Brown And Levinson's Model Of Politeness

I have been raised in the culture of Southern hospitality. In the South, manners are taught and expected. I find that I assume that others will mind their manners and I am offended if they choose not to do so. It makes sense that my ethical lens vice is becoming judgmental and legalistic. The female nature is to be the caregiver and nurturer of the family. I fall into this behavior and try to meet the needs of others before I take care of myself. My crisis, according to the ethical lens inventory, is becoming exhausted.

Politeness is able to show a person’s feelings towards others and awareness of a social custom. There are many purposes of politeness including: creating a public self image, creating solidarity, threatening people to send a negative message, not threatening people or upsetting them, indicating social relationship, showing awareness of social context, and power dynamics. The value of polite speech in a culture has the purpose of creating solidarity. Polite speech in a specific culture is very important and should be practiced as much as possible.

Good manners can and will make you more successful in life. Many people don’t consider others and only care about themselves. This can not only be harmful to your well-being, but being rude can affect more people than just you. As Lauren Tarshis wrote in “Is Anything Wrong With this Picture,” “Manners serve to make the world a happier and more pleasant place to live.” The reason that manners exist is to keep us civil. Without them, everyone would be extremely rude and not much would be achieved. Classes would constantly be interrupted, people’s feelings would be hurt, and no one would have any respect for others. Thus, we all must try to use good manners and be

It shows respect to other people and a lack of manners is often interpreted as a lack of respect. Manners will influence on children’s behaviour therefore practitioners will need to be good role models.

Conversation is a ritual every person must encounter throughout their lives in order to function properly with one another in today’s society. However, every individual has a “different idea about what’s appropriate” when approaching someone in any sort of conversation; that is why we are referred to as individuals (Tannen 327). There are thousands of diverse languages to speak to one another with, in fact that means there are thousands of different ways to offend each other with our words. Within those languages there are several contrasting gestures that can offend any single person, such as the amount of times individuals apologize in one meeting, giving criticism too harshly, or thanking someone so often it does not seem genuine. In the article “What Do You Mean,” Deborah Tannen touches upon apologies, criticism, and thank yous in further detail to explain where individuals go wrong within conversation and how they can fix their actions. Individuals find it satisfying to please others by being polite because it is the ‘right’ thing to do, however like myself others need to stand up for themselves and get directly to the point now in order to avoid conflict later in life.

Judge Paul Heath Till’s essay “Morals, Manners, Customs, and Public Perception” has a very unique structure that helps the effectiveness of the authors argument. He starts off by giving reasons why people are lacking manners in everyday life. He also gives definitions of the words manner, manners, moral, and customs and then goes further to discuss the true meaning of these words. He also relates his life experiences and his personal beliefs to the topic at hand.

Washington, George. Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation. Miami, FL: BN Pub., 2007.

The first idea of proper ways to act were believed to be inherited from Greece and Rome. The original idea of etiquette derives from when people started to live together in large groups and little things made people realize that getting along was better and easier than fighting and arguing constantly. The word “etiquette” originates from King Louis XIV. He would have a letter posted on a door to inform guests of what they were to wear, how they

ln our western culture today, society is not as strict about manners or proper etiquette. This is

Polite speech doesn't have value in a society that doesn’t uphold it. Being polite goes beyond just saying excuse me or thank you. Culture is so diverse that polite speech is understood in different ways. I understand that polite speech is considered respect. However, while giving respect one should also be respected. I believe we live in a society that has distorted polite speech.

Manners are knows as the appropriate ways of behaving, speaking, and dressing in a culture. Manners are something that could ruin a business meeting if they are not practiced in the right way according to the foreign country’s guidelines. Customs are habits or ways of behaving in specific circumstances are passed down generations (Wild). Examples from the book are: sharing foods gifts during the holy month of Ramadan, as is the Japanese tradition of throwing special parties for youth women and men who turn age 20.

According to The Positivity Solution, an organization dedicated to spread positivity, dignity, and kindness, “Rudeness is often a by-product of a lack of respect. Not to sound like Captain Obvious here, but most people don’t choose to be rude and disrespectful to people who they respect, do they?”. What they are trying to convey is that people often don’t give everyone the respect they deserve. When we do not give people respect, we lose respect for ourselves and become rude in other people’s eyes. As we learn to realize that everyone deserves respect, we can see that even the most small things can earn our attention. If you are consciously deciding to give people respect or not, that is a mistake. Why do people need your acceptance to be treated equally? They do not. And if you are making a choice based on shallow judgment, you are destroying the love and kindness that others have shown to you. To be critical like that is unacceptable and wrong universally.

Stella Tingy-Toomey’s face negotiation theory goes in depth on how “people of different cultures respond to conflict” (Griffin, 2009). How does one protect his/her public self-image or refrain from embarrassing the other

The research reviews expectancy violation theory and its significance in understanding interpersonal communication. The theory highlights the unexpected behavior of human being while interacting (Dainton, 2011). This theory is based on the reduction uncertainty where ambiguity on behaviors of others is reduced through interaction. Expectancy violations theory offers some prospect to compare the personality of traditional empiricism with humanism. The theory was developed from the Nonverbal expectancy violation model of Burgoon who describes the nature of response of human beings to the theory (Dainton, 2011). People anticipate and foresee a particular behavior while interacting and the violation to these expectations can be perceived positively or negatively. This is normally characterized by the relationship between the people who describe the interpersonal space to illustrate how human beings respond to the violation. Thus, it is true that human beings expect and estimate a certain behavior during the interaction. Therefore the vibration of these expectations can be apparent with certainty or depressingly as characterized by the relationship which exists among human being.

    Doesn't anyone show common courtesy anymore? When I was younger, I never knew what my parents meant when I heard them ask that question. I thought people were polite. I never had any problems with rude people. Now that I am older, and actually experience people outside of school, I understand what my parents meant.