Bullies Vs Bystanders

Bystander is worse. Well a bully is bad but when you’re not helping somebody that is getting bullied you’re a lot worse. When somebody gets bullied if you try to help them you are a good person. But if you don’t tell the bully to stop or tell a teacher you are the one who is acting like a bully. When you see somebody getting bullied you should go tell a teacher or a responsible adult or even trying to stop the bully yourself. But that is you last option.

Man! Did you know that according to Source 2, “an estimated 1 in 5 students in the U.S. is either bullied or a bully?” I find these statistics mortifying. There are two types of people involved in bullying- a bully and a bystander. A bystander is someone who doesn’t help the person being bullied. A bully is someone who intentionally hurts someone. I believe that kids might be bullied for many reasons. According to Source 2, a student states that he was bullied about his hair and about what he wore. Kids might be a ruthless bully because of issues at home and anger. I believe that severe bullying is worse than a bystander because they suffer more severe punishment, develop a horrible reputation, and they are the hugest cause of teen suicide. Clearly bullies are the horrific guys here.

This is a review of the article,The Bully, The Bullied and The Bystander and is based on the work of Barbara Coloroso. This article informs the reader of the issue of bullying and informs the reader about bullying. It tells about the bully and gives information on how to identify a bullies, and the different types. This article also goes into detail about the bullied and helps us to understand them and what they are going through. Finally the article looks at the bystanders of bullying and how it effects them and what part they play in bullying. This article also gives ideas on how to prevent bullying and what step can be taken to stop bullying.

In all cases which I have witnessed, one who bullies others has typically been bullied or continues to be bullied by someone (or something) in control of them. Whether it be another student, a family member, or fate, traumatic events in the life of a young person can spawn the thoughts and actions of bullying in their minds without intending to cause anyone else harm. In Confronting School Bullying: Kids, Culture, and the Making of a Social Problem, Cohen and Brooks (2014) describe the different types of bullies as “Elites… Predators… The Wounded… [and] Bully-Victim[s]” (p. 41-43). The “Elites” were described as “highly popular students” who “generally perceive themselves to be powerful” such as jocks or popular students (Cohen & Brooks, 2014, p. 41). Cohen and Brooks (2014) describe the “Predators” as “Bullies… whose only motivation seemed to be to hurt others” (p. 41). Both Elites and Predators, however, seem to only bully others for the fun of it without any motivation. Along with “The Wounded,” described by Cohen and Brooks (2014) as “bullies at school [who] are often victims at home” (p. 42), Elites and Predators can also fall into the category of bully-victims. Bully-victims are people who fall into both categories of being a bully and a victim, sometimes without realizing it (Cohen & Brooks, 2014, p. 43). Bully-victims have reported being bullied,

Many bullies don’t know the wrongness of their doings. They don’t know the affects that this can have on the students they bully. Sometimes bullying can lead deathly matters, or sometimes your highly classified serial killers, depending on how much self-esteem a person hat at that point in time.

Before discussing the effects of bullying, it’s important to know the definition of bullying. It has numerous definitions, all of which are related to aggression and control of power by intimidation. Bullying is generally defined as an intentional act of harm, either physical or emotional, upon those that are considered inferior or weaker. Not only that, but it can also be harmful to children and adolescents who are constantly moving through their identity development (Kira, Lewandowski, Ashby, Somers, Chiodo, & Odenat, 2014). It is also said that involvement in bullying, as the bully or victim, has negative effects on the physical and psychological health of children and on their future psychosocial adjustment as adults (Vaillancourt, Hymel, & McDougall, 2013).

The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the

"What hurts the victim the most is not the cruelty of the oppressor, but the silence of the bystander," says famous author, Elie Wiesel. According to "verywell.com," people have been bullied for their religion, skin color, and beliefs. This can cause kids to have poor self-esteem and become a bully themselves. Some kids, called bystanders, decide to sit and watch. But what's worse, bullies or bystanders? Bystanders are worse than bullies because they choose not to do anything, encourage the bully, can suffer from guilt, and face consequences for not helping.

People may not realize it, but bystanders play a huge role in bullying. By not stepping in or telling someone about it, they are making the problem worse. A bystander intervening could stop someone from getting hurt, and even prevent bullying from happening in the future. If a bystander does not say or do anything about it, they are contributing to the issue. There are more bystanders than there are bullies, so it is their choice to help or hurt the situation.

Children who are bullied may have short term effects on them. They often do not like to go to school, have problems making friends, and in extreme cases develop depression can lead to suicide. Bullying can have lasting effects on a victim. Fortunately, most who are bullied receive support from others tend not to have any lasting effect.

People often forget about the outcome on the bully. For instance, being a bully increases the odds of run-ins with the law. By their mid-thirties 60% of people who bullied in grades 6-9 have at least one criminal conviction. “I would rather be a little nobody, then to be a evil somebody.” ― Abraham Lincoln Kids in bullying groups are also more likely to have poor relationship with their parents. Bullies are also more likely to carry weapons when they grow up. Bullies

Most of the incident in regards with bullying are either online or on campus. When it occurs in campus most of the students surrounding the occasion of when bullying occurs become the bystanders and prefer not to take action upon it to try to avoid being in it when since the beginning the teens were already part of the problem. The teens believe that being part of the problem is when their is a verbal accusation and believe that just watching the bullying occur will avoid the teen from being involved in the situation. In the survey the students were asked if one of their friends have been bullied and if they were a bystander. Surprisingly 628 students said that seeing bullying and stopping the problems was not a part of the teens experience in high school. In the other hand only 247 students said that they were bystanders. Usually when a teen becomes the bystanders it's to entertain the crowd of kids around causing the bully to feel more in power of the

The sad truth about bullying, is that although people express opinions of distaste for bullying, most people do not engage in helping behavior and intercede in the situation where this is occurring (Cowie, 2014). A study conducted by Atlas and Pepler (1998) showed how accurate this fact is. 60 scenarios of bullying involving elementary school children were videotaped. The results found that in only 10% of the scenarios a bystander engaged in prosocial behavior and helped the victim, which is a shockingly low percentage. Many other cases have revealed similar results regarding defenders in bullying situations (Evans & Smokowski, 2015).

“Kids who once took part in bullying are now working to stop it,” said Scholastics, “Tales of Bullying”. People who had bullied before are now forming groups to stop it. People bully because they think they are cool. Bullying is worse than a bystander. A bystander is just as worse as being a bully. The important question is have you ever took part in bullying, have been bullied, or been a bystander before?