In the book "Bystander", written by James Preller, it talks about not just the bully and victims but the other roles, such as Bystanders and allies. In chapter 20, a gathered group of boys discuss their responses to Griffin's unreasonable and illogical behavior. Their reasons for doing nothing
In a study taken by the American Medical Association it was reported that over 3.2 million students are victims of bullying each year. Out of these 3.2 million they found that approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day and 1 in 10 students drop out to school to escape from
In this same journal researchers found that 41% of students say that they would step in and help a fellow classmate in need. However, in reality only about 1 in 4 actually do intervene (Flanagan and Stout, 2009). There is obviously some discretion between intention and behavior. Researchers are not sure what makes children decide to help or not to help. These young students are demonstrating the bystander effect. This journal also talks about bullying and why students will not tell teachers when a student is being bullied. Not much study has been done on this, but researches believe that it has much to do with the bystander effect.
The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the
To begin with, bystanders choose not to help the victim. According to Source 4, they just stand by and watch. They usually do this because they are afraid to get in trouble or become bullied too. This tells the victim that they don't matter and that this is okay. Making the victim feel upset may cause them to harm their self or even become a bully. If someone does decide to help the bully out, the bystander will exclude them from their group of friends. That is how bystander choose not to help the bully.
Chapter three - How people can prevent bullying from happening. What can you do if you are the Bystander? Teen Activists Alex Libby - There are many people in this world that want to stop bullying. One example of these people is a teenage activists named Alex Libby. To add, in the
If you happen to be the bystander, your success comes from knowing not to get involved or not to get too involved, lest you yourself become an actual bully or a victim. You may even be blessed with the cherished gift of self-denial, and in such case, you are able to dismiss any vague notions that your inaction makes you complicit in the bully's trespass. Still you are human: you have an opinion, you have feelings about the matter. Maybe you sympathize with one of the sides. Maybe you wish you had the guts to be that way. Maybe you're just afraid you'll get hurt. Maybe you have something to lose; maybe that something is so valuable you're not willing to gamble it. Maybe you simply feel guilty for not getting involved. Or, maybe all you feel is relief -- relief that it's not you. Makes no difference, the bystander just stands there. Hence the name. Oh, you may be emotionally conflicted, but being a bystander is really the safest place to be. Consequently, bystanders often opt to remain bystanders.
Bystanders accept bullying by watching and doing nothing to resolve a conflict. Just like how the U.S. knew the Holocaust was happening but didn’t get involved. Even though no one got involved, it still contributed to the problem. It contributed to making the one causing it feel powerful.
Page 35: Chapter 3: The Bystanders People may not realize it, but bystanders play a huge role in bullying. By not stepping in or telling someone about it, they are making the problem worse. A bystander intervening could stop someone from getting hurt, and even prevent bullying from happening in the future. If a bystander does not say or do anything about it, they are contributing to the issue. There are more bystanders than there are bullies, so it is their choice to help or hurt the situation.
If you saw someone being attacked by another person, either physically or verbally, would you step in and help out and try to stop the bully or would you stand by and let it happen? Not many people stop and think about this. Sometimes people bully to fit in, fearing if they don’t do what the ‘cool’ kids are doing they will be an outsider and then be left in the shoes of the one who is getting bullied. Bullying effects people all around the world and it is a very serious issue, but sadly not many people take it seriously.
In the 1990s, a bully would normally brag about how he or she stole an individual’s lunch money, or how he or she blurted out an embarrassing rumor about the victim during class to his/her peers. In the 2010s, the bully will typically keep the bullying to themselves because in today’s society, people tend to care more about a bullying situation more than in the 1990s. Today, people hold fundraisers, do community speaking to raise awareness, and create a more disciplinary system at school and at home. A bystander in the 1990s would ignore the bullying situation that individual witnessed, and go on with their day like nothing happened. Bystanders in the 1990s, were not well aware of what the effects of bullying has on the victim; that is why a bystander never really bothered to report the bullying. A bystander today, will normally stand-up for the victim, or report the situation to a superior. A bystander in the 2010s have been well informed about the causalities that occur due to bullying, or how the victim reacts due to the bullying. The victim in the 2010s would normally report the situations themselves, or stand-up to the bully. Some victims will keep the bullying to themselves, but that is different compared to the bully keeping the bullying to him or herself. The emotions created from being bullied will cause the victim to become suicidal, or
“Bystanders of bullying are never innocent.” (6) Summarize: This article starts out with a short story of a bullied victim on a school bus and how he is tormented every day by a bully on the bus. Then the author, McNamee continues to tell about how their are three
I have never been in a situation where my actions could prevent someone from being hurt. However, if I were faced with that scenario, I imagine that I would be an active bystander. What I mean by that is I would not ignore them, I would do my best to help that person. Factors that could influence my choice would be the people nearby. If there are others around me that see the situation, I may wait to see if someone else will confront those that are bullying. Or, if I see people who are close to the person being bullied, I may let them handle it instead. However, if no one does anything, I will step up and help. The setting may also influence what I do. For example, if we were in a school and I saw someone being bullied, I would likely
Typically among teenagers bullying is a must and it is popular. The power of a teen is demonstrated through bothering or picking on a younger teen or a teenager who is considered weak and cannot defends itself. Not only does the accusations occur verbally but it's also based upon
According to www.bullyingstatistics.org, text bullying can be much meaner because the suspect can text whatever they want because they don’t have to see their victims. Also, "Text Bullying" states that it can happen 24 hours a day, even at home, which is usually a refuge of bullying, so to the victim it will feel inescapable. According to Source 1, students get bullied because they are having a rough time at home. Students may become a bully because they have been bullied in the past. People also become a bully because they want to hurt someone and they think they are bigger, stronger, smarter, and they think they can overpower that person. Being a bully is worse than a bystander because they would get the blame for suicide, lose trust in their amazing friends and loving and caring family, they would have an abundant amount of guilt, and they would be the main cause of all that happened to that person.