Belongingness By Banana Yoshimoto

To belong with a person or group it means that we are accepted and tolerated and that we feel safe and have a sense security when we are with that person or group, belonging can influence us in many ways, it can change our sense of self and the way we perceive the world. The way our family and friends influence us changes our sense of self and who we are. The Memoir The Happiest Refugee By Anh Do, this memoir shows how when Anh Do arrived in Australia he did not belong due to his non-english background, Anh overcame many issues on his journey to belong and now is treated as a full Australian citizen.

A common human characteristic is the yearning to feel a sense of belonging through connections and different forms of relationships made in life. A sense of belonging or not belonging can emerge from feeling connected to people and places, whether they have been freely cast there or not. An individual will only feel a true sense of belonging through the understanding of those connections, which are created by experiences and can only come within.

Belonging is defined as the feeling of security and support when there is a sense of understanding, inclusion and identity to a member trying to fit into a certain group and place. It is a perception of acceptance.

To live deliberately is to study one’s self, and live with purpose and intention. Living deliberately means living consciously, we should attempt to learn everything possible from our environment and the people around us. Living deliberately is the opposite of living passively. One must realize they have the choice to do as they please at any given moment and must not live out of habit. Making active decisions is a key defining point of living deliberately. Into the Wild’s Chris McCandless lived deliberately by living on the edge of society, gaining new knowledge from nature and the people around him, and fulfilling his overall purpose with a simple life.

While reading through different non-fiction essays, one that left a great impact on my thoughts was “I’m a Banana and Proud of It” by Wayson Choy. Choy gives his story as a North American citizen with a Chinese background. Families pushed for their children to belong in North America, causing children to be labelled as “Bananas” for being “yellow on the outside and white on the inside” (Choy); a term to describe people in Choy’s generation who assimilated very well into the American culture. Many teenagers like him were attracted to the American culture and strayed from their Chinese culture. Although at the same time, they didn’t feel like they belonged as an American due to looking Chinese. People had difficulties placing themselves in one

An individual 's sense of belonging is determined not only by their own choices but also attitudes of others.

Belonging can be defined as the process of the association with the human race as socially active characters. It is part of the human condition which represents the need for security, safety and acceptance. An aspect of belonging such as isolation can be associated with the concept of belonging, as not belonging is a reciprocal process of belonging. Belonging allows for the authentication of characters through the formation of identity and connections.

An individual’s sense of belonging is determined not only by their own choices but also by the attitudes of others.

Life requires us to move to new stages, each with its own set of obstacles and challenges which, if successfully overcome, can enrich one’s experience. A significant role in this process is played by familial and social values and external interventions. Stephen Daldry’s film ‘Billy Elliot’ (2000) depicts the protagonist’s growth as he discovers a passion for ballet which drives him to break free from traditional masculine stereotypes in his mining hometown. This similar drive traces the quest of the Brennan Family in the Australian Documentary “Proof of life”, when their son Nigel, a war photojournalist, is captured and held hostage in Somalia for ransom. Both texts illustrate the importance of determination, persistence and tenacity in

Belonging is as a complex process by which people develop links with others, places and things. It is focused on acceptance and developing a connection and identity

Kitchen’s non-linear structure provides the reader with context on the foundation and depth of Mikage and Eriko’s relationship. Many flashbacks are added following Eriko’s death. Mikage’s time in the Tanabe residence is briefly described without many specifics, oddly enough it is pictured as her most prosperous. She then recounts her time in the house with a painful nostalgia. “But that was the summer of bliss. In that kitchen. I was not afraid of burns or scars.” ( 59) Memories exemplify Mikage’s acknowledgment of her happiness only after she loses it. The first part is only so brief because it skims over Mikage’s happiest moments, these memories are instead placed in the second part. The motive was to illustrate the abrupt reality of such bliss and how unsustainable it is. After the most intimate of the memories of Eriko, including

The book Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates, Coates writes a letter, addressing his son. He composed this message to his fifteen-year-old son, who that year had learned of the unjustified murders of numerous black individuals, including Eric Garner and Michael Brown; killed by police officers who received no punishment for their actions. Coates describes to his son many realities, that he has experienced firsthand, with which a black person must contend. He details his difficult childhood, living in fear – fear of the streets, fear of the police, fear of losing his body. In his letter, he illustrates how Howard University, the Mecca, and his experiences and interactions there shaped him. Another incident he discusses as one that

Imagine living in a world of perfect paradise, where no one disturbs you or takes away your freedom of thought. You’re living in pure harmony and feel as if your life is going to be peaceful forever. But what if one day someone comes along and changes your world, taking away your custom beliefs and changing your culture. What would you do? In the novel Things Fall Apart, by Chinua Achebe, the character Okonkwo, an indigenous member of the Ibo tribe, comes in conflict with the European settlers as they try to convert his tribe to Christianity. Even though many people choose to convert to this new system, Okonkwo, along with a few friends, respond adversely to this foreign settlement as they attempt to restore order in their native village. As the Europeans bring their religion, messengers, and government into the tribe, the outcome of Okonkwo 's response, causes him to bring his identity into query when he realizes that things that were formerly common, will always collapse in the end.

Belonging in some instances can not be beneficial for ones wellbeing. Negative consequences may arise from the way in which one develops belonging. Barriers to belonging can be imposed or voluntarily constructed, and allowing one to distort the barriers can affect the way one belongs to people, places, groups or the larger world.

Social rank and relative wealth play great roles in determining a person’s life in Umuofia society. Sometimes a man with sheer force of will cannot change his future through hard work. One of the main conflicts in Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe is the clash between Okonkwo’s determination to succeed, his free will, and fate – which seems to have less appealing things in mind. Okonkwo’s will plays a major factor in determining his future; he chooses to kill Ikemefuna with his own hands, he chooses to kill a government official, and in the end, he chooses to take his own life. However, the pre-destined conditions of his life, his father’s failures, and a series of unfortunate circumstances ultimately lead to Okonkwo’s downfall.