Bernard Roth's Effect Of Falling In Love

I believe, if I understand you correctly, for the last few centuries, through poets and novelists, we have been persuading the humans that the illusion of 'being in love' is the only proper ground for marriage? If the two fall out of love with each other, the marriage is no longer binding and thus can be thrown away to find another 'love'?

Love in terms of a relationship can be described as an experience between two people sharing mutual feelings, understandings and the enjoyment of being with one another. What love is varies from person to person; Psychologist Robert Sternberg came up with the triangular theory of love stating there are three main components for any love relationships. Another psychologist Elaine Hatfield suggests that there are two basic types of love for relationships. On the other hand, an anthropologist Helen Fisher explains that love is a primarily a human-mating motivational drive, rather than an emotion (Fisher, H. 2004). With these three theories of love, this essay looks at the different ways of how love can or cannot survive in a love relationship.

We live in a society that has increasingly stomped on love, depicting it as cruel, superficial and full of complications. Nowadays it is easy for people to claim that they are in love, even when their actions say otherwise, and it is just as easy to claim that they are not when they really are. Real love is difficult to find and keeping it alive is even harder, especially when one must overcome their own anxieties and uncertainties. This is the main theme present in Russell Banks’ short story “Sarah Cole: A Type of Love Story,” as well as in “The Fireman’s Wife,” written by Richard Bausch. These narratives, although similar in some aspects, are completely different types of love stories.

Stephanie Coontz is a sociologist who is interested in marriage and the change in its structure over the time-span as love became a main proponent of the relationship involved in marriages. In her article, “What 's Love Got to Do With It,” Coontz argues that the more love becomes a part of the equation the less stable the institution of marriage becomes. Marriage at one point was a social contract that bound two families together to increase their property and wealth as well as ally connections. Each party entered into the contract knowing their roles and if one partner failed to meet the expectations, they were still contractually obligated to one another and were not allowed to divorce. As love became part of the equation, each partner was less sure of their obligations and often chose to end their marriages if at all possible.

Marriage has been a heated controversy for the past few years because people often marry for the wrong reasons. Anyone who thinks of an ideal marriage would think of two people loving each other and sharing a personal bond or goals together. Marriage is regularly defined as the legally or formally recognized union of two lovers as partners in a personal relationship. This definition remarks there is an actual connection between two people in marriage, but do people actually consider this when committing to “love” and “support” their partners forever? As research and studies have shown, people ultimately get married for many reasons, except love. This philosophy can be easily applied to the short poem, “Marriage” by Gregory Corso. In this emotional poem, the author argues marriage is more effectively understood or known for culture and convenience rather than through the abstract considerations of love. Here, we can identify people generally decide to marry for the incorrect reasons, for instance the story of the author himself. Corso finds himself confused multiple times, wondering if he should marry to not be lonely, for tradition and for his physical and mental health. He disregards love, a relationship or a connection with his future wife. General ways of convenience like loneliness, health and economic status between cultural stereotypes and religion are usually the true reasons of why people chose to have the commitment of marriage with another person.

The stark divide between love and marriage shown right the way through cannot be comprehended fully by the twenty-first century reader: in today’s society marriage and love are mutually exclusive - you very rarely get one

Oral Final Brief Love allows us to accomplish extraordinary feats because when we are in love, we are pushed to be our best in order to avoid losing the object of our love. The Odyssey is often perceived as the conclusion of the epic journey Odysseus takes in order to reclaim what he has lost and restore his oikos. However, the question of why he needs to get home so desperately is often ignored. The answer to this question is that Odysseus is so desperate to get home because he wants to be with his family again; even after 20 years he still loves them so much that he can’t bear to lose them.

A man and a woman begin an extramarital affair, divorce their spouses, and marry each other. Will their love story have a happy ending? If one were a hopeless romantic, perhaps the answer to that question would be yes. However, by calling upon one’s own human experience, a different, much more accurate conclusion can be drawn. For example, discovering a connection with another person can be an exciting reprieve from a mundane life, but when the novelty of the situation wears off, one can be left uncertain of whether or not the choices made were the right ones.

Author Stephanie Coontz writes about the ideas of love and marriage through out history in the article “The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love.” Early in the article Coontz quotes an early twentieth century author by the name of George Bernard Shaw, who states, “marriage is an institution that brings together two people under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions. They are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part.” ( qtd. in Shaw 378) Coontz explains that the ideas of marriage today are, although heart felt, unrealistic and daunting. She reveals

Marriage is considered an “out dated” tradition that has no place in the modern world. So why do people feel like marriage is the ultimate goal to achieve? Matrimony is an institution very few people can be good at. Surprisingly, almost half of all marriages end up in a divorce. Marriage is a union of two individuals in a personal relationship. A plethora of qualities is needed to fulfill a high level of happiness in a caring and intimate marriage. The paradigm for marital structures has drastically changed in modern America; communication is a vital part to find a clear and collective solution to save a marriage in modern times.

Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix (1988) is broken into three parts: Part I- The Unconscious Marriage, Part II -The Conscious Marriage, and Part III - The Exercises. The first and second part provides the reader with an understanding of brain's’ involvement in the mate selection process. Hendrix writes about concepts related to love and relationship dynamics. Reader may have always wondered about their partner selection process or why they were so in love at one point in their relationship and are repulsed by their partner later on. Hendrix aims to provide the reader with a framework that aide in understanding many of the questions that people often ponder about romantic relationships.

Prince Charming, Romeo Montague, and Edward Cullen—all create a hopeful image in a young girl’s mind of finding her own fairytale prince and have a happy ending. However, can a person really spend the rest of his or her life with the same person? Sometimes, the qualities that seem appealing at first can turn traitors when the bond lasts long term. Marriage—the official name given to the life-long relationship two people choose to go into—provokes deep-thinking. Though people have confidence in their relationship, they are often proven wrong. A love-based marriage should not present an option when choosing a life partner. Define love. A feeling? A psychological problem? An illusion, perhaps? The cycle goes on: People get married, divorced,

There are times in life when love is taken for granted. People fall in love for many different reasons, some for money, some for convenience and others simply because their family approves of the marriage. Then there are those who fall in love because they truly are in love and have found the love of their life. Does that only happen once in a lifetime? Most believe so, but for some love can happen more than once. They say that, “People who have truly loved once are more likely to love again.” (Fieldstone) For Annie Reed and Sam Baldwin searching for true love becomes a journey that neither one are prepared for, but both blindly engage without realizing where they are headed. Annie proclaims, “What I really don’t want to do is end up

Thousands of years ago Plato wrote of a love perpetuated by the idea that two people were made for each other. Although evolved, this is the root of the common western idea of love as shown through literature, various forms media and the expectations of society. Undoubtedly the most common form of love westerns encounter is the ‘happy ever after’ romance where two lovers ride off into the sunset and live out the rest of their days happily. This permeates into our lives in ways like the notion of the American dream, our friends and family telling us “is it not time to settle down and find a partner”, even tax incentives! Throughout people’s entire lives they are led to believe this form of love is the status quo, that this is the right way to do it, however, this is not the way everyone experience love!

For many centuries, men have been pondering what the definition of love is. How does a certain individual captivate someone else's soul? Despite the fact that both love and lust involves intimacy, they are divergent. Romance can be gratifying while lust can be fleeting. A relationship solely based on lust will be short-lived. If people look deeper within, they will ultimately realize that love is paramount. Although lust itself is a by-product of a strong sexual desire rather than a deep affection, it is frequently misconceived as love in today’s modern society.