Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua

Every parent always wants what is best for their children. But what is the best way to go about this? There are so many ways one can go and never know if you are right or are doing the right thing. You might believe you are doing what is best for your child or children, but other parents don't see it that way and that is where conflict arises between parents at times. In the essay, “The Roar of the Tiger Mom” Amy Chua explains with great detail, the many differences between Chinese mothers and western parents have in the upbringing of their children trying to prepare them for the real world. Amy Chua puts in her own insight of Chinese mothers trying to justify the Chinese parenting style, however, many western parents would defy Chinese

Parenting is always a debatable topic, especially here in America. Every person has their own opinion on how a child should be disciplined and raised. In Amy Chua’s “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, Chua explains different aspects of Chinese parenting and how it has been effective in her life. She claims that by breaking a child down and pushing them to their full potential, the child will become more confident and very successful. Through the use of several different rhetorical devices, Chua supports and weakens her claim and expresses a controversial way of parenting.

In “Adapted from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” author Amy Chua argues that, instead of constantly praising a child for the slightest success, parents should only expect perfection from their children and nothing less. She explains that Western parents are not as strict on their children as Chinese parents are. That Western parents don’t believe in stressing educational success and that education should be something fun. In contrast, Chinese parents believe that academic success is very important and to get good at something it takes practice and hard work which may not seem fun at first but in the long run the activity becomes fun once mastered. Chua also believes that Chinese parents can get away with things that Western parents cannot such as calling their child garbage after being misbehaved. Chua states three main differences between Western parents and Chinese parents.

The methods or style of parenting, teaching and engagements strong impacts on the child development as it is the primary socialization point for children. It gives children a point of reference as when they are young they grow observing and learning keenly on what their parents are doing. Studies show that, children that are raised by active, involving and playful fathers performs better in school, have higher IQ and can cope with school related stress easily compared to those that are raised in families where father figure is absent or less involving. It also shows

In the article, “Adapted From Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” Amy Chua, the author, gave some very valid points about how Western children and Chinese children are raised very diversely. Chinese parents are more strict and Western parents are more laid back. Most of the authors points that she made were backed up with statics so they were reliable and valid. There were just a few she didn't back up it was just her opinion. The statements about how the Chinese mothers raise their children are not agreeable or realistic. In all the authors article was valid and had some great points.

As the old saying gone”children are our future”.The parenting style is the most important part of rearing children.A good parenting styles can directly change the development of children.Providing a happiness and liberty life to them.Moreover,Giving opportunities for the children to pursuit their dreams and future.Unfortunately,East Asian culture has a deeply ingrained focus on the achievements and education.So that,It cause a disturbing phenomenon in many eastern countries.It is clear that people must to rethink and recognise which parenting style is better.This essay argues that a lenient parenting style has several advantages over the strict parenting style on achievement,mental health and independence those three aspect.

In Susan Adams’s article “Tiger Moms Don’t Raise Superior Kids, Says New Study”, Adams explains the disorganized matter of tiger parenting. She defines it as a very aggressive form of parenting leading to depressed children with unsociable characteristics. In the article Adams identifies one of the pieces defending the effects of tiger parenting. Amy Chua a Yale law school professor wrote the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” Chua explains that children need to grow up disciplined and become an experienced student at an early age. Teaching them that the need for musical talent, high grades, and focusing on a very high earning career as an absolute necessity for kids being raised in an aggressive form of parenting.

In the excerpt, Chua focuses on the differing parenting techniques of Chinese and Western parents. She concludes that a contrast in the parent’s mindset leads to distinct parenting styles and various levels of success for the kids. As a Chinese mother herself, Chua confirms that stereotypes for Chinese parenting styles are a reality. She describes how her two children were banned from participating in sleepovers, school plays, and many other activities common to Western children. Even with all of the strict rules and high expectations,

So if the strict Chinese parenting style hurts kid's mental health, what provides the best alternative? Many would argue that the authoritative parents style works the most effectively in almost every situation. Brenda Scottsdale stated that children reared under warm, nurturing parents have much higher self esteem, independence, and brain development than children brought up by authoritarian parents. (everydaylife.globalpost.com) Because authoritative parents give a perfect blend of standards and warmth, they provide their children with goals and encouragement, and the ability to learn on their own.

