“In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that ‘stressing academic success is not good for children’ or that ‘parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.’ By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be ‘the best’ students, that ‘academic achievement reflects successful parenting,’ and that if children did not excel at school then there was ‘a problem’ and parents ‘were not doing their job.’ … Chinese parents spend approximately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. By contrast, Western kids are …show more content…
She let Sophia, first daughter, play the piano. Louisa, second daughter, is the “wild one”. She is very “willful … obstinate … and fly[s] into a rage…” (Chua 11). Amy Chua wants her children to be successful in the future and drills many useful aspects of life, as well as the Chinese traditions. Amy Chua suggests that it is important for the children to acknowledge their parents and respects them. Chua expands on this positions when she states “Despite [the Chinese] parents’ brutal demands, verbal abuse, and disregard for their children’s desires, Chinese kids end up adoring and respecting their parents and wanting to care for them in their old age” (Chua 211). This shows that even though it seems like Chinese parents and their children are always bickering and arguing about things, it is only out of love and respect. Although the relationship between daughter and child in this book seems bleak, it is clear that Amy loves her kids very much and would never imagine losing them. The love conveyed between Amy and Lulu is evident because after they fight, they sit down and laugh together. Amy Chua considers herself a typical Chinese mother who aspires that someday her children will grow and take care of her and her husband.
Amy has decided how to use Chinese parenting style and combine it with Western style to come up with a perfect solution for her daughters. Because
Amy Chua has two daughters, to which she raised in a traditional Chinese way, strict. Very strict. Her daughters weren’t allowed sleepovers, television, arts and crafts, no ability to express their minds creatively. With the exception being piano. Second best wasn’t allowed, if you weren’t first, then you were last. Not being the best would result in punishment of correcting your failures hours on end. In the hope that, these painstaking hours would result in regaining success. School was at utmost importance, and being years ahead of other classmates was expected. If expectations weren’t met,
Amy Chua stirs up a controversial topic of the differences between Chinese and Western parenting styles in the article “Adapted from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”. One may believe that the Chinese way is too harsh as others may believe Western parents are too lenient. Any parent can relate to one or both parenting styles that Chua is discussing. This article is reaching out to parents who are unaware of the Chinese and Western parenting styles. To give the readers a better understanding of how each parenting style works. This article was based on Chua’s personal experiences as a Chinese parent.
In the article,” Why Chinese Mothers are Superior," author Amy Chua describes how parenting is approached in Chinese culture as compared to "Western parents." She compares Western and Chinese parents on how they approach their children’s' upbringings. She gives examples from her experiences raising her own daughters. Chua's daughters were not allowed to attend sleepovers and could not score grades any lower than an "A" in school classes. Chua also forced her kids in learning a piece for the piano. In separate story, author Amy Tan discusses the mother-daughter relationship in Chinese-American culture in "Two Kinds." This story is told from the viewpoint of an American-born Chinese girl named Jing-mei. Her immigrant mother, Mrs. Woo, believes that being in America is freedom and wants her daughter to take advantage of that freedom. Her mother has her try several activities in an attempt to
Which parenting style will lead to a child becoming successful and stable in life? Many argue about the answer to this question. There are four main types of parenting styles. There’s authoritarian parenting which follows a set of strict rules and doesn’t necessarily nurture the child; apathetic towards their emotions, demanding a sort of blind obedience from the child. Authoritative parenting which takes a more moderate approach; setting high standards, nurtures, and responds to the child’s emotions. Permissive parenting which is reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to allow kids to regulate themselves. Finally, there’s the hands-off parenting in which the parent doesn’t involve themselves
It began with her choosing their instruments and denying them to have playdates and sleepovers. Her kids began to do everything they were told and had no leisure time and freedom. A minus’ were frowned upon while B’s were unacceptable. Boyfriends in high school, TV, video games, and school plays were all forbidden in the lives of the Chinese children. In the overall picture, Amy told her kids childhood is not fun and games but is there to prepare you for the future and everything she was doing was for them. All the money Chinese parents put into her kids success has kept the their kids from quitting. All the hours of personally tutoring, training, interrogating, and watching their every move has trapped the children to be indebted to them. Chinese parents decisions, as shown in the memoir, overrides all their children's wants and dreams. Lulu, before rebelling was not allowed to quit violin no matter how much she hated it and it destroyed the relationship with her mother. Amy explained how Sophia, lacking a social life, ran home from school everyday so she had enough time to get in all the hours of piano and homework. If either of her kids had a choice, they would hang out with friends and dial down on the work. Later, when Lulu rebelled she made the choice to quit the violin and pursue her interest in tennis. As Jed, Amy’s western husband said, “Children don’t choose their parents, they don’t even choose to be born” (Chua
Amy Chua, a professor at Yale Law School, the author of “The World on Fire”, “Day of Empire”, and “Why They Fall”, in a Wall street Journal on January 8th, 2011, believes chinese mothers are the most rigorous on their children. The title of the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” was not chosen by Amy, but by the Wall Street Journal. Even though Amy did not write the title, there is reasoning that she does believe that chinese parenting is superior. Everyone is wondering how their children excel above everyone else. Thesis…
Questions have been raised on whether Chinese parenting raises more flourishing children than Western parenting. Despite what people think, in Amy Chua's essay “The Roar of the Tiger Mom”, she portrays the differences between the beliefs of Chinese parenting and Western parenting. Chua introduces the views of a Chinese parent compared to the views of a Western parent. The methods used by Chinese mothers in raising their children are drastically different from Western mothers. Each defends their methods and believes the other group is doing their job poorly. In the end, both types of parents just want one thing-- successful children.
