Brain Gives Birth to Reality

Throughout the poem the narrator constantly talks about how she doesn’t like certain things about her appearance. Such as in the second line when she says, “ ...my skin has betrayed me”, and when she complains about “...be(ing) the one wearing braces” later on in the poem. In every stanza the girl talks about how she doesn’t like something on her body or talks about something she needs to do to fit in (such as learning how to dance). Her not being confident in who she is creates the theme of self-loathing.

The fact is she hates that she loves him. The “Hate poem” is a poem seemly about the authors hate to this guy, the poem is nevertheless misleading at the be beginning, as you read on it seems like something happened between them,and she doesn’t want to love him but she does.

She allows herself to believe all she is told. She also allows herself to believe that being treated as she is is going to make her better, when in fact it is only making her worse. Her being sent up in a room, like a penitentiary will add loneliness to her illness. Her being told not to write or not to go and see family and friends, again, adds to her loneliness. She is separated from society. Therefore, she feels as though she is alone in society. She gives into the fact that the male-dominated society would rather her alone, than be with lots of women and cause chaos. She gives into everything the world wants instead of listening to her inner self. She ignores herself, causing her to act out in madness. When one does not listen to one's inner self, he or she is then turning away from his or her conscience. It's like the "devil and angel" episode that has been seen in numerous cartoons. If the person listens to the little devil, it will end up being the wrong decision. It the person listens to the little angel, it will be the right decision. The narrator listens to almost neither. She allows what is happening to happen and does nothing but sit back. This would cause anger inside anyone.

."It affects our psychoneuro-immunology.'' (Murphy) "In other words, medical research has established a link between emotions, the nervous system and endocrine systems and ultimately the immune system. "(The Boston Herald April 1, 2002 p033)

From the first scene to the last, she shows her obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. As defined by Rathus, this disorder is categorized by the person’s “inflexibility and fixation on rules,

When it comes to the topic of having a growth mindset, most of us will readily agree that students who are praised are motivated to learn. Where this agreement usually ends, however, is on the question of how they are praised. Whereas some are convinced that praising students for their intelligence will motivate them to learn, others maintain that encouraging them for their efforts has a better impact on their motivation.

Our parents raise us hoping for us to develop certain character traits, but there comes to a point when we start to become our own person based on the experiences we go through, any situation, good or bad, can influence our personality mentally and emotionally. Emotion is what makes us human, it's how we cope and how we manage our crazy lives’. When our feelings get damaged or even nourished, it will change how we react

In the story “Sucker,” by Carson McCullers, you see heavy use of the human condition that every negative action originates from a negative mood or emotion and every positive reaction comes from a positive mood or emotion. In the story the elder cousin Pete treated his younger cousin, Sucker AKA Richard, based on how he was treated by Maybelle. When Maybelle treated Pete poorly and ignored him, Pete did the same to Sucker. This caused the young boy Richard to develop emotional problems, which caused his relationship with his cousin to be broken and tainted, due to the cascade of negativity. “Sometimes this look in his eyes makes me almost believe that if Sucker could he would kill me.” (McCullers, 3).

Everything conforming anyone’s everyday lives can support this statement in one form or another. Humans whole existence is based and supported by some sort of a lie. Everyone is born with a memory of preconceived lies imprinted in the genes from previous generations. From the time one is a toddle, the mind is already programmed to believe in fairies, gods, goddess, imaginary figures, etc- and this is despite any differences among cultures and traditions. Are the Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, The Three Kings, Aphrodite, The Trojan Horse, etc, just to mention few, not good examples of that? Lies are upon what legends and myths are built and/or embellished through history. Where does fantasy end and reality begin?

What we think is reality will ultimately become our reality if we believe certain things about an individual; he/she begins acting in exactly that way.

It is obvious that she loves this person very much because of her passionate word choices. It is actually love that engulfs her completely, not hate. She is being ironic when using hate not love. The title itself is ironic. “My sign in the background as you explain relational databases hates you. My hesitation when you invite me for a drive: hate. My pleasant “good morning”: hate. You know when I am sleepy I nuzzle my head under your arm? Hate.” (Kennedy and Gioia) The tone of these words are very gentle not hostile or angry. You do not sigh at people you hate. You do not sigh when you are angry. Most of all, you do not cuddle with people you hate. If you notice she never refused the offer to go for the drive, more like she looked forward to going. This is not a tone of hate, but of love and companionship. When hating someone there is no hesitation, thoughts are stern and decided. Then to add to the tone she goes with raw

Addictions are strongholds and bondages that are more often than not difficult to overcome. The addiction holds a person’s well-being captive which result in unusual behavioral patterns. According to Gabor Maté and Arold Langeveld “addiction means be to a slave” relatively speaking when a person is addicted in reality they are a slave to the stimuli. Furthermore the outcome of addiction will result in behavioral patterns that will satisfy the addiction.

If you’re not paying attention, the mind can be a tricky labyrinth. The less you know about it, the more inexplicable and frightening it becomes. For example, why do seemingly benign elephants wreak havoc upon villages? In “An Elephant Crackup,” Charles Siebert explores the aberrant nature of these elephants and correlates them to their traumatizing upbringing, deprived of community and kinship. The biochemistry of the human mind, analyzed in “Love2.0” by Barbara Frederickson, serves as a worthy addendum to Siebert’s conjecture. “Love2.0” explains that the brain, hormones, and nerves work in unison to build emotional fortitude, stimulate oneself, and express positivity resonance. Siebert’s ideas of elephant culture and trans-species psyche can put Frederickson’s theory of emotions into practice. The absence of certain hormones within elephants, provided their fragmented community, can explain their volatile outbreaks. Alternatively, the reinstitution of human parental roles into elephant culture can help reconstruct their broken emotional states of elephants and rebuild their resilience; this healing process can also extend to humans.

In the “Hitchhiking Game” by Milan Kundera, the young woman in the story pretends to be a hitchhiker on the side of the road. After a little while they stop for gas and the girl wanders down the road a ways waiting for the young man to finish pumping the gas. She begins to act like a hitchhiker when the man continues down the road and he picks her up. Once the girl gets in the car they begin to play a game where they pretend they are complete strangers and the girl is a hitchhiker. As the game goes on the superficial love we think we see begins to play out.

The false love is what drove this so innocent and sweet girl to such insanity. She wasn't able to escape the relationship she hated just so much.