Chinese mothers
If you ask parents all over the world, what they wish for their children, most of them would answer that their children should have a happy life. Does it mean that parents dictate every single step for their kids to take? When a child get used to follow orders from his/her parents all the time and doesn’t have any kind of freedom in his/her spare time, wouldn’t this dictatorial upbringing and zero tolerance toward the child lead to weak points and errors in child’s life?
To get high marks at school and eventually having a good job does it equal to a happy life? What is most prioritized happiness or success in life?
On the 8th January 2011, an article was published in the Wall Street Journal to explain the superiority
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The Chinese parenting method intends to focus on a targeted direction for the kids without paying attention to the kid own interest and ability of doing things. Because as parent you will be the decision taker, which later on will create an adult who is indecisive and depended.
However this parenting method has some good sides too. Because you as decision taker make it easier for your child to follow the “ideal“ path. As it takes off a lot of the pressure from kids shoulder and it will spare them from being confused and making decisions themselves.
Finally you can say that the Chinese method is mixing the fact of being happy or being successful person. They define happiness in being successful at their profession. While the western assume happiness as success in life. In todays globalized lifestyle it is essential for everyone to be open-minded to achieve success and happiness. While, the Chinese method makes it difficult for individual to adopt new ways of thinking and way of doing stuff, because the kids have been obligated to follow the specific rules that their parents have created for them. As a parent it can be very difficult to balance what is the best for your child and what makes them happy. You should allow unstructured play as it helps children work together with others and thereby negotiate and solve conflict. Children also have to be taught to express their emotions so they can
In Susan Adams’s article “Tiger Moms Don’t Raise Superior Kids, Says New Study”, Adams explains the disorganized matter of tiger parenting. She defines it as a very aggressive form of parenting leading to depressed children with unsociable characteristics. In the article Adams identifies one of the pieces defending the effects of tiger parenting. Amy Chua a Yale law school professor wrote the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” Chua explains that children need to grow up disciplined and become an experienced student at an early age. Teaching them that the need for musical talent, high grades, and focusing on a very high earning career as an absolute necessity for kids being raised in an aggressive form of parenting.
Amy Chua stirs up a controversial topic of the differences between Chinese and Western parenting styles in the article “Adapted from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”. One may believe that the Chinese way is too harsh as others may believe Western parents are too lenient. Any parent can relate to one or both parenting styles that Chua is discussing. This article is reaching out to parents who are unaware of the Chinese and Western parenting styles. To give the readers a better understanding of how each parenting style works. This article was based on Chua’s personal experiences as a Chinese parent.
I can see the positive and negative in both methods. The fundamental problem with all parents is selfishness. When Western parents don't do enough to help their kids reach their potential, they are selfish, and probably too busy doing what we feel like doing. And when Chinese parents force kids to do what will bring the parents praise, they are selfish too. I think that the correct approach is a balance between Chinese and Western parenting, with the focus being on commitment to your children. If parent can find the balance between these two types then both sides will have succefull children. I really believe Western parental method and Chinese parental method can both be used. You can't be too soft and too hard. You have to balance it out.
It is true that the ways the parents raise their children will decide how well the children grow, especially the mothers who impact their children the most. There is no right or wrong in how a mother takes care of her children. All of them want the best for their children. The only difference is the level of intensity in how to raise a child. In Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior, Amy Chua, a professor at Yale Law School believes that the ways Chinese mothers raise their children are the most effective ways. Her main purpose of this article is to state the differences between Western mothers and Chinese mothers which
Neither one has been proven to be more successful than the other. Chinese mothers are much more harsh on their children than Western mothers. Chinese parents focus more on academics and Western parents focus more on extracurricular activities like sports. The author tells us information about both Western and Chinese parents. Most of her statements were valid, just a couple were unreliable. The way the Chinese mothers raise their children is not agreeable. The way Western mothers raise their children seems more
The stories "Why Chinese Mothers are Superior" by Amy Chua and "Two Kinds" by Amy Tan portray how children are raised in Chinese-American culture and what beliefs predominate in Chinese-American communities. In Chinese-American culture, mothers approach raising their children differently from many other American parents. While there are many similarities among these Chinese parents, variation can still be seen in the level of persistence and determination each individual parent pours into their parenting. These differences in persistence can be what make the difference in the results.
The age old question that pops into any new, old, or learning parent is “am I doing this right?” In different cultures, different ideals take light into society and pave the pathway into what they perceive as correct parenting techniques. Certain cultures have certain beliefs in what their kids should do, what they should say, and how they should view their parents. Often times, two different ideals from different cultures collide and accusations begin to be thrown of whom is the bad parent. One culture’s ideals could potentially brainwash a person into believing everything they do is right and everything less is essentially incompetent. In “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”, author Amy Chua demonstrates her parenting techniques that resemble the Chinese culture and contrasts it to the Western culture, further arguing the point of her perception of appropriate parenting characteristics.