Mothers want their daughters to be perfect at everything they do, while daughters don’t see the point in learning skills. Mother-daughter relationships can be described as caring or uncaring. These are both shown in Amy Chua’s memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom, and Amy Tan’s novel, The Joy Luck Club. Both stories focus on Chinese-American mothers, trying to teach their daughters in “traditional chinese ways”. Each story is written from opposite points-of-view the impact of each comes across excellently.

There are many types of parents around us, and every culture shows something different. There are types of parenting styles and some of them are authoritarian, indulgent, and uninvolved. Every culture falls under one of the parenting styles and Chinese are considered authoritarian. Amy Chua, a Yale professor, a famous author, who recently wrote the book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”, in which she discuses parenting and the difference between Chinese and Western parenting. After reading “ Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, she argues about different parenting styles and how Chinese parents are superior in terms of focusing on education with their kids.

The nationality of C, as a mother means that she must live up to the “chines mother” standard that produces intelligent and musical children. As a Chines mother C sets strict standards and restrictions portrayed as the stereotype of the white class. Arguing that negative comments such as “garbage” do not harm children C, illustrates that negative comments make the child stronger and ready for the world. At a young age C's parents made negative comments towards her, instead of feeling self hate like R, C felt loved and motivated to respect her parents and do better in academics. The parenting style of a Chinese mother such a C, is different from R's mother's parenting style; C parenting style is a circle of events to encourage a child to obey the parents wants by producing negative comments and strict outlines until the child reaches a set standard, once the child has reached the standard C will give her children positive reinforcement to encourage the child to continue the standard. Chinese parents believe their children owe the parent a life debt, C believes that her children need to provide her without disobedience like a dog obeying its owners

Thesis: Superior versus Inferior Parenting Skills Being a mother of two girls my greatest wish is for both of them to be successful and happy in their lifetime. I often ask myself what is the best way to ensure that this happens. Based on “Hanna Rosin’s” article Mother Inferior she states that some parents choose to only want their children to be happy. This article touches on a many facets including how western parents are hell bent on making their children feel like winners regardless of their achievements. This article describes western parents as parents that make their children feel like winners regardless of their performance.

“I expect nothing but the best. If it is not an A, you are not striving to the best of your ability. You cannot be a musician; you have to be a doctor. You can only be someone when you ARE someone. That will only happen after you take ten extra lessons outside of school, and you also have to learn how to play all types of instruments. My main point is, you have to be the best.” For many centuries, cultures from all around have had many debates on the correct way of parenting. In recent times, a specific type of parenting has been in the spotlight: the parenting of Asian mothers. They are known as very passive and submissive to strangers, but to their own kids they turn around 360 and becoming very aggressive and demanding. Many Westerners think Easterners way of parenting is cruel and inhumane. Westerners think that Asian mothers have goals that are unrealistic; they are selfish because they are simply living their dream through their children. Asian mothers, on the other hand, claim they do it all out of love.

As they grow up, it is common for the parent to enroll their child in extracurricular activities such as karate, music classes, sports, book clubs, etc. Research has acknowledged that the first child is the one that parents have the most expectations for. In this case, there is only one child. Therefore, the parents will go through high-pressure parenting. “Parent pressure is when a parent puts too much strain on their child to force them to exceed” (My Baby & Me). This puts the child under a great deal of anxiety when it comes to growing up. There is already a level of excellence that is drawn out for them to maintain. Some parents are successful with this method, and then some aren’t. There is no such thing as a perfect parent in this world, but there are some parents that are better than others and some that are just average parents. All parents have different methods when it comes to raising their children. Some are strict, or understanding and caring, or neglectful. Parents are categorized by the way they raise their children. This is called parenting style. Diana Baumrind identified four distinctive parenting styles, Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved. Michael Popkin (1987) found that the greatest control parents have over children is their style of parenting; this factor could significantly influence a child’s destiny, the way a child turns out to be in the future (p. 35). Authoritarian