Being A Bystander

In the book "Bystander", written by James Preller, it talks about not just the bully and victims but the other roles, such as Bystanders and allies. In chapter 20, a gathered group of boys discuss their responses to Griffin's unreasonable and illogical behavior. Their reasons for doing nothing include "The unreliability of authority figures to respond", "The threat of retaliation", "The victim, at least on some level, deserves it" , "It is human nature, the law of the jungle, and it will always persist", "It's better to stay out of it", "No one should rat out another student". These are ridiculous and absurd reason to be a bystander to such a unspeakable act. The main idea I would like to another reader to consider is advise others to not

If you saw someone being attacked by another person, either physically or verbally, would you step in and help out and try to stop the bully or would you stand by and let it happen? Not many people stop and think about this. Sometimes people bully to fit in, fearing if they don’t do what the ‘cool’ kids are doing they will be an outsider and then be left in the shoes of the one who is getting bullied. Bullying effects people all around the world and it is a very serious issue, but sadly not many people take it seriously.

The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the

When allowing it to happen, the person getting bullied could end up killing themselves. I mean, why would you allow such thing to happen? Also, the victim may feel like the bystander is supporting the bully because they’re allowing that to happen.

In the book Bystander, Eric, the protagonist, was a bystander, who noticed about bullying but, never did anything about it. Eric learned to take action for what is right to prevent from bullying and not be a bystander. As Eric realized that he was a bystander, he learned to stand up and confront the bullies.

In this same journal researchers found that 41% of students say that they would step in and help a fellow classmate in need. However, in reality only about 1 in 4 actually do intervene (Flanagan and Stout, 2009). There is obviously some discretion between intention and behavior. Researchers are not sure what makes children decide to help or not to help. These young students are demonstrating the bystander effect. This journal also talks about bullying and why students will not tell teachers when a student is being bullied. Not much study has been done on this, but researches believe that it has much to do with the bystander effect.

If you happen to be the bystander, your success comes from knowing not to get involved or not to get too involved, lest you yourself become an actual bully or a victim. You may even be blessed with the cherished gift of self-denial, and in such case, you are able to dismiss any vague notions that your inaction makes you complicit in the bully's trespass. Still you are human: you have an opinion, you have feelings about the matter. Maybe you sympathize with one of the sides. Maybe you wish you had the guts to be that way. Maybe you're just afraid you'll get hurt. Maybe you have something to lose; maybe that something is so valuable you're not willing to gamble it. Maybe you simply feel guilty for not getting involved. Or, maybe all you feel is relief -- relief that it's not you. Makes no difference, the bystander just stands there. Hence the name. Oh, you may be emotionally conflicted, but being a bystander is really the safest place to be. Consequently, bystanders often opt to remain bystanders.

For starters bystanders make the bully feel good. They encourage them by taunting. In ‘’Scholastic News Tales of Bulling’’ Geoffrey Hill says that his friend was a bystander but he soon realize it was bad and it was just like bulling. It makes the victim feel lonely and fell even worse. Indeed don’t be the guy to fit in, make a change.

People may not realize it, but bystanders play a huge role in bullying. By not stepping in or telling someone about it, they are making the problem worse. A bystander intervening could stop someone from getting hurt, and even prevent bullying from happening in the future. If a bystander does not say or do anything about it, they are contributing to the issue. There are more bystanders than there are bullies, so it is their choice to help or hurt the situation.

Throughout my years in Carolyn Clark Elementary School, teachers and parents taught us how to be active bystanders. I knew that we had the power to make decisions about how to respond to whatever we see or hear. The choices we make can make a positive or negative impact on the people experiencing the event. When we stay silent, do nothing, or look the other way while witnessing someone being hurt verbally, physically, or mentally, we are participating in something that allows discrimination and

To begin with, bystanders choose not to help the victim. According to Source 4, they just stand by and watch. They usually do this because they are afraid to get in trouble or become bullied too. This tells the victim that they don't matter and that this is okay. Making the victim feel upset may cause them to harm their self or even become a bully. If someone does decide to help the bully out, the bystander will exclude them from their group of friends. That is how bystander choose not to help the bully.

Bystanders accept bullying by watching and doing nothing to resolve a conflict. Just like how the U.S. knew the Holocaust was happening but didn’t get involved. Even though no one got involved, it still contributed to the problem. It contributed to making the one causing it feel powerful.

Summarize: This article starts out with a short story of a bullied victim on a school bus and how he is tormented every day by a bully on the bus. Then the author, McNamee continues to tell about how their are three

I have never been in a situation where my actions could prevent someone from being hurt. However, if I were faced with that scenario, I imagine that I would be an active bystander. What I mean by that is I would not ignore them, I would do my best to help that person. Factors that could influence my choice would be the people nearby. If there are others around me that see the situation, I may wait to see if someone else will confront those that are bullying. Or, if I see people who are close to the person being bullied, I may let them handle it instead. However, if no one does anything, I will step up and help. The setting may also influence what I do. For example, if we were in a school and I saw someone being bullied, I would likely

Although many people say, yes bystanders should be able to intervene when there is trouble, a lot of people also believe they shouldn’t be able to intervene when there is trouble. The people that think they shouldn’t intervene when there is trouble is because it isn’t as easy to stand up for someone when they are being bullied, and they may be overwhelmed with something they are already going through and they can’t deal with one more thing. Some people think things like, ‘Someone will surely step in’ (Whitson). It is normal for kids to just pass by thinking that, and someone else truly actually might step in to help. Intervening for young people is very difficult especially when the young girl or boy are shy in some way. For shy kids that are