Carolyn Hax's seems to be a very experienced adult that understands how it feels to have your Internet activity watched by your parents but also knows the risks that can happen if your parents don't. Just by this and what she writes in her advice column makes me agree with her on what she wrote. There are three things that I strongly agree on with her. First, is that you should check on your kids every once in a while, I think this is critical because it is your job as a parent to protect your child, also this is one way to let them know you are watching over them and to give them some freedom. Second, I also agree on when she says “Having a parent catch your inappropriate exchange is better than having a school administrator, future employer
In the article Let Kids Run Online written by Danah Boyd, Boyd questions whether parents monitoring their children's online social life is a good or a bad thing. Many parents can agree that monitoring their phones and computers is actually a good thing. It can keep children out from harm’s way, it would be easier for parents to find things out that their kids don’t feel comfortable to actually say out loud, and it could possibly bring them closer together by having them be so close.
Parents should not supervise their child's online activity. Parents should be able to trust their kids. Parents main objective with their kids is to protect them. What is to be protected from in terms of the internet? Viruses? That can be avoided. Information getting leaked? Don't put your information online. And being
While it is true that monitoring children is helpful, it does not necessarily mean that parents should invade children’s internet activity, ignoring their autonomy. Although most parents do not have malicious intent, it is invalid because it could cause harm, “And most parents already monitor their children, watching over their home environment, their school” (paragraph 4). Secure parents do not feel obligated to pry on their children because it creates a distrusting environment where the children are always on guard around their parents. Due to possible breaches of trust by parents, their parental dynamic could be corrupted by misguided love. Furthermore, Coben talks about parents not trusting their children and correlates it to negligence, “Trust is one thing, but surrendering parental responsibility to a machine that allows the entire world access to your home borders on negligence” (paragraph 6).
In the digital diet of American teens by Rawhide it states that 72% of parents are a worried that their child will reveal inappropriate information to strangers online this fact shows how the internet can be really dangerous. Teens and kids can be bullied or catfished online without the parents or guardian ever knowing. Students are catfished when someone on line impersonators and says that they are someone completely different from who they really are. The bad things that you can do on the internet and using media is endless. I think just limiting or having a parent monitor your media could help out a lot. Even if you do have a parent monitor you moves on the internet it might help out some but the only sure fire way to make sure that nothing like that will happen is just to not use it at
Educate your children - Be clear about the kind of personal information your children should not divulge over the Internet, including their names, addresses, and phone numbers. Teach your children what to do if a stranger approaches them online. Monitoring software will allow you to monitor, chats, emails, website visits, and internet searches so you can keep informed silently. Specifically, tell children to cut off communication with any person they don't know and to notify you
I believe that parents should watch over their kids in case something happens online and the kid doesn’t know how to handle it properly, or it’s a dangerous situation. Then the parents can block pages for them. It’s a good idea to watch over your children because you don’t know when they are dealing with pedophiles or watching things that they shouldn’t be.(Coben 1)
Parents shouldnt spy on their teens considering that they have personal information on their laptops or computers. If they wanted you to know what was on there laptops they would tell you. Another reason is “if your child is old enough to go on the internet there is old enough to know the dangers”. (Coben 1).
Today, technology is available for all sorts of our needs. Technology exists for parents to track their kids in all kinds of ways, but that does not mean that they should. While there is no way to fully prevent children from getting into trouble, respecting children and giving them some degree of privacy is also important. Communication is an important factor in these situations. This allows a stronger relationship with them based on mutual trust, instead of them seeing a parent simply as an evil dictator who they must work to avoid. Trusting and communicating with a child is more essential than losing their trust by invading their privacy by tracking or heavily monitoring them.
Is spying on your teen healthy? I think monitoring your teens internet use is a great idea. However, there is a chance that instead of being a responsible and caring parent, you become a nosy parent just invade your teen’s privacy. There is a thin line between both. To some extent it is a good idea to keep an eye on your child.
Continually communicating with your children can help to reduce their urge to do anything inappropriate online. A parent should talk to their children about the difference between what is inappropriate and what is okay. Parents should discuss with their children how to avoid getting pulled into inappropriate sites, and the possible tricks predators may use to learn more about them or ‘hook’ them when spending time online. It’s important to know that not everything online is bad, but there are certainly many things to be cautious about. So when letting children go online, parents can keep their kids from stumbling into trouble through careful monitoring and communication,
In today’s world, it is nearly impossible to find someone who doesn't know what the internet is, much less someone who has used it. Pew Research conducted a survey in 2012 stating that 95% of teens ages 12-17 use the internet everyday. This is just one of the many reasons that parents are questioning whether to take action on their teens internet usage. The rise in the world's need for technology and the internet has sparked the debate, should parents monitor their teens internet use to a certain degree or should parents completely control what their teens do online?
Parents argue that there is a lot of danger on the internet and that they should use spyware, however if the kids are old enough to be on the internet,” they should be also be aware
If something they do throws a red flag the parents have the right to snoop. The parents do not have to give their children privacy. If the child is exibiting behavior that the parent is not use to, they can ask their child or start snooping when they know something is going on. ¨ parents should be thoughtful about whether that is appropriate content for sharing on social media¨ ( Kids to Parents, pp.2 ). If the parents know what their child is posting online is wrong, they should have a chat with their teen about it. Just snooping and not saying anything is not how they should approach it. If the teen is posting inappropriate things online the parents should explain why it's wrong and why they should delete or remove the post. When the teenagers attitude or personality changes from what has been going on online, it's time to snoop. If their grades slip or any other signs pop up, parents should have the right to snoop. Parents want their children to focus on grades, not on their online, social media life. ¨ Our first job is to be their parents, not their friends¨ ( Bradley, 2017, pg.2 ) Parents do not have to worry about being their children's friends, that is not their
While many parents of young kids are advocates for protecting their children against unsafe material, some disagree. For example, they believe that anything should be available and accessible to everyone on the Internet, regardless of age. They argue that control over the Internet’s contents would constitute as unlawful censorship, and thus violate their rights under the First Amendment. They also believe that it is the responsibility of each parent to supervise their child’s Internet use. However, an unsuspecting child may hit an inappropriate hyperlink by accident while innocently “surfing” the Internet. This could lead to confusion, exposure to material too mature for their age, and awkward situations.
To begin, there is a fine line where parents can control and watch over their children on social media. Watching over a kid and controlling them will make them want to do the stuff that you aren’t letting them do, for example, if you watch over your kid's phone they will find a way to be able to bypass it or won’t use their phone. The article says, “There’s considerable evidence that intruding on kids’ privacy damages the parent-child relationship, says Petronio. ‘When parents snoop, they show mistrust,’ she says. ‘That overarching need for control really damages the relationship.’” (Parents Shouldn’t Spy on Their Kids). The reason that I chose this quote is that this shows just one of much important information why parents shouldn’t spy on their children.