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The abuse is usually frequent enough that the victim internalizes it. This leaves the victim feeling fearful, insignificant, untrusting, emotionally needy, and unlovable. Survivors of this form of abuse have a hard time understanding why they feel so bad (Munro, K. 2001.).

When we think of relationships, do we ask ourselves what it truly takes to have mutual ones? We learned about the types of relationships from reading Of Mice and Men and watching movies like The Mighty and Tuesdays with Morrie; what about in real life, however? What does it take to have a mutual relationship with someone? What factors go into this? Through the movies, we learned that relationships can come in all shapes and colors, and sometimes these relationships don’t start off healthy. There are times where relationships can start off on a parasitic foot. Or maybe they end in parasitism. While reading this, you’ll get a glance into the different types of relationships, the factors that go into healthy relationships and what to watch out for when you’re unsure.

The five sections of domestic violence as stated above are physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological. The physical aspect of domestic disputes includes hitting, biting, pinching, biting, and shoving. Physical abuse can also include depriving the victim of health treatments and forcing them to do deviant activities. Sexual abuse includes marital rape and treating the victim in a sexually patronizing way. Emotional abuse is anything involving diminishing the other person’s self-esteem or

disconnect and in the end causing a great emotional rift to be caused between husband and wife, and

Abuse can come in many forms, including those that we cannot physically see. Intimate partner violence can occur physically, sexually, and psychologically and emotionally. Physical violence includes the use of physical force, such as slapping, hitting, kicking, grabbing, throwing, use of a weapon, and the like, with the intention to cause harm, injure, or kill (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention). Sexual violence describes violence that uses force to compel a person to engage in sexual activity against their will or ability to decline. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention). And lastly, psychological and emotional violence involves harming the victim through the use of threats or coercive tactics such as, but not limited to, humiliating, controlling, isolating, or stalking (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention). Similarly, there are two major forms of intimate partner abuse: intimate terrorism and situational couple violence (Leone, Lape, and Xu). Intimate terrorism describes a pattern of abuse in which one partner exercises a cycle of continuous power and control over their significant other by means of physical or coercive actions that trap their victim in the relationship while, in contrast, situational couple violence refers to violence that it provoked by a specific conflict (Leone, Lape, and Xu). Overall, it is clear that intimate partner abuse occurs in a variety of ways and to varying degrees of

Some people may not know they are being abused because they are either ignorant or don’t know which type of abuse is being inflicted onto them. Licensed mental health counselor Laura Streyffeler feels there are several types of abuse; physical, verbal, sexual, environmental, and emotional abuse. Heise L, Garciea-Moren condones that "domestic violence, also called intimate partner violence (IVP), partner abuse, and spousal abuse, is a serious, preventable public health problem that affects millions of Americans. The terms domestic violence or intimate partner

Physical abuse not only effects a person's current state of mind, but it effects them throughout their life.

Looking at the effects of both forms of violence, the wounds inflicted by emotional damage run deeper than those inflicted by physical abuse even though there are no scars to show. In most cases, verbal abuse accelerates to physical abuse. This research does not seek to diminish the impact of physical abuse, but states that emotional abuse has larger scale damage to the victims involved. Recent statistical research done in 2014 indicate that 40% of men worldwide experience any form of domestic violence from their spouses ranging from mild to full blown abuse (Sacks,

In many instances, when someone hears the word abuse, they think of physical abuse. The fact is psychological, also known as emotional, abuse is the most prevalent form of abuse. Having witnessed individuals that are close to me subject themselves to this type of abuse in a relationship and remain in it, I was curious to know more about the effects of psychological abuse. I asked myself questions like what is it? Why do people abuse others this way? Who can be effected? What are the long term effects of being abused? My goal is to be able to sympathize with those who are experiencing psychological abuse and ultimately find a way to lead them to help.

Every year, nearly 10 million men and women are abused by an intimate partner in the United States. Intimate partner violence or IPV is defined as any behavior within an intimate relationship that causes physical, psychological, or sexual harm to those in the relationship (Burgess, Regerhr, & Roberts, 2013). Acts of physical aggression include slapping, punching, kicking, beating, and biting. Twenty individuals are victims of physical violence every minute in the United States. Psychological maltreatment is the hardest form of abuse to detect, however it can cause long-term detrimental consequences such as PTSD, depression, and anxiety. Displays of psychological maltreatment include, but are not limited to verbal attacks, isolating the victim, verbal threats of harm, humiliation, controlling the victim, and stalking. Sexual harm is characterized as any forced sexual intercourse. Research suggests that 1 in every 5 women will be raped in her lifetime (Burgess, Regerhr, & Roberts, 2013).

All relationships have their ups and downs, but what happens when you fall into a place where it seems like your platonic, romantic, and every other kind of relationship all got jammed together at the bottom? The play Taming of the Shrew and the movie 10 Things I Hate About You both show us forced takes on love and how it works to influence the dynamics between family members like Katherine and Bianca or romantic partners much like Petruchio and Katherine. On most occasions, not meeting each other on the same page or even trying to understand one another leads to the mess that is this kind of hard love.

Physical domestic abuse includes any physical contact which is choking, punching, stabbing, shooting, also including sexual violence, attack on the genital area and forced sexual relations. Emotional abuse takes the form of a systematic degrading of the victim’s self-worth. This may be accomplished by calling the victim names, derogatory or demeaning comments, forcing the victim to perform degrading or humiliating acts, threatening to kill the victim or the victim’s family, controlling access to money, and acting in other ways that imply that the victim is crazy. Then there is psychological abuse which follows emotional abuse because it can affect a person mentally. This includes destroying personal belongings, family heirlooms, or even the family pet. This destruction is purposeful and the psychological impact on the victim may be devastating as a physical attack. Psychological abuse can result in creating serious trauma for an individual and result into being places such as a mental hospital or even suicide

There are many different kinds of relationships, and all of them require a commitment and an understanding between people. There are ties of friendship, relationships with family, those that we have with co-workers, and there are relationships in which two people are romantically involved. Regardless of the type of relationship, the desires are the same, to have perfect harmony between all connected. However, since we are human, a perfect relationship usually does not exist. When relationships are broken, or venture upon rocky seas, there comes a time when a person must decide if the union is important enough to work on mending the relationship.

Experiencing abuse can lead to many things; bruises or cuts, or even depression or anxiety. However, different kinds of abuse can have different effects. For example, a child who is a victim of physical abuse could show signs of having trouble at school, difficulty trusting others, and many more things. A victim of emotional abuse, though, might question their memory or feel shame or guilt. Although, all kinds of abuse can lead to things like depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

     There are various forms of emotional abuse but they all contribute to the victim as feeling helpless and inability. One form of emotional abuse is verbal dominance. Meaning the victims opinions, feelings and thoughts carry no weight and are pretty much meaningless. A second form of emotional abuse is isolation, this occurs when the abuser limits the victims access to money, use of the car and other normal activities. The abuser also talks negatively about friends and family making it uncomfortable to maintain outside relationships. A third form of emotional abuse is guilt, this occurs when the abuser blames the spouse for his/her assaultive behavior with rationale, after a period of time the spouse blames self for the battering. A fourth form is fear; the abuser threatens harm to spouse, family or friends in order to stay in control of a situation. Finally a fifth form of spousal abuse is humiliation, this is when the abuser may put down the spouse in front of children, family and friends. (Wallace)