Benefits of Friendship

Kingsolver expresses that each family has an opportunity to be happy and blossom, despite how many members of the family they have or who they grow up with. “The sooner we let go of the fairy tale of families functioning perfectly in isolation, the better we embrace the relief of the community,” (Kingsolver

In today’s society, family is often attempted to be organized within a social structure. Within this structure family typically is consisted of mom, dad, daughter, and son. However, many families do not fit into this configuration. These families may include same sex couples, separated or divorced families, extended families, or even blended families. Even though these families may be happy and healthy, to many they are not considered real families. Going along with the topic of imperfect families, both Barbara Kingsolver and Richard Rodriguez try to break down the traditional family structure through their writing. While Kingsolver’s “Stone Soup” and Rodriguez’s “Family Values” explore the ideas of different family structures and traditional American values, “Stone Soup” breaks down what an actual family is like while “Family Values” expresses the value of family in different cultures.

How does one define family? Throughout our readings, we find ourselves learning the ideas of theorist, concepts, and definitions to help us define and describe what family is. The family could possibly be what or who we say they are, or in simpler Bozett’s term, who the patient says it is! (Plumer, 2010). A family could consist possibly of values, roles, communication, environment, and relationships. Families may transition through all of these principles that either unites them or tears them apart. For instance, the movie Mrs. Doubtfire portrays these perceptions of what family is when family processes are shifted within a household. We will now discuss in more detail of the family assessment found throughout the movie starring the Hillards.

Most families are complicated but supportive. For example, a family could argue a lot, but still love one another. In Alice Walker’s “Everyday Use” mama still supports her daughters even though, they’re not around much. Their issues are not unique because my family has its issues, too. The family in “Everyday Use” and my family both have similarities and differences regarding siblings, bonds, and mothers.

Steven Ozment believed that so many people are preoccupied with family similarities that they fail to notice the stunning differences. Ozment recognized that focusing on one family inhibits generalizations, and therefore looks at how different scholars and historians viewed the family system. Philippe Aries was known a study that stated that children were the victims of parents and society and looked at the treatment of children to develop the “modern family”. Additionally, Aries believed that a family so emotionally detached couldn’t overcome this detachment without changing. It is necessary to change your way of life in order to have a strong relationship.

Healthy family relationships act as pillars for interactions with people outside the household. Families have a way of instilling people’s attitude, characters and the general perception towards life. Such are characters that are developed in

The second chapter, of the book “Family Interaction”, focuses on the theme of family strategies and boundaries. While reading, I noticed that my family has similarities and dissimilarities with other family members. Several topics that interested me were open and closed boundaries, and maintenance resources. My family is enmeshed and has internal boundaries, but other members of my family are on a continuum. For example, my family is very accepting and open to letting friends and spouses come over our house for special occasions the holidays. However, as a family we can be very different as a sub-unit. For example, with my mother I was often allowed to stay the night over a friend’s house, and later when I got older my boyfriends were allowed

Society is composed of many elements based on values, traditions, cultures, government’s policies etc.; and family is one of the main basic ingredients, forming the society. Therefore, as the society changes its element, family is also forced to change the flow of life. Yet, during the past 50 years, our society has undergone big social transformations which are seen as “dramatic and unparallel changes” or a “veritable revolution”. Thus, the two basic forms of family, the extended family and the

My own personal experience plays a part here as I don’t believe my family was ever “fully actualized.” Independence and autonomy was stressed, however, warmth and connectedness between members was not. Feelings were definitely suppressed in my household growing up, and even today sharing openly feels awkward. Whitaker, as well as Satir, has inspired my theoretical framework because I see the importance of the affective or emotional layer of family interactions.

My family has always been very close. We spend a great deal of time together and express our deep feelings and emotions with one another. If one of us has an issue, every member of the family is aware of it and shares the burden. When a person in the family does not share significant information about one’s life with the rest of the members, there is hurt feelings. Also, if a member cannot attend a family event, the family feels disappointed and misses the absent member. It is evident that connectedness is held as extremely valuable.

Friendship is one of life 's greatest treasures. Friends that are loyal are always there to make you laugh when you are down, they are not afraid to help you avoid mistakes and they look out for your best interest. This kind of friend can be hard to find, but they offer a friendship that will last a lifetime. Other friends may not be quite as loving. The pain caused by a friendship marred by betrayal is not easy to overcome. In fact, many poems find their inspiration from the joy brought about by a loving friendship or the pain caused by a failed friendship. (Oorvi, Naina, Diana)

Imagine this: you are feeling down because you have an issue with your family and you need someone to talk to but there is nobody. The problem will get worse and worse, generating more sadness and self-hate. This is the scenario of a person who does not have a true friend to talk with. Friendship has a big impact on the well-being of a teenager. In this essay, I will discuss the positives and negatives of a teenage friendship.

Families have their own ways of getting along and getting through tough and emotional times. Some talk it out and some even just give nothing but silence to each other. Some can't even forgive each other for years and years. All of that sounds so bad to go through. Even though there are those times of disagreement there are families who have a blast with each other. Theres so many different ways problems can be solved, but I love how unique my family gets through things. Now your views of a family being happy and my views are gunna be different. You may even say my views sound like an unhappy family. Even if you don't agree with my family ways doesn't mean it doesn't work. In this essay I'm going to try and show you my views both happy and unhappy families in my experience.

Samuel Clemens and Mary Mason Fairbanks had a friendship, but different. Sam describes Mary in his letters as young and a mother figure. She shows strong criticism towards his bad habits and tells him things he should know. A mother instinct is right most of time in wanting the best for her children. Mary was a woman who speaks her mind especially towards Samuel she feels she can tell him anything since there friends. Having a friendship with someone is based on communication, honesty, being there when needed. Sam Clemens was thirty-one and Mary Mason Fairbanks was thirty-nine very close in age. The two met in June of 1867 loading the steam ship in Quaker City and made their way to Brooklyn. Sam and Mary both love to write and found out the two were writing for different newspapers in their hometown. When starting a conversation with someone you will find out information that could relate to each other. Such as what interests between the two, like or dislikes, and the background (Stahl, 2008).

Remember that old television show" Happy Days?” Well, when I was in the fifth grade I remember thinking, "My family is like ‘Happy Days’." We were happy and there was plenty of laughter and love to go around. Furthermore, like the television show, there were plenty of struggles and some kind of dilemma to solve before the night was over. No matter the problems the day may have brought, I always went to bed feeling happy, safe, and loved. Unlike the majority of kids in my fifth-grade class with broken homes, I just knew that my parents would be together forever. After reading Bradshaw on: The Family by John Bradshaw, I can see now that I may not have had a perfect family.