Being A Qualitative Parent

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

When asked for the key to good parenting, most adults would respond with a similar answer: being present in their children’s lives. Unfortunately, in this current culture, many adults have two jobs. They try to earn enough money to support their families, so they rarely have enough time to help their children with daily situations. Additionally, children do not always have a desire to seek help from their parents for a variety of reasons. Although parents attempt to help their sons and daughters through difficult times, whether it is about school, their social lives, or even the healthy or unhealthy choices they are making for dinner that night, children do not always want to listen to their parents.

The authoritative parenting style is the “In between,” of both the authoritarian and permissive parenting styles, and has a “Give and take approach.” Authoritative parents are very involved in their children’s lives: children help around the home and in decision-making processes, and homework is supervised. This approach to parenting raises children who are responsible, well behaved in school, have a high self-esteem, and good problem solving skills along with decision making skills. The authoritative approach to parenting has very positive effects on children’s lives presently, and in the future. (Marsiglia, C.,Walczyk, J., Buboltz, W., Ross, D. 2007).

My parenting style is shown through the many different decisions I made throughout my child’s development. When making certain decisions I asked myself how I was going to assess the situation. How was I going to make the decision where it would benefit me and my child in the future? I would describe my parenting style as very disciplined, however, laid back during certain situations. When there was a problem I made the decision to address the problem with my child. For example, at 18 months, Leo started saying the word “no” and started to refuse help. I made the decision to let him choose between two choices which are both options that I want him to do. This allowed my child to become an active part in making choices during a certain situation. At three years old, Leo was being pushed around in school and was lacking leadership abilities. I made the decision to arrange play dates with other kids and praised Leo for sharing and communicating appropriately with the other children. During adolescence, Leo’s self-esteem was pretty high,

“Baumrind (1967, 1971) identified three main styles of parenting”, explains Swartz, de la Rey, Duncan and Townsend (2011:65). The three main styles of parenting are authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting and permissive parenting. Furthermore, each one of these parenting styles is associated with certain outcomes based on the behaviour of the child, the type of relationship that the child has with the parent and even the child’s self-esteem. However, according to a psychological expert Cherry (2015) “developmental psychologists have long been interested in how parents impact child development”. In brief, this might mean that, parents’ actions and behaviour have a huge impact on their child, which may cause the child to adopt the behaviour and make it a habit as they grow to be parents. So, as a parent you should always keep in mind that “your kids watch you for a living. It’s their job, it’s what they do. That’s why it’s so important to try your best to be a good role model”, declares Lehman (n.d.). I will now discuss the authoritarian

“Just as our ancestors were left to their own devices to survive a hostile world full of wild animals, severe elements of nature, and a decided lack of vocabulary, we, too, are on our own when it comes to surviving today’s hostile world of wild bullies, fatal climate swings, economic stressors, and a persistent overload of information. These issues, along with many others, affect the way in which we parents our children but because we want the best for them and fear the worst if we don’t pull out all the stops, we sometimes succumb to unreasonable and extreme behavior. Despite our best intentions and an untestable desire to do our best for our kids, we can easily succumb to what we call overparenting” (Glass 3). Parenting; it doesn’t come with

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Reflecting on my goals and accomplishments in life, I developed an idea of what I a parent’s obligation should be. Similar to how my parents raised me, I agree that a parent’s obligation is to see that their child’s best potential is realized. Although I agree with that belief, I do not agree that a child needs to become the “super-best” person they can be in order to realize their own personhood. A child’s idea of “super-best” cannot be fulfilled by anyone but him or herself, therefore is not the parent’s obligation. Parents should act as resources to their children to guide them in the right direction in life. My parents let me drive the steering wheel in my own life, allowing me to make my own decisions and mistakes. Allowing children the

A parent’s ability to properly raise a child stands as the most pivotal test in their chapter of life as guardians. The quality of a guardians “parenting” skills create the foundation for the child to grow and prosper in their lifetime as good, moral human beings. As a society, we understand that we need to teach our children right from wrong, not talk to strangers, and to always share with others. These just begin to break the surface of the many lessons that good parents should instill into their children’s young malleable brains. Now, just because this grand expectation of “good parenting” stand so highly in society, doesn’t mean they always step up to the plate and perform like they should. Some parents in today’s society do not actually

A key component in shaping a child’s viewpoint on themselves and how they perceive the world all starts with how the child was raised. According to B. Piko and M. Balázs, “parenting deeply influences children’s development of personality and self- concept” (150). It has been found that children who grow up with the authoritative parenting have high self-esteem and show better academic achievement. Parents are more likely to guide their children and explain their reasoning behind certain rules or restrictions rather than saying “because I said so”. Parents

Over the years studies have found patterns in parenting styles and their effects on children. "Parenting isn’t only a collection of skills, rules, and tricks of the trade (Lloyd, Carol. 2012)”, it defines who you become, reflects your culture and represents values important in a family. Parenting style has a long term impact on a child’s development, success and outlook on life. The three styles of parenting are permissive parenting/hands-off parenting , authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting .Studies revealed that the authoritative parenting style results in the highest success rates for their children in school and in social aspects, thus creating a stable child (Lloyd, Carol.2012).

Research has shown that authoritative parenting is the most effective style to develop independence, decision-making skills, high self-esteem, and sociability (Arnett, 2013). This style is a delicate balance of communicating and setting clear behavioral expectations in a loving, empathetic, and respectful way (Arnett, 2013). In adolescence good decisions are not always made so attentive parenting is vital. During late adolescence, Grace tested boundaries and warranted astute parenting skills.

Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and

Thesis: The authoritative parenting style is the most effective style for producing children that have desirable traits, such as good morals, obedience, compassion and responsibility.

Self-confidence helps children and adults be more successful individuals. People with self-confidence make friends easier, accomplish more, and are less likely to be plagued with sleep disorders, social disorders, depression, and anxiety. Obviously teaching your kids to be self-confident is an important parental responsibility. Five of the best ways to do this is to let your children known its okay to make mistakes, to expose them to new activities, places and people every day, to show unconditional love, avoid comparisons to others and encourage rather than praise.