According to the article, The Authoritative Parenting Style: Warmth, Rationality, and High-Standards, “The authoritative parenting approach is linked with the most successful child outcomes.” One of the major focuses is finding a middle ground between too much freedom, and being too strict. It reflects a balance between two values, freedom and responsibility. The responsibility allows for the child to mature and organize their lives by doing tasks such as studying, getting good grades, just make to make good decisions overall. The freedom allows them to have a mind of their own; to hopefully apply making good decisions in life. It also gives them a chance to experience how the real world is. Authoritarian parenting would disagree with this tactic. There’s a belief that if a child is granted freedom, the child is being set up for failure. They do not see the point of freedom when keeping them to high-standards and strict rules will ensure that failure isn’t an option. While I can understand the point being made, it’s a bad parenting tactic. When a child doesn’t experience any bad, how are they supposed to function in the real world? They need freedom to be able to deal with disappointment or failure when they come across it when
Chinese mothers being superior and any mother claiming that their way of parenting will always be biased. Every mother is going to think that their way of parenting is the best way. Especially parents that create a prodigy. It could be the parenting or the child was just born smart. Either way, that parent is going to claim they did something better than another parent, even though there is no way to prove it. There are too many factors that play into this topic to prove which parenting method is the most superior.
When it comes to raising children every family has a different parenting style and there are various factors the influence that process. A major factor is culture because it can shape a person’s beliefs and values. An example of two cultures that have many differences and similarities in raising children are Chinese and American families. Chinese families are said to have an authoritarian style of raising children which has stricter views and beliefs. On the contrary, American families raise their children with authoritative style of parenting which involves more trust and confidence. Both culture’s views on affection, punishment and academics have many differences and a few similarities.
Questions have been raised on whether Chinese parenting raises more flourishing children than Western parenting. Despite what people think, in Amy Chua's essay “The Roar of the Tiger Mom”, she portrays the differences between the beliefs of Chinese parenting and Western parenting. Chua introduces the views of a Chinese parent compared to the views of a Western parent. The methods used by Chinese mothers in raising their children are drastically different from Western mothers. Each defends their methods and believes the other group is doing their job poorly. In the end, both types of parents just want one thing-- successful children.
One day, Amy Chua decided to write an essay called, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” Amy Chua is a professor at Yale Law School. Chua is a Chinese woman with two daughters. In the essay, Chua compared the differences between Chinese and Western parenting styles. There are different ways of parenting being used everywhere; the four main parenting styles include, Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved. In the essay Chua made it clear that Western and Chinese parenting styles differ. I tend to agree, as well as disagree with the examples and statements Chua used to compare the way they differ. I believe Chua did an amazing job contrasting Chinese and Western parenting styles.
There has always been debate about the different parenting styles that exist and how they affect the development and outcome of a child. How a child is raised and treated as they are brought up has a lot to do with the kind of person they will be later in life. Therefore, it can have either a positive, negative, or even both positive and negative effects on a child as they are growing up. Certain factors of parenting play a big role such as how the parent use discipline, warmth and nurture, communication, and their expectations of maturity and control. In other words, parenting styles have a big impact on the child’s future. Likewise, how a child is taught and the learning style they learn best from has a lot to do with how they are able to take in information, which is similar to how different parenting styles affect their children development and as an adult later in life. The most well-known parenting styles that exist consist of authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved. There are pros and cons to each of them, but in the end it’s important to have mixture of good principles to ensure good parenting and positive child development. This is because it is believed that childhood is a critical period for development that will last throughout a lifetime by providing the child with the proper skills, resources, and developmental qualities that will carried on throughout adulthood and the rest of their lives. Therefore, the kind of parenting style is one of the
Because America is such a diverse country, there are many differences between cultures of various immigrant groups. Members of each culture, have their own beliefs and values regarding what they think is right. The cultural diversity allows for each person to have a different view of things. Amy Chua’s essay “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” she describes her way of parenting her two daughters following Chinese values about education. She explains how Western parents are much more lenient than Chinese parents with their children and education. Chua gives examples of how she raised her daughter Lulu and Sophia which lead them to achieve success. She makes comparisons between Western and Chinese parenting styles throughout the essay and concludes that both types of parents want the best for their children, but just approach parenting it in different ways. In the article, “Chinese vs Western Mothers: Q&A with Amy Chua,” Amy Chua is interviewed by Belinda Luscombe where she clarifies how her Chinese method of parenting did not hurt her children the way many readers thought it did. Chua explains that her relationship with her two daughters is very strong and believes there are many effective ways of parenting in addition to the Chinese approach. Chua’s essay shows the Chinese immigrant approach to parenting and gives insight into why so many children of Chinese parents are so successful. Discussing the cultural differences shows the risk of stereotyping groups where feelings
The greatest principle is to maintain harmonious relationships with all. Therefore, the Asian culture, especially the Chinese society, stresses the cultural notion of training. Chinese parenting is often misunderstood because it is frequently viewed as restrictive, controlling and authoritarian. Chinese children are expected to have unquestionable obedience to parents. Chinese American parents maintain the concept of chiao shun, which means, “training”. The process of child rearing is to train a child through education and teachings. The reason why parents have an obligation to train their child is further explained in the scholarly journal, Beyond Parental Control and Authoritarian Parenting Style: Understanding Chinese Parenting through the Cultural Notion of Training, it is “To adhere to socially desirable and culturally approved behavior.”(Chao, 1994, pg. 1112) Child rearing/Training is done by exposing children to proper behavior and regulating exposure to unacceptable behavior. Training is not restricting, it is actually supportive, involves physical availability of parents, and fulfils a child's basic everyday needs. Mothers are usually the ones who create a close relationship with their child though. The other concept, guan is “to govern” but it also means “to care for/to love”. As a Chinese parent it is a social requirement to be able to govern one's child. The reason that a parent/teacher must have control over their kid is to teach them respect and allegiance. The standard of Chiao shun and guan are set in place and carried out by the Asian society and by Asian American parents. The main purpose of the misinterpreted Asian styles of parenting is not for utter dominance but instead for the integrity of the family and to sustain social