In “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, the author Amy Chua stated that every parent, whatever race they are, has their own way of raising their children. Chua brought up some examples in her essay, and she believes that Chinese parents want better for their children, and Western parents are the same way. First the children are involved in different activities. Chua included a study in the essay, which said, “Western children participate in sports, while Chinese parents make their kids practice academic activities” (142-143). Secondly, Chinese parents
The author states that “Even when Western parents think they're being strict, they usually don't come close to being a Chinese mother”(Chua, 2). Chua is proving American society’s point on how Asian mothers are viewed. Her opinion on these parenting skills are shown once she mentions, “What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences” (Chua, 2). According to the Harvard Crimson, “Chinese mothers” have proven so successful in raising hardworking, intelligent offspring because of the immense esteem they hold for education and because of the sacrifices they are willing to undertake” (Nedzhvetskaya, 1).
Amy Chua and Amy Tan act contrastingly about how to train their daughters to do their best. Both excerpts show that their daughters are not able to make smart accommodations of their own; however, both parents feel differently about how their children should be raised. Though Chua and Tan have different ways of mothering their daughters, they both aim to teach their daughters to do their best at all times.
In January 2011 the Wall Street Journal published an article called “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” (WRAC 261-265), it was an expert from a book written by Amy Chua, and was soon the topic of much controversy. Chua came under much criticism for the way that she was raising her children. Many people though the way she was raising them was very much out of line. I for one think that Chua was only trying to instill in her children what she thought was important; even so, some of her tactics may have been a bit brash.
Amy Chua style is more of authoritarian. I understand that we all want what’s best for our children’s but for the Chinese parents it seems like they want to control their child life’s, there is a certain role parents have but being extremely controlling with the child life’s they are not giving them the opportunity to learn and explore for themselves. Chinses parents think they know best for their children but to having a saying in their life the children might always wonder what if or they might not even know what to do later on in life when the parents are not around they might let someone else control their life since they been so use to it. Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe that their child can get them. If their child doesn't get them, the Chinese parent assumes it's because the child didn't work hard enough. We all want our children to get good grades and sometimes push them so they can but there are times were the children just doesn’t understand but that does not mean they didn’t work hard enough; they are trying their best so all we should do is tell them they done the best they can
Because America is such a diverse country, there are many differences between cultures of various immigrant groups. Members of each culture, have their own beliefs and values regarding what they think is right. The cultural diversity allows for each person to have a different view of things. Amy Chua’s essay “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” she describes her way of parenting her two daughters following Chinese values about education. She explains how Western parents are much more lenient than Chinese parents with their children and education. Chua gives examples of how she raised her daughter Lulu and Sophia which lead them to achieve success. She makes comparisons between Western and Chinese parenting styles throughout the essay and concludes that both types of parents want the best for their children, but just approach parenting it in different ways. In the article, “Chinese vs Western Mothers: Q&A with Amy Chua,” Amy Chua is interviewed by Belinda Luscombe where she clarifies how her Chinese method of parenting did not hurt her children the way many readers thought it did. Chua explains that her relationship with her two daughters is very strong and believes there are many effective ways of parenting in addition to the Chinese approach. Chua’s essay shows the Chinese immigrant approach to parenting and gives insight into why so many children of Chinese parents are so successful. Discussing the cultural differences shows the risk of stereotyping groups where feelings
Amy Chua, a Yale professor, wrote the piece “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” sparked disbelief and fury in America after it was published in 2011. Chua raises her children in what would be, a brutal and harsh way for Western parents. In Chuas writing piece, she does not convey how her parenting style is better, because she fails to make a logical bond reader due to the fact that her parenting style may be seen as harsh, or even a disputable way to bring up a child. Chuas parenting technique comes from China, this includes a harsh and meticulous approach to all school work, and of the instrument the parent chooses for the child. She believes that this a much more superior way of parenting, compared to Western parenting, Chua provides
Lastly, she points that Chinese parents believe to know what's best for their children. She goes on to give an example of this by saying "That's why Chinese daughters can't have boyfriends in high school and why Chinese kids can't go to sleepaway camp." Her belief in sorting out the child's priorities over their wants is an indicator that she focuses only on the things that can bring forth success opposed to Westerners who would permit their children to do these things along with others. Despite the opinions of others, she still has a positive outlook on the cultural Chinese parenting style.