Child Rearing Controversy

Authoritarian: Is basically a parent who is very demanding, and at the same time not responsive. So basically strict about rules and not a lot of communication with the child.

The authoritarian parenting style is a style in which the parent has the only say. This parenting style “is based on obedience and the expectation of a child obeying without an explanation required” (McMillian). Authoritarian parents are more likely to discipline their children. Children of authoritarian parents don’t often get

• Authoritarian parenting children may have less social competence due to the parent or parents telling the child what to do instead of allowing the child to make a choice. In some cases the demands are to forceful and resulted with the child or children to break down, rebel or run away.

Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the

Authoritarian parents have low involvement and high demand on their children. They are extremely harsh and require their children to submit to their commands and surveillance with little or no communication. Children with these type of parents are not given room to discuss with their parents. They are to comply to their parents with unquestionable respect, and great levels of achievement are anticipated at all times. The result of defying the commands is merciless punishment, which can include yelling and hitting.

According to the article, The Authoritative Parenting Style: Warmth, Rationality, and High-Standards, “The authoritative parenting approach is linked with the most successful child outcomes.” One of the major focuses is finding a middle ground between too much freedom, and being too strict. It reflects a balance between two values, freedom and responsibility. The responsibility allows for the child to mature and organize their lives by doing tasks such as studying, getting good grades, just make to make good decisions overall. The freedom allows them to have a mind of their own; to hopefully apply making good decisions in life. It also gives them a chance to experience how the real world is. Authoritarian parenting would disagree with this tactic. There’s a belief that if a child is granted freedom, the child is being set up for failure. They do not see the point of freedom when keeping them to high-standards and strict rules will ensure that failure isn’t an option. While I can understand the point being made, it’s a bad parenting tactic. When a child doesn’t experience any bad, how are they supposed to function in the real world? They need freedom to be able to deal with disappointment or failure when they come across it when

Parenting styles are very important because they can affect many things in your child’s life from their self esteem to their overall happiness with life. The three main parenting styles described in Exploring Lifespan Development include, Authoritarian, Authoritative, and Permissive (Berk) First, Authoritarian parenting style focuses on obedience of the child and will use punishment over discipline. For example, Authoritarian parents will spank their child when they break a rule rather than use time out and will not follow up with a discussion of why they were disciplined. On the other hand, Authoritative parenting style creates a positive relationship between the parent and child.

In contrast, Authoritarian Parenting has a high level of demandingness but low levels of responsiveness. The Authoritarian parent is assertive but also very intrusive and very rigid on maintaining the authority figure in the household and not worrying about being the child’s friend. The parent would have very high expectations of good behavior and well manners in the household and good grades in the classroom. Moreover, the parent a routine obedience with the rules, regardless whether the child understands why one

Psychologist Diana Baumrind described one of three different types of parenting styles as authoritarian. She describes authoritarian parents as wanting to shape, control and evaluate the behavior and attitude of the child (Baumrind, Ph.D., D.,). According to Baumrind, the authoritarian values obedience and forceful actions to control children. The authoritarian does not outwardly show love or support but rather takes pride in knowing their children will ultimately abide by them out of respect or out of fear. The authoritarian parent has often been described as a drill

Thesis: The authoritative parenting style is the most effective style for producing children that have desirable traits, such as good morals, obedience, compassion and responsibility.

Authoritarian parenting as defined “the establishment of rigid rules and expectations that are strictly enforced. Parents that follow this style expect and demand obedience from their children.” (Types of Parenting Styles). Authoritative parenting is defined as “a collaborative parenting style in which the parent encourages autonomy and independence, yet still places fair limitations or restrictions on the child’s behavior, in a consistent manner.” Kash notes that although her parents are very strict, they have acknowledged that as she gets older they must grant her more independence in making her own

Authoritarian is only one of three parenting styles that Baumrind details. The other two styles include authoritative and permissive. These two variations in parenting styles were seen in the way my relatives and friends’ parents approached parenting. I observed how the parents of my close friend handled parenting. They maintained control over aspects in my friend’s life like school and chores but allowed the freedom to make decisions in areas of social activities. The most striking difference between my parents and my friend’s is the use of reasoning and the expression of warmth. Her parents provided justification behind their commands and or punishments while maintaining a sense of love and affection. The bond and love that is evident between my friend and her parents is not as strong in the relationship between my parents and me. The style that her parents exhibit is known as authoritative because of their focus on some parental control, use of reasoning and warmth. While on the other hand, my cousins raised their children in a completely different manor using a permissive parenting style. While they provide obvious love and affection towards their children, they fail to exert control and regulations. They did not have any real sense of rules in their household. Their children tend to act and do whatever they wanted with little to no repercussions.

For the reasons given above, authoritarian parenting is a style I would highly not advice for parents to raise their children with; instead, having a wonderful relationship with the parent, it just draws a line between the parent and the kid making it hard for them to have a close bond. Children raised by authoritarian parents tend to conform easily, yet may also suffer from depression and anxiety, often have lower self-esteem, have difficulty in social situations due to a lack of social competence and Some children display more aggressive behavior outside the home (Cherry,

The second group is called permissive parenting. Permissive parents give up most control and rules to their children. In contrast of authoritative parents, they permit their children to do anything children like. These parents want to bring their children freedom. They want their children to develop in the free ways. They do not set any rules and routines in their children’s lives. While authoritative parents do not provide children with choices, permissive parents give children as many choices as possible, even when the children are not able to make good choices. These parents accept with all their children’s behavior, good or bad, and permit their children develop in the ways their children like. Permissive parents want to bring their children warmness and love, and they never scold or punish their children. However, like authoritative parenting, permissive parenting sometimes is not good for children. Children do things in the wrong ways and this can bring them danger; however, there is no advice from parents to put them in the right ways. These parenting style can bring children and people around them danger.

In Authoritarian Parenting style of parenting, children are required to follow the strict rules set by the parents. Failure to do so usually results in punishment. Authoritarian parents fail to make clear the reasoning behind these rules.