Benefits Of Helicopter Parenting

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

The article “Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids” by Mickey Goodman appears on the Huffington Post, an online news aggregator and blog. The author focuses on explaining that children who are allowed to make choices and decisions on their own should be a thing of the past. He also touches on the idea that children learning valuable life lessons in our generation are not getting things done. The article tells the reader that the parents of the children today should prepare their kids for failure in life, and show them how to actually succeed in life without handouts.

Moving out of the nest is a huge step in a student’s life. Eighteen years is a long time to be living with parents who have been a main support for living since birth. Most students believe that living on their own will be the best experience of their life, because of the increase in freedom and independence; however, most do not realize that living at home with parents has more benefits compared to living in an apartment or dorm. These benefits include less physical work, less responsibilities and saving more money.

Another point that Ms. Bird makes is that the colleges do not want to interfere with a student’s life (Bird 17). I agree with this analysis. They expect college students to take full responsibility for their lives in addition to acting like adults. Furthermore, by the time students get to college they should be acting with maturity. Like my daughter, some students have not come to terms with the idea of being an independent adult yet. Maturity is a major factor

Michelle Willins stated “Transferring all power to the students is not fair to them; they never asked for that responsibility.” Which I completely agree with her because the transitioning of high school to college is difficult. Many cannot adapt quickly to the change of environments and still need guidance from their guardians. For example in high school students are used to adults reminding them of what needs to be done and have adults always on their feet making sure they have the grades that they need to move on. In college that does not happen. The student is now responsible for everything on their own. Which is why they still need their guardians to be involved that way they are not as lost as they would be if they were on their

A college freshman walks into her dorm room and collapses onto the bottom bunk. One would assume that since it is her first week being on campus she is tired and overwhelmed from all of the freshman activities, but in reality it is her parents who are exhausting her. Her parents got a hotel room for move in day, and they haven’t left her alone since. Multiple research sources suggest that levels of parental involvement have been rising over the past decade, and according to Cline and Fay (1990) this high level of parental involvement is now commonly known as “helicopter parenting” (qtd. in Weinstein). These helicopter parents have definitely “grabbed the attention of scholars, media, and academic institutions” (Odenweller, Booth-Butterfield,

Currently, family around the world have different way to take care their own children. Some of parents are very care too much about their children and some maybe not even care. However, some of parents are very care to much about their children. they don’t think that can extremely harmful to their children and adolescents because of their to much overly involved in children's life and overprotective .In fact, Helicopter parenting family who is overly involved in their own children and Some Helicopter parenting family had Bubble-wrapping our children that overprotective parenting .they don’t think , when they do like this can be bored the children life,make their kid stress, feel alone and hopeless because of them too much overprotective. For example, on these articles I had read before BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN by Michael Ungar, “Helicopter parenting Deliver Benefit” By Don Aucoin and there two article are different.

The average age that a person has kids is around the age of twenty-nine (Bates). So not only does one have to balance bills, focus on a career, they could also have to take care of a life. To be fully prepared to enter the real world, an individual must basicly have there life planned out as soon as highschool. It is very hard to put these heavy choices on a kid as young as thirteen years of age. A decision a person makes on what they do affects them for the rest of their life, so why make a decision that is so heavily weighed, be even allowed to be chosen by someone so juvenile. Many teens are worried about gossip, relationships, sports, and social status. College is just something a highschool thinks of usually around junior year, or early senior year, even senior year where a high school student makes their decision about what colleges to apply to, or accept to get into; they are also distracted with SAT’s, ACT’s, Friday night lights, grades, and school dances like prom or cotillion. Being sidetracked by all these factors and many more a logical decision can not be made without taking even more time to not just double check a decision, but triple check, or four times or more. An individual can never be too sure about

She discusses the result of students not being taught how to take care of themselves. A report by a business-research group by the name of, The Conference Board, found that incoming graduates were lacking skills such as communication and decision making (Whelan 258). Employers want to hire strong, skilled leaders who can perform tasks in the correct manner. When a fresh college graduate is put into the job market, who knows if they will be able to make important company decisions, communicate effectively on the phone or in person. If an over involved parent has done these things for their son or daughter all their life, they are not going to know how to handle specific situations in which they will need a select set of skills.

If anxiety levels rise in these problems, psychiatric, medical, or social dysfunction may develop (Kerr, 2000). In impairment of one or more children problems, according to Kerr (2000), the spouses focus their anxieties on one or more of their children and the children focus their anxiety on them which can ultimately impair school performance, social relationships, and even health (Kerr, 2000). In emotional distance problems, according to Kerr (2000), people distances themselves from others to reduce the intensity of the relationship, but risk isolation from each other. The fourth concept of this theory is the family projection process. This concept describes the primary way parents transmit their emotional problems to a child (Kerr, 2000). This process can impair the functioning of one or more children and can increase their clinical symptoms. Some problems that children inherit from their parents include the need for attention and approval; difficulty dealing with expectations; the tendency to blame oneself or others; feeling responsible for the happiness of others or that others are responsible for one’s own happiness; and acting impulsively to relieve the anxiety of the moment rather than tolerating anxiety and acting thoughtfully (Kerr, 2000). Parents have different roles in this process: mothers are the primary caretakers and experience more emotional involvement with one or

When a student goes off to college, they begin to no longer rely on their parents as much as they once have. The majority of college students choose to live on campus. They start becoming more independent. They learn to make their own food, do their homework and clean up after themselves without being told, and they start providing for themselves for the most part. They discover they have to be responsible with their money because they now have tuition to pay; and books, tuition, and other miscellaneous items to buy. They also gain a better sense of responsibility by deciding their major and choosing their career

In the article “The Fine Art of Letting Go” author Barbara talks about how college student’s leave home to challenged their lives. The author wrote the article to inform us that going to college isn’t just saying I’m going to college, there are other challenges that a student has to go through, for example study, work, focus, read. The author wrote this article in 2006 to parents that deal with responsibilities and problems when their children go to college. Students who read the articles my get an idea of what they felt when they left the house. Through out the article the author talks about different type of problems that each parent member had to go through when their child left to college, some students didn’t study they just party,

Students need to learn and grow on their own and parents should be able to know what happens in their kids lives without controlling them. A healthy relationship between college students and parents will be one less stresser for

Next fall, it is estimated nearly 13.3 million students are expected to attend a four-year American university or college to pursue a degree. College is an exciting time for exploration and full of new experiences for students, but as for parents, it is a time of letting go and often results in feelings of loss. Having a child share a home for eighteen years, and then suddenly leave for school to seek their own independence and begin a new chapter of their life can cause parents to feel less purposeful. They may begin to feel as though their life is less meaningful because they are no longer carefully guiding their child through every decision they make; in a way, both the college student and their parent must discover their own independence.

How does a person grow up to be who they are? Most people say it is determined by the way their parents raise them. The parents that hover close and the parents that give their children space will have children with complete opposite characteristics. Parents that hover close are referred to as “Helicopter Parents,” and children that are given a lot of space are called “Free- Range Kids” (Rutherford). Although these styles of parenting are vastly different, both kinds of parents are trying to do what is best for their child. Of the two parenting types, helicopter parenting is looked at as a worse method for parenting. There are more negative aspects of it then there are positive. Not only do helicopter parents