Broken Family After The Second Divorce

In the fall of 2012, my mother almost succumbed to her illness. I had just begun my freshman year of high school midst angry conversations between my parents and the threat of separation. It would seem as if they bickered about the most irrelevant things, almost as if they had no other reason to fight other than the fight itself. Those moments were excruciatingly lonely, my father worked until the dead of night and my mother would come home exhausted from treatment. I now know that there was no one who felt more unvalued than my mother. I wish I had the ability to iron away this blunder that destiny had fabricated, however foolish this desire is.

The divorce rate in the United States is higher than fifty percent today. The divorce rate continues to increase in America due to many reasons, one of them being that society today is a disposable society. Back in the day, when someone had a broken shoe he or she would fix it, and if there was a problem with a couple’s marriage, the two would work through it. But today, it is easier to ignore the problem, throw away what we do not like anymore and move on to the next, which is not the right way to live. In Lorrie Moore’s “A Kid’s Guide to Divorce”, Moore writes about a child and his or her mother. The two are sitting in their living room watching TV as they

In a “The Kid’s Guide to Divorce” by Lorrie Moore, a young child is learning to cope and deal with her parent’s divorce in her own way which includes feeling the need to cater to each individual parent by selecting word choice that won’t make them feel uncomfortable. She even goes to the lengths of comparing them to scary characters on late night television which suggest that she is feeling more emotions. The story put an emphasize on the child’s perspective of what is happening and shows the true emotions of pain and temporary happiness that she is feeling internally and how she is dealing with them. It is beneficial to apply the psychological perspective to this moment of conflict within the child because divorce has a tendency to be a

Through the use of appeals Kingsolver is able to connect to her audience and support her claim that getting a divorce does not make a family broken. Kingsolver uses logos to portray to the logical side of her readers. Towards the end of her excerpt she states that, “The sooner we can let go of the fairytale of families functioning perfectly in isolation, the better we might embrace the relief of a community” (Kingsolver pg. 546). This logical appeal allows for the reader to understand that if they stopped believing in the unrealistic expectations of marriage then families going through divorce wouldn’t be seen as messy and broken to society. Kingsolver uses pathos to appeal to the emotional side of her readers. Kingsolver describes a nonfunctioning marriage as, “waking up despised each morning, listening to the pulse of your own loneliness before the radio begins to blare its raucous gospel that you're nothing if you aren't loved” (Kingsolver 541). Readers will feel sympathy and pity for the author and hopefully understand that just like any other tragedy, people going through divorce need time to grieve. After grieving, people going through divorce become both emotionally and psychically themselves again, just like Kingsolver did, further supporting her claim that families of divorce can get through life happy.

Divorce is typically a very painful and emotional experience for all parties involved. Two divorces have occurred in my life, only one of which was recent enough for me to remember. Steven Mintz, the author of “American Childhood As a Social and Cultural Construct,” mentions, “Children today grow up under different circumstances than their immediate predecessors. They are more likely to experience their parents’ divorce” (2009:53). My mother and father divorced when I was two years old. Due to my age at the time of the divorce, I do not know anything about the divorce from experience. I only know what I have been told about the divorce because I was too young to remember it happening. Over time, my mother became unhappy with my father’s “workaholic” attitude. He averaged

The scholarly article “The Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Review,” by Judith S. Wallerstein, explores various studies conducted by psychologists over a twenty year span, about the long term social and psychosocial difficulties experienced by children of divorce. The majority of the research for this particular topic discusses how the problems for these children began long before the actual separation of the parents, a theory that had not been previously researched in full until these studies. After reading the article, it is evident, that often the divorce itself is the last resort of the quarrelling parents. By waiting several years before finally breaking off the failed marriage the parents are unintentionally

In the United States, an all-too-frequent occurrence unfortunately is divorce. I feel that this is a sad thing. Billy Collins tackles this delicate issue masterfully in his poem “Divorce,” an eighteen-word, four-line poem that catches the tone of many splits while using simple things like utensils and tables to make examples of a couple’s situation, using metaphors, imagery, nostalgia, and irony.

Throughout time, practices that were once never used, become more common. In the 1600s divorce was a forbidden practice or a last resort. Since then, laws have changed, and so hasn’t the stigma related with divorce. The guilt and fault that divorce once carried has vanished. According to the book Should I Keep Trying to Work it out, “In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first marriages will end in divorce or permanent separation. The risk of divorce is even higher for second marriages, about 60%.” (Hawkins 42). As it became more common for couples in America to separate, divorce gradually became a normal part of so many lives. Why are so many couples separating now? Through research on EBSCO, and other findings, I will attempt to explain this question that so many people ask in today’s world. The divorce rate in America is drastically increasing over time due to new laws, certain generations, and relationship issues.

There is a great epidemic in the world today it’s called divorce. Divorce has affected so many families but most of all the children. “What may offer humanizing freedom for parents may be dehumanizing void for children.”( Root, A. 2010) Do you know why divorce is dehumanizing? “When dehumanization is in play there is little, if any consideration of the impact their betrayal will have on their mate.”(Reynolds,n.d.) According to Andrew Root divorce has deep and long lasting effects on children because it undermines a child’s ontological security. The divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. Over fifty percent of marriages end up in divorce.(Corcoran,K.O. 1994). Psychological and Emotional aspects of divorce.) What I’m going

As I jotted down the answer to my geometry homework, I felt the vibrations of the floor trembling beneath my feet from the deafening screams of my parents. I continued my work, as I go uninterrupted by the daily routine argument. One day, I didn’t hear the screaming anymore, which was one of the biggest abnormalities in this household. I slunk halfway down the stairs and stretched my neck over the banister to catch a glimpse of what had happened without getting caught. The next thing I knew my older brother was standing by my side, his curiosity piqued. My mom broke the silence by peering her head around the corner of the living room, her eyes locked onto mine. As my brother and my cover were blown, we walked gingerly to the couch and sat down. I watched my mom’s stone cold face quiver out the words, “We...are....divorcing”. My face froze as if I was in a cartoon show. I tried to

The best way to teach others how divorce, in certain relationships, frees the families from bondage is by using personal experience because individuals who have experienced divorce find it easier to explain the facts of divorce. From childhood, many parents teach their children that divorce is wrong and that there becomes a way to fix the circumstances. At a young age, Kingsolver inherited a definition of divorce from her family and friends. Kingsolver held these beliefs about divorce: “That it 's a lazy way out of marital problems. That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity.”(Kingsolver). Society teaches the principle of family integrity, and that when the spouse of a divorce leaves they are only thinking for themselves. Although, principles do change and the perception of divorce can change too. Kingsolver, from experience, claims, “I had no idea how thoroughly these assumptions overlaid my culture until I went through divorce myself.”(Kingsolver). Divorce is commonly misunderstood, and frowned upon, but the many who face such trials are left with the understanding of what divorce really extracts from families, and the

Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.

Individuals are bound to misapprehend others; in the same way, perception is born within us. Reforming laws concerning the divorce burden will cause confusion amongst family members, which might lead to false decision-making and eventually. [In the Article, “Getting A Divorce: Should It Be More Difficult To Obtain A Divorce?”] Huffington Post (February, 2013), Beverly Willet argued that methods such as the “me-centered approach to Divorce” achieves no positive progress into saving people from falling into the pit of doom. Willet also mentioned that Spouses try to get a divorce as hard as they tried when it came to marriage, noting that children are the sole bearers of whatever outcome that occurs when a divorce act is served. Countless options are efficient more than making it harder to get a divorce; instead, marriage should be harder to prevent any future faults from becoming. [Another article, “Should a Divorce Be Harder To Obtain?”] Divorce Support, Cathy Meyer remarks that “on the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale – showing whether or not stress contributes into illness – divorce is number two, right after death.” Even though it is labeled as a nerve-wracking event in life, people think that it should be so quick and easy to occur; even before having to think about it if such mechanism is possible. While altogether did not agree upon the statement on this subject, particular supporters favor such

In the last two decades divorce has increased substantially leaving couples single and families broken. Divorce is the reality for many families as there is an increase in divorce rates, cohabitation rates, and the number of children raised in step and single marital families. Divorce cannot be overlooked as it negatively affects and impacts youngsters for the rest of their lives. Although it is the decision between two parents’s children are hurt the most in the process. The concept of divorce is extremely difficult for children to understand as there are many unanswered questions and uncertainties. “Will my mom or dad remarry and who will I live with?” are concerns children express while going through divorce. Many

Divorce is a plague that is destroying numerous families across the United States of America. Sadly, when husbands and wives divorce, the children are often caught directly in the middle. Throughout the years divorce has been becoming more and more common. In the 1920's it was a rare find to know a person whom had been divorced, today it is a rarity not to know of one who has been, or will be divorced. Divorce has numerous effects on the structures of families, and many devastating effects on the children that must experience it, although sometimes necessary, divorce radically changes the lives of adolescents and adults alike.