior, and violated. Anger appears to direct attention, perceptions, memory, and interests into paths of aggression (Averill 135). Anger perception differs from one to another. There are people who easily provoked and others who hardly get angry. There are many factors that control this process such as gender differences, environment, and culture. Moreover, People consider anger as their enemy but it sometimes can be a helpful tool of changing for the self and society. Anger can make

Expressing anger helps save our relationship rather than just keeping it inside. Getting angry isn’t something bad or something unusual. Every human being in this planet has experienced this emotion and its normal but the way we choose to react is different and sometimes this creates misunderstanding. Communication is the ultimate way to form a relationship and lack of communication ruins it. According to the poem, A Poison Tree by William Blake it says, “I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow”. If you choose to let, your anger grow it just grows. As a human being we have the option to either let it end or let it keep developing. Nothing will heal unless u communicate even if it’s difficult and hard, communicating is the best way to solve